Struggling to repay after benefit fraud

shearersWAG

I am completely in agreement that she's just being plain stupid now. I have passed on the advice that has been given about all of the points raised in my original post, and that's where I'll leave it - the ball is in her court, she's been helped with information and advice and it's now up to her. I'm not getting any more involved, certainly not handling phone calls or paperwork.
And if she ever asks me for money, she'll never get it because I'll die laughing before I give her a penny. I'm a friend, but I'm not stupid
Thanks again for all the advice in a rather controversial matter x

Elvisia

I'm not going to be able to offer advice but I would strongly suggest (it seems as though you're doing this anyway) that you point her in the right direction (CCCS, CAB etc), and let her sort it out herself. Sadly you are enabling her behaviour by helping her; I'm all for looking after people when they're in trouble but it seems rather as though she doesn't take responsibility for her actions. Also the professionals will be able to give her the correct answer, it's always best to talk to them rather than friends or try to get advice, also you don't want her coming back and saying "but you TOLD me to so this!". I have a friend like this who asks me to do stuff or advise on stuff, then when it doesn't work out or she doesn't like it the fault is passed onto me.

Although in all fairness I would be so tempted to nose into someone else's financial mess, makes me feel better about myself!!

Anubis_2

Elvisia wrote: »

I'm not going to be able to offer advice but I would strongly suggest (it seems as though you're doing this anyway) that you point her in the right direction (CCCS, CAB etc), and let her sort it out herself. Sadly you are enabling her behaviour by helping her; I'm all for looking after people when they're in trouble but it seems rather as though she doesn't take responsibility for her actions. Also the professionals will be able to give her the correct answer, it's always best to talk to them rather than friends or try to get advice, also you don't want her coming back and saying "but you TOLD me to so this!". I have a friend like this who asks me to do stuff or advise on stuff, then when it doesn't work out or she doesn't like it the fault is passed onto me.

Although in all fairness I would be so tempted to nose into someone else's financial mess, makes me feel better about myself!!

That is the exact reason why, when I am giving advice to a friend who wants my opinion, I always state "At the end of the day the decision is yours, and one only you can make, but if it was me I would...........................do it this way, but, as I said, it has to be your own decision."