Monday 26th March - What small DFW things will you do today?!

Yargo1

Hi all
Well gone back to work although still sneezing, runny nose etc- but much better than was - and was very bored at home!

Not good when u have loads of things that could be done - but u don't feel well enough to do any of them!

Never mind- back to the grindstone! Lol

Hope u ok perni?

Hugs to all that need them xx

Pernicious

Thanks for all your kind wishes, I'm stressed because we had a meeting with the wedding venue yesterday & they dropped a huge bombshell on us!

With just over 3 months to go, their building work is behind schedule so they have nowhere to store the tables & chairs they were going to buy, so they are going to have to hire them instead, apparently this cost is being passed onto us!!! :eek:

Not only that, but the wines on offer for the table are going to be the max £12 a bottle (we were quoted £8-12 a bottle) & yet you can buy them in a supermarket for around half the cost, so when they buy them wholesale we will be paying over double the cost, that's a huge profit margin! I expected to pay more than cost but that is daylight robbery

Worse still, their "bar" will include the wines as available on the table, a cask ale, Stella in cans (which they will pour into plastic glasses), Old Speckled Hen, & Bulmers/Magners. That's not a bar to me, where are the spirits? No other choice of lager?! She said she'd look into spirits...but it's not confirmed that there will be any.

These are the worst offenders we're also now being told if the heaters for the marquee are required, we have to cover the cost of the diesel, there was no table for the cake or cards/gifts except what was essentially patio furniture on a central base (not sturdy enough for my cake thanks!), the building work is waaaaay past their estimations, we could only see 1 toilet available for use (we have 120 evening guests!) & I have just lost all confidence in them.

They haven't been doing weddings for long but I was under the impression they'd done at least 20 now, so this should not be happening, it all seems so unprofessional for the amount we are paying.

I tried to call her today to speak to her about it but was asked to email.

I feel sick to my stomach the wedding isn't even going to go ahead as planned now as it sounds like a disaster! :(:(

Sorry for the rant.....feels slightly better to get it out though!

determined_new_ms

Pernicious wrote: »

Thanks for all your kind wishes, I'm stressed because we had a meeting with the wedding venue yesterday & they dropped a huge bombshell on us!

With just over 3 months to go, their building work is behind schedule so they have nowhere to store the tables & chairs they were going to buy, so they are going to have to hire them instead, apparently this cost is being passed onto us!!! :eek:

Not only that, but the wines on offer for the table are going to be the max £12 a bottle (we were quoted £8-12 a bottle) & yet you can buy them in a supermarket for around half the cost, so when they buy them wholesale we will be paying over double the cost, that's a huge profit margin! I expected to pay more than cost but that is daylight robbery

Worse still, their "bar" will include the wines as available on the table, a cask ale, Stella in cans (which they will pour into plastic glasses), Old Speckled Hen, & Bulmers/Magners. That's not a bar to me, where are the spirits? No other choice of lager?! She said she'd look into spirits...but it's not confirmed that there will be any.

These are the worst offenders we're also now being told if the heaters for the marquee are required, we have to cover the cost of the diesel, there was no table for the cake or cards/gifts except what was essentially patio furniture on a central base (not sturdy enough for my cake thanks!), the building work is waaaaay past their estimations, we could only see 1 toilet available for use (we have 120 evening guests!) & I have just lost all confidence in them.

They haven't been doing weddings for long but I was under the impression they'd done at least 20 now, so this should not be happening, it all seems so unprofessional for the amount we are paying.

I tried to call her today to speak to her about it but was asked to email.

I feel sick to my stomach the wedding isn't even going to go ahead as planned now as it sounds like a disaster! :(:(

Sorry for the rant.....feels slightly better to get it out though!

its easy for me to say I know. But try not to get too stressed about it. It will all work out for the best, I promise x

AMILLIONDOLLARS

Checked Bank
Paid extra £100 off CITI credit card:eek:
Hung out washing


AMD

AMILLIONDOLLARS

Pernicious wrote: »

Thanks for all your kind wishes, I'm stressed because we had a meeting with the wedding venue yesterday & they dropped a huge bombshell on us!

With just over 3 months to go, their building work is behind schedule so they have nowhere to store the tables & chairs they were going to buy, so they are going to have to hire them instead, apparently this cost is being passed onto us!!! :eek:

Not only that, but the wines on offer for the table are going to be the max £12 a bottle (we were quoted £8-12 a bottle) & yet you can buy them in a supermarket for around half the cost, so when they buy them wholesale we will be paying over double the cost, that's a huge profit margin! I expected to pay more than cost but that is daylight robbery

Worse still, their "bar" will include the wines as available on the table, a cask ale, Stella in cans (which they will pour into plastic glasses), Old Speckled Hen, & Bulmers/Magners. That's not a bar to me, where are the spirits? No other choice of lager?! She said she'd look into spirits...but it's not confirmed that there will be any.

These are the worst offenders we're also now being told if the heaters for the marquee are required, we have to cover the cost of the diesel, there was no table for the cake or cards/gifts except what was essentially patio furniture on a central base (not sturdy enough for my cake thanks!), the building work is waaaaay past their estimations, we could only see 1 toilet available for use (we have 120 evening guests!) & I have just lost all confidence in them.

They haven't been doing weddings for long but I was under the impression they'd done at least 20 now, so this should not be happening, it all seems so unprofessional for the amount we are paying.

I tried to call her today to speak to her about it but was asked to email.

I feel sick to my stomach the wedding isn't even going to go ahead as planned now as it sounds like a disaster! :(:(

Sorry for the rant.....feels slightly better to get it out though!

If the invites have not gone out, what about looking for another venue? As its their responsibility to provide the tables for the wedding it not your fault for their delayed building work, I would argue with them that they should cover the cost of hire or at least split the cost fifty fifty stand firm on this. Sounds like you are being ripped off by this company so you're within your rights to cancel as they will not have been seen to fufill their side of the contract.

AMD

Barbeduk

Yikes Perni that sounds like a nightmare. Would it be a good idea to send a letter detailing your concerns/complaints? I always find I can say things in writing that I would be too scared (!!:o) to say verbally.

Had a lovely weekend in the sun. Cut DH and DS hair, had a great day out with a picnic and flask and a managed my first ever fleabay sale!

Today I have:

• Posted eBay parcel.
• Checked bank accounts which was not uplifting I have to say!:eek:
• Packed lunches x 3
• All other meals from stores.
• Washing on line.
• NO WINE, although did feel like I needed a glass after seeing bank accounts!!

Enjoy your evening everyone.:D

Edit: dog to vets, £72. Does it ever end!! So no wine but a large g&t for emergency purposes!

ziggy2407

brednall wrote: »

Morning to all.

Ziggy2407 - can I ask what work you do for 2 hours a day - sounds ideal for me.

Hi

I work in the school kitchen - something Ive never ever done before, mainly washing lots of pots and pans, cleaning, serving food, the 2 hours rush by and its over before you know it, lol. I only started in Feb but thought I'd be silly to not take the opportunity as I only live 5 mins from school, its my sons school and is term-time - so WIN WIN WIN

ziggy2407

Pernicious wrote: »

Thanks for all your kind wishes, I'm stressed because we had a meeting with the wedding venue yesterday & they dropped a huge bombshell on us!

With just over 3 months to go, their building work is behind schedule so they have nowhere to store the tables & chairs they were going to buy, so they are going to have to hire them instead, apparently this cost is being passed onto us!!! :eek:

Not only that, but the wines on offer for the table are going to be the max £12 a bottle (we were quoted £8-12 a bottle) & yet you can buy them in a supermarket for around half the cost, so when they buy them wholesale we will be paying over double the cost, that's a huge profit margin! I expected to pay more than cost but that is daylight robbery

Worse still, their "bar" will include the wines as available on the table, a cask ale, Stella in cans (which they will pour into plastic glasses), Old Speckled Hen, & Bulmers/Magners. That's not a bar to me, where are the spirits? No other choice of lager?! She said she'd look into spirits...but it's not confirmed that there will be any.

These are the worst offenders we're also now being told if the heaters for the marquee are required, we have to cover the cost of the diesel, there was no table for the cake or cards/gifts except what was essentially patio furniture on a central base (not sturdy enough for my cake thanks!), the building work is waaaaay past their estimations, we could only see 1 toilet available for use (we have 120 evening guests!) & I have just lost all confidence in them.

They haven't been doing weddings for long but I was under the impression they'd done at least 20 now, so this should not be happening, it all seems so unprofessional for the amount we are paying.

I tried to call her today to speak to her about it but was asked to email.

I feel sick to my stomach the wedding isn't even going to go ahead as planned now as it sounds like a disaster! :(:(

Sorry for the rant.....feels slightly better to get it out though!

Sending you massive hugs and lots and lots of good-luck vibes - hope you can get this sorted without too much stress

bt1

bt1 wrote: »

Morning you two! Hope your feeling better Perni!

It's lovely out this morning! Hopefully this nice weather will continue!

I did nothing this weekend, spent the whole weekend chilling at home (think I needed it!)

List for today:

- check bank
- PAD
- lunch from home
- drink lots of water
- study if I have time tonight
- stay in at lunch

Perni - I would definately complain/talk to them again, surely they cant pass the cost onto you!!! At worst you could share the cost! I'm sure it will all get sorted!!! fingers crossed for you!!

Update!

Had a sucessfullish day today!

- check bank - bank now has £0 in it!! Payday on wednesday so i moved my remaining few pounds into my savings account
- PAD - paid £10 off a CC - hoping to tackle this one next month!
- lunch from home - done!
- drink lots of water - done (about 2L at work today!)
- study if I have time tonight - doing a bit now, V tired so will probs head off to bed in a bit!
- stay in at lunch - i went out and bought a few bits on my boots card so technically no spending!

Pernicious

determined_new_ms wrote: »

its easy for me to say I know. But try not to get too stressed about it. It will all work out for the best, I promise x

Thanks hun, I'm trying to stay positive but it's all a bit much now, not what I need with 3 months to go & I was just about to do the invitations!

AMILLIONDOLLARS wrote: »

If the invites have not gone out, what about looking for another venue? As its their responsibility to provide the tables for the wedding it not your fault for their delayed building work, I would argue with them that they should cover the cost of hire or at least split the cost fifty fifty stand firm on this. Sounds like you are being ripped off by this company so you're within your rights to cancel as they will not have been seen to fufill their side of the contract.

AMD

We've thought of this, the trouble is the places we liked were out of our price range, & at this late stage I don't think we'd find anything we liked & could afford at such short notice when we're planning on getting married on 30th June (peak season).

Barbeduk wrote: »

Yikes Perni that sounds like a nightmare. Would it be a good idea to send a letter detailing your concerns/complaints? I always find I can say things in writing that I would be too scared (!!:o) to say verbally.

Email sent with all concerns politely worded...hoping for the best now & a super quick response so I can either continue with the invitations as planned, or make up a Plan B pronto!!!