Possibilty of a full time job.. but what about the kids??

tigzem

Hi - I've been thinking about returning to work PT to help pay off the debt, I don't think I'd go back FT as would miss her too much and her developing etc. Saying that if you can work FT and have them close it sounds a good thing. Only you can decide though what's best for you and your family. Let us know how it goes tomorrow xx

earwig

hi ia think long and hard before you make a decesion you mybe in the same room as your girls but they wouldnt be getting your full attension as you will have other children to look after as well aslo you will have to prove to other mums that you are not playing favourite with you children eg two babies need feeding at the same time and one of them is yours which one would you go to first touch choice because your heart will send you to your baby while your empolyers may want you to tend to the other baby first

as you said in your dairy time go so fast and it is not replacable so yes money is important but it is not the most important you can work full time again latter on when they are a bit bigger i know some mums have no choice but to do it and im glad that my oh earns enough so i dont have to work i made the choice that we wouldnt have the flash lifestyle just the basics so i could stay at home with my two my ds will be three in june and will start school in setember and i allready lose my dd for six hours a day to school

at the end of the day you have to make the choice but go for what your heart says not your head as that where the answer lies and what you end up living with i guess deep down you are not comfterble with going to work full time or you wouldnt be on here asking if its the right thing to do good luck with what you chose

inkie

IA - i personally think that you would be better off childminding - if you minded 2 children you would get more than £5.25/hr, plus you would be being paid to stay at home with your little ones.

wannasavemoney

Hi IA, I know how you feel. DS1 was 2 years old when DS2 was born and i was on at the 20 year point of a 22 year contract and had to grit my teeth and go back to work after 5.5 months of maternity leave to fulfil may contract otherwise i would have lost masses of money. DS1 had already been in full time nursery since the age of 6 months and then ds2 joined him at the age of 5.5 months (i worked right up to the end of pregnancy so that i could spend the time with them before having to go back to work). I would say that it was definitely worth it for the last 2 years of my contract because the benefits far outweighed the minus points. You are lucky that you will still be in the same building as them and be able to spend some time with them, most working mums don't get that. Try it and see how it goes, unlike me, you won't be on a contract and if it doesnt work out then put your notice in! One word of warning tho. Looking after two preschool children, running a home and having a full time career is no mean feat. I was lucky that i only had to do it for 2 years - that was enough. Maybe you could do it for just 2 years and use the extra money to become more financially stable and then you will have a choice as to whether to become a sahm or maybe even go part time at that stage? Just a few options to mull over. Good luck with whatever you decide.

sanfrancisco

From what I can make out you have around £4/5k of debt - is that right?

You will earn £11k a year (approx £8k after tax), and the cost of the childcare would be cancelled out by WTC/CTC. Hopefully this is all right (approx).

If I were you I would go and work for 1 year. Save every penny, pay off al debts. Build up £3k buffer. Stop work. Then I would return to work when LO in 4/5. You will then have no debts and be totally stress free!!!

pippo

Hi, Startef out thinking go for it girl, my Ds was looked after from 6 months & seems a very rounded individual because of it. (He was 33 yesterday!!). I still work & do quite nicely thank you, in child care! However there is a rider, I know you will know your babes are looked after well where you work, but can you really do a professional job with all of of the little ones if you are looking after your own at the same time?? I couldn't.

My advice, for what it's worth' is consider registering as a child minder. You'll get your CRB (which you would need for nursery work) may need to investa £100 for stairgates etc to ensure your own house is safe & then you are your own boss.

Goodluck what ever you decide.:A

Fizog

Since you will be working at the nursery, you won't be away from your little ones. Different if you had to dump and run from 8.00am to 6pm at night. Then I'd say no don't because you will see so little of them and they are little for such a short time.
I know some people have to work - but often people refuse to lose the holidays, the clothes, the beauty appts. the gym membership, the new car every 3 years, the expensive Xmas's. I get the vibe that anyone posting on this site is not in that catagory!
You can only try it, if it is too much then leave. I worked in a nursery with my sons and it was fine, though when they went to school I had to leave as I found I needed an awful lot energy to cope with my two after dealing with temperamental toddlers all day, it also wasn't worth working as the childminding fees pre and after school meant I was earning v.little. I now work with teenagers in a school much easier.

in*the*red_6

inkie wrote:

IA - i personally think that you would be better off childminding - if you minded 2 children you would get more than £5.25/hr, plus you would be being paid to stay at home with your little ones.

If the OP has two children under 5 of her own, she would only be allowed to childmind for one other under 5.

themaccas

Hi IA, I work part time (28.5 hours) and work very irregular shifts. I therefore have to pay for far more child care than I need for example I pay for fullday nursery mon-thurs, yet this week I am working Wed, Thur and Sunday. I never really know what to do about the days I am paying for if I am not working and sometimes he still goes and sometimes he stays at home. We also have 2 children at boarding school and that is a whole different can of worms regarding my emotions.

I never feel qualified to comment on things like this really, I have always worked after I have had my children and that has been right for me and my sanity. I hope you find what is right for you whether this job or something else.
hugs

immoral_angeluk

lennymfo wrote:

Cheers I-A and I apologise for jumping on your thread! I did a qualifying claim and it said £117. Is that weekly? Sorrrrrrryyyyyyyyyy

Yes it is Lenny. Don't worry abotu jumping on my thread.. lol. You're always welcome!


thanks everyone for all your advice. They still haven't called so you never know I may not even get an interview! lol!
We'll see what happens I guess!