first home for 21 year old son HELP

escortg3

January20 wrote: »

I agree with that, plus he clearly can afford it if he will have about £100 left every week and he will be in control of the bills. He could end up sharing with people who leave the lights on all the time, or every appliance on standby, or who like to put the heating on very high.

OP, how long would the contract be? Could he try it for 6 months for instance and then review the situation?

ETA: I only have electricity in my 2 bed flat and it doesn't cost that much: around £50 per month.

He definately doesnt want to share.

The initial contract is 6 months and i have told him if it is too much or he doesnt like it then he can come home if he wants.

His reply was mum i am 21 not 10:)

He is a man now who works hard and knows what he wants:T

escortg3

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Eh, when that six month fixed-term ends he's be scuttling back home. I have no doubt about that.

In any case, sharing accommodation with other people your own age is character-forming stuff.

I would say that with only a hypothetical £100 a week left over after rent, C Tax , bills and fares are paid out there won't be enough for a half-decent single life. Unless you're an antisocial home-body who never needs new clothes or wants to go on holiday.

I think he will have a great single life like he has now.

He can have a great night out with £30.00 in his pocket. He only goes out drinking one night a week now living at home. He plays pool twice a week in a league with his mates and spends on two pints on each night.

So thats £40.00 per week socialising now and he could afford to do the same when he has his own place.

Every summer he works evenings and weekends for about a month helping on a farm and earns good money which he has used for the last 3 years for a lads holiday and that will be the same this year.

CH27

Has he got savings to furnish the flat?

lostinrates

fluffnutter wrote: »

He wants to live alone? I take your point about sharing costs, but there are some people who simply don't want to live with others. If they can afford not to do so, then that's great. There's a lot to be said for only having to clear up your own mess and not having to listen to your flatmates shagging all night.

While that's true, i am also positive that the time dh and i spent flat sharing rather than living alone or with family, was excellent preparation for relationship cohabitation.

DylanO

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Eh, when that six month fixed-term ends he's be scuttling back home. I have no doubt about that.

In any case, sharing accommodation with other people your own age is character-forming stuff.

I would say that with only a hypothetical £100 a week left over after rent, C Tax , bills and fares are paid out there won't be enough for a half-decent single life. Unless you're an antisocial home-body who never needs new clothes or wants to go on holiday.

You have your name already, you don't have to work so hard to keep up appearances.

loztredders

I'd say he can definitely afford to do it - so long as he's a bit careful with the Pennies of course.
I don't earn much more than that and my rent alone is 425pcm and then council tax and other bills on top of that and I cope just fine and can still afford a holiday etc.
I don't drink very often though anymore which is handy since when I had a flat share that's pretty much where all my money ended up!

Tuesday_Tenor

lostinrates wrote: »

While that's true, i am also positive that the time dh and i spent flat sharin rather than living alone or with family, was excellent preparatoon for relationship cohabitation.

There's wisdom here.

In my 50s I live alone, and like it. But I think the time I've spent living with others, as a student, as a working 20-something, in a long-term relationship, and occasionally having lodgers here, has been good for me. My sister left home at 17 and has always lived alone; initially in tiny bedsits, then her own flats. She's NEVER co-habited with anyone, on any basis. I realised this year that the reason she can be so difficult at times is that she has little sense of compromise or negotiation over everyday things.

Maybe she lives alone becuase she's like that; maybe she's like that because she lives alone. Who knows?

I wouldn't put your son off taking this flat now; I'm sure he needs his independence. But bear in mind (in general, in the future) what he might be missing out on.

escortg3

I thought i would upddate incase there was anyone else wondering whether they could manage to live on there own.

Well 21 year old son has been living on his own in his flat for 8 months now. He loves it.

The bills are better than expected. So from his £250.00 per week wages he pays out the following

£73.50 rent
£6.00 electricity (Low because of solar panel)
£3.03 Tv lisence
£1.00 per week contents insurance
£9.00 mobile phone
£16.00 council tax.
£5.00 water rates

Total bills
£113.53.

Spends £25.00 on food

Grand total of £138.53 per week.

This leaves him £111.47 for what ever he wants.

He still enjoys a social life and has a holiday a year and continues to save what he can each week.

Whoop i now have a money savey independant son.

dundeediva

Fab, well done to your son x

escortg3

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