Property and Children

Angelicdevil

A prenup drawn up and signed should do the trick!

I'm female and I'd happily sign something that protects my OH's own interests as I would expect them to do the same for me!!!

I think women who think they are entitled to everything their ex has to offer are abhorrent! They give us all a bad name.

This probably won't help you but if anyone else is reading this thread and needs something similar, this is what my father did when he gave me the deposit money for my house:

He simply had a 2nd charge drawn up to protect the deposit money, so if a future partner felt they were entitled to 1/2 of the equity in my house (if there is any!) then that particular pot of money would be untouchable.

Good luck

P.S. not all women are money grabbing fools when it comes to separation.

Richard_Webster

OK things do go wrong in all sorts of situations. Apparently happy marriages do break up, etc.

However, if you are seriously worried about this happening then I don't think you should be having children.

If your commitment to each other is less than total then there are the seeds of a problem for the future. I would say that if you are seriously thinking like this then you should be seriously thinking about whether you should be together in the first place.

pmlindyloo

Richard_Webster wrote: »

OK things do go wrong in all sorts of situations. Apparently happy marriages do break up, etc.

However, if you are seriously worried about this happening then I don't think you should be having children.

If your commitment to each other is less than total then there are the seeds of a problem for the future. I would say that if you are seriously thinking like this then you should be seriously thinking about whether you should be together in the first place.

Well said - my thoughts entirely. :T

cd10

I know im getting a bit of 'flack' for this post but im not trying to get out of paying for my child if i was to have one. The reality is that i own 3 properties of which my partner has paid nothing into and i dont believe if the realationship was to go 'sour' that i should have to lose or split my properties after Ive worked so hard on my own to try and save for my own future. After being chased for every last penny from my ex partner im just looking for any advice on how to protect these properties. I would like to think we'll stay together for a long time but the truth is nothing lasts forever and i just want to safeguard myself and my future!!!!

Brallaqueen

When you have children, they trump considerations about your own future. You could always become the primary caregiver, keep the children in a divorce and as the children's futures come first, you would probably get favoured in any split

inmypocketnottheirs

Sounds to me that the properties are more important than the children. So if I were you I would stay single and keep your trousers on.

I do speak as someone that has both. And I know what is more important to me.

talulah25

Surely if your partner were to move in with you she would be contributing financially to the property you live in? Or she would be taking time off work for maternity leave/to be a stay at home mother, thus making you financially responsible for her and your child? So, in a way, you would be making the financial contributions on her behalf as she would be unable to?

Don't quite know how to word the above correctly, but what I'm trying to say is, when you have children with someone and live together there really isn't a practical way to keep your finances separate . So, unless you had a solicitor draw up an agreement prior to you co-habiting I would think it would be very difficult.

As a mother of 2, tbh I would be pretty annoyed if my partner asked me to sign something to say I had no legal recourse were we to separate, as I took time off work to give birth to and look after OUR children!