Should be happy with our lot, but we're not.

teb_2

cheers everyone. just having a bad night i suppose. thanks for the thoughts and the suggestions, and big sloppy kisses to everyone in the same boat!

(or maybe not sloppy as such....dont do sloppy as a rule )

Lyndsay_21

know how you feel sort of but in a smaller scale sick of living in this s****y 'housing association' flat areas ok but 2 flights up with 2 kids no real garden is really getting me down now been here 4 years now and just want to get out into a place with a garden.
wish we could afford to buy but with house prices starting at 200k for a decent property we've no chance in hell, just have to wait to be moved!

benood

Have you thought that quite likely the people who live in the house you'd like to move to are feeling unhappy with their lot, likewise there's probably others who feel that all would be well if only they could be in your shoes.

Don't know if that thought actually helps but it's I guess a symptom of the consumer society, try not to play by the rules, ignore the Jones', change the game.

teb_2

yeah benood, see your point but we never had a 'jones' thought in our heads, we just wanted to move for peace, not to get more than what we've got now, so maybe not so consumerish?

anyway, better today. last night was just a bad blip i think.

i wish everyone who replied on this thread and who are fed up with their lot too........................good luck on the lottery.

(mind you, i'd need to actually start doing it :rolleyes: )

:beer:

kal25

happygal wrote:

Seriously considering renting out house. Not even bothered about property ladder thing rather be happy! But we have 3 children, 2 cats and a rabbit, think I may have problems finding a landlord - even though we would be good tennants.

There are some that don't mind pets, it's worth just looking and keeping an eye open in estate agents/papers/internet. My mum had to move due to divorce and decided against buying, she did find it a little difficult due to having dog (one estate agent even suggested getting rid of the dog:eek: ).
However, she has found somewhere and as someone else pointed out, she is allowed to do what she wants to the property (as long as it doesn't devalue it).
You say you can't be bothered to do the things that need to be done, it might be worth thinking that if these things are done your house may be more sellable?
Glad your feeling a little better this morning.

Justie

teb I think everyone goes through phases when they feel like that

one solution may be to act as though you're moving and sort out the things that need doing to the house - that way if your situation changes you'll be ready to go and if it doesn't you'll get the benefits of having sorted the house out. I can't count the number of people I know who do work on their house to sell it then say oh I wish we'd done that 5 years ago so we could have enjoyed it...
If you like where you live inside then it at least makes the outside stuff more bearable.

And if it all gets too much then what about relocating and starting somewhere completely new. Whole other set of stresses but can be really life affirming.

*Sparkle*_3

I think when your in a situation like that you need to make sacrifices,if you want to get out of there.
You said you cant downsize how about moving somewhere else that's cheaper, although it might be out of the way it might be the sacrifice you need to make to be happier.
I can sympathise with your with regards to area, i have a lovely little ground floor flat and all my neighbours in my block own their flats and are really nice but the rest of the area isnt so good.

kathyd_2

I guess we should really be happy with our lot. I'm in a similar situation, but live in a great area, lovely house, smashing neighbours. Although I have a nice home and just the way we want it, it is just too small now. Every inch has something stashed away; tops of wardrobes, under beds; can hardly get in the garage for stuff (not junk, stuff we actually use). I have one 24 year old son at home a 21 year old daughter coming back home in the summer after she graduates from uni (with all her stuff from her house - help!!!!). If newspaper reports are anything to go by it would seem our children will be with us for many years to come - mine certainly can't afford homes of their own at the moment. We have recently been to see some larger properties but to be honest they need so much doing to them it would take us waaaaayyyyyy over our budget. How can people put houses on the market in such a bad state?

At the moment I'm trying to sort stuff out so the house doesn't look cramped when we put it on the market, but I'm fighting a losing battle. It's just getting shifted from one room to the other :rotfl:

I like Justie's idea though.

thriftmummy

I think everyone wants better than what they've got no matter what size house they've got. We've got a small 2 bed house, but we only intend on having one child, so it's adequate for us. I always imagined that we would be in our dream house by now but I think the housing market has smashed that dream. I don't see how we could ever afford a bigger house the price of houses now.

On the plus size, I think my house is exactly how I want it as we gutted it a few years ago, the local school is a 30 second walk. If I had a bigger house I'd spend all my time having to clean the extra rooms and working more hours just to feed my huge greedy mortgage - no thanks I'll stick with my 2 up 2 down!

juliaw

If you don't like it in your house you have my sympathy, and it sounds as if you have everyone else's too.

It is OK to feel bad if things don't go well for you. You shouldn't feel guilty about not feeling grateful for what you have.

And thank goodness MSEs don't preach about counting your blessings.