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DVardysShadow

j_j_mooney wrote: »

Just a quote from MSE on etiquette

"Sadly new posters seem to be treated harshly more often than they used to. Often it's because they ask questions that have already been asked, or post in the "wrong place".
There's also sometimes a "this is our board" attitude that seems to not want new posters coming in and ruining a pre-established clique.
To be utterly clear - both of these go against the philosophy of this site.
MoneySaving should be fun. Everyone using these boards is here for the same reason, to save money. The site's motto is "Please be nice to other MoneySavers". If you see someone being rude to newbies please report them to [EMAIL="forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com"]forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com[/EMAIL]."

This post is the first I've posted and I don't think I'll bother posting again. I was asking for advise at a very stressful and emotional time and the last thing I needed was a know it all being petty. DID YOU ACTUALLY READ MY POST. Don't bother replying i'll be deleting post my posts as i really can't be bothered with people like you. Get a life.

Indeed. You demand to be treated nicely as a newbie. You quote your rights. And then you are abusive. You can inflict as much of your stress as you like on anyone else. But then there is not a site rule that newbies need to be nice to anyone.

As for being petty, you should realise that regulars [I am talking of many people here] will spend significant amounts of time replying to and thinking about newbies problems. It is bloody frustrating to spend perhaps 20 minutes on something only to find that the newbie has crossposted and received substantially the same answer on the other thread an hour earlier. If you think that posting something to try to avoid that is being petty, from this side of the screen, it looks close on contempt for the efforts put in on attempting to help with peoples problems.

ruggedtoast

You can appeal to Santander until you are blue in the face, they still dont have to give you a loan.

Apply to another lender.

J_i_m

I think the lesson here, and I mean this in the nicest possible way to any forum member is to read through their reply before clicking "post".

I've often written things in a slightly short tone, read it through and decided against posting it because there was too much potential to be misunderstood and to prolong a pointless argument.

We all need to remember that forum etiquette works both ways.

dodger1

j_j_mooney wrote: »

Sorry I am new to the forum and to forums in general so I don't know the rules but I really don't appreciate your tone in the email. Calm down are you not supposed to be nice and helpful with new members RELAX

There was absolutely nothing wrong with DVardys post, it was to the point without shortness in the tone.

geoffky

Jim...i hope it works out for your parents but you really come across as a corn on the cob.