How much money can Children's Services expect you to spend?

Adela31

Should try living it love Communication isnt this SW's strong point.

Oh another concern that she has raised it the boys Birthday. She is concerned that instead of a party inviting kids from school that we are instead having a joint party for all 4 cousins and having a family do.

puddy

have you been to a child protection conference yet?

if so you will have been given sight of a long report which would have detailed all the concerns and things that can be built on to explain what the problems are

you may also have received a copy of your child's initial and core assessments (if these have been completed yet), please ask your social worker for any copies of reports (you may not be able to keep the conference report it depends on the policy)

its unlikely a specific request for a new sofa or carpet would be made unless these were causing specific harm to the child (like springs poking out of the sofa or covered in excrement etc)

the social worker may simply have made a comment about the size of the kitchen, its not a criticism necessarily its simply a statement about where the children socialise and play whilst at home

was it also a comment about how much room is in the kitchen due to clutter, rather than the size of the room per se?

emsywoo123

Adela31 wrote: »

Should try living it love Communication isnt this SW's strong point.

Oh another concern that she has raised it the boys Birthday. She is concerned that instead of a party inviting kids from school that we are instead having a joint party for all 4 cousins and having a family do.

Well ask her?

shegirl

Adela31 wrote: »

Should try living it love Communication isnt this SW's strong point.

Oh another concern that she has raised it the boys Birthday. She is concerned that instead of a party inviting kids from school that we are instead having a joint party for all 4 cousins and having a family do.

Sorry,but these won't be the reasons for wanting the kids to go on the child protection register.However,she may be wondering why there will be no kids from school invited and may be suggesting opening up social avenues and wondering if the kids are being given the social opportunities they need?

Maybe she just feels your son should have his own celebration with his friends as that would be nice for him and good for him.Rather than thinking 'omg let's get the kids on the register because there will be a family birthday party'

patchwork_cat

I am finding this thread very hard to understand. You say that the SW has communication problems, I would hazard a guess that it is both ways as I feel that you are finding it hard to communicate with us.

Contact the social worker and ask why your children are on the child protection register. You have family locally I believe can you ask them for some support?

princessdreamer

Right I am hazarding a guess here but I would think the kids are on the at risk for emotional abuse list rather than the in danger list. This is a catch all one so they can investigate things further after their allotted time scale runs out.
You need to get an advocate or outside support t help with the communication problems as when you have your guard up you may miss or misinterpret what has been said. No-one expects everything to be perfect or t be done at once.

If the house is an issue you need to get it clean ASAP, get rid of junk. Try going one room or one corner of a room at a time. I know it may seem an impossible task especially when you are very low to start with. Try to get help from friends and family.

puddy

Adela31 wrote: »

Should try living it love Communication isnt this SW's strong point.

Oh another concern that she has raised it the boys Birthday. She is concerned that instead of a party inviting kids from school that we are instead having a joint party for all 4 cousins and having a family do.

to answer your edit - what exactly did the sw say? did she ask who was coming to the party, she may have been trying to assess how the children socialise outside of the family unit/environment, she may have been trying to ascertain where and how the children make friends or she may have been concerned if for example the nature of the concerns are focused on these children being isolated from wider society

but as you havent said exactly what is going on, its hard to advise you

for the poster who talks of 'emotional abuse' being used as a 'catch all term' this is nonsense. it is incredibly hard to determine (or get professionals to acknowledge) emotional abuse and unfortunately children who are subject to emotional harm often fall through the net

there is no 'allotted time scale' before children have to be put in a category, its not like being arrested and then charged with a crime, there are timescales for assessments and reports to be completed and timescales for conferences to be held but they are internal, it has nothing to do with how a situation is categorised

POPPYOSCAR

princessdreamer wrote: »

Right I am hazarding a guess here but I would think the kids are on the at risk for emotional abuse list rather than the in danger list. This is a catch all one so they can investigate things further after their allotted time scale runs out.
You need to get an advocate or outside support t help with the communication problems as when you have your guard up you may miss or misinterpret what has been said. No-one expects everything to be perfect or t be done at once.

If the house is an issue you need to get it clean ASAP, get rid of junk. Try going one room or one corner of a room at a time. I know it may seem an impossible task especially when you are very low to start with. Try to get help from friends and family.

These are two very good points.

Perhaps MIND may be able to help and advise you.

Adela31

The children are not yet on any registers. There have been no reports completed or panels organised. Mind were the ones who put me forward to the social workers.

(And EWWW to the excrement covered sofa idea! It had removable covers that I had two of, there was a fresh one on the day she came (some standards!) and didnt have springs as such, not ones that could poke out (was only a wee ikea thing)

I have no family locally, no one. I had already booked the trip for the boys birthday back home when she sugested it was the wrong thing to do. Maybe a second birthday party would be an idea, a local one. Hmm

shegirl

How many home visits have you had and what are their plans?What type of social worker?

I think it may be worth you talking to them to find out what their actual concerns are and what they are planning as,from what you've written,there seems to be some confusion over it.