Wedding Ring : Engagement Ring cost ratio

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seems a resonable amount to me, it just depends on what she likes when out shopping,, i was proposed to the other week and when we went shopping i fell inlove with one that cost £250 but it was a second hand one and they wouldnt resize it so small to fit my finger as the stones would have come out or something so we carried on looking and eventually found another one i fell in love with so glad the first one didnt fit but this one was reduced to £899 although on insurance value i was told to put it at £1600, its a really unusal ring and i love it. i definatley think a girl should be able to shop for her a ring unless you are absolutley cetain of her taste, but i would have liked the idea of him getting a cheapy ring to propose with.
good luck anyway and congrats in advance

Sarahsaver

My engagement ring was approx 1/3 more than my wedding ring.
The wedding ring was hand made though.

Dee140157

I recently got engaged ( Christmas Eve) . My fiance has been very strapped for cash and with some work, we have managed to resolve debts and get him back on an even keel. To such an end, I did not feel it was right to spend a vast amount of money on an engagement ring. Having said that, we were open minded when we went shopping. The one I fell in love with was in the sale reduced by £50 and i had a 10% voucher for that shop! So my ring only cost £225 in the end. And I love it. By the way, I would have never let him chose the ring by himself. Even ones I liked did not always look good on!

I am marrying my fiance because I love him, not for the size of the rock on my finger. If he couldn't have afforded a ring, then I would quite happily have done without. Do not feel pressured into spending more than you can happily afford. Weddings can put a huge financial strain on a couple at a time when you need to think about the future. Do what you feel comfortable with. Above all be happy.

moosetastic

personally, I think cost shouldn't even come into this decision. You are asking the woman you love to marry you, do you need to pay £600 for a ring for her to say yes? True love costs nothing. Its not the ring that counts, its what it symbolises surely?

when my hubby proposed to me, it swept me off my feet and I didn't care what the ring looked like at all. he chose it and i feel very proud to wear it

Our wedding rings are white gold and from Argos, they are lovely, good quality and only cost £60 each. When the wedding comes around, you will need £600 to spend on other things, believe me!

What I am trying to say is it shouldnt matter how much these things cost. If you love each other and want to be married then money should never be a factor anyway. You have each other and that is more valuable

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yes that all goes without saying anyway, but some of us do love to shop and if you can afford it then why not.

Sarahsaver

I was initially terrified to wear mine (engagement) , it was last winter when I got it and i kept my gloves on. It was 1.5k :eek: It is platinum. I have never worn anything so expensive and am unlikely to do so in the future!

I thought the 'rule' was a month's wages, but don't let convention dicatate to you. A decent mixture of whats in your heart and common sense should do;)

basill

Not entirely traditional, but once I had proposed we took a day out in London and my betrothed chose her ring in Hatton Garden.
I must say I would not dare choose jewellry for a lady, the danger of getting it wrong is just too high!!

Recently the idea of an eternity ring came up (birds/shiny stuff?!?!?) once again she chose I paid. (that at least is trad)
Incidentally we are still engaged after 18 years, one day there will be a wedding band between those two. Guess who will choose hers.

I choose my watches she does the rings, everyone stays happy!


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showtunesgirl

I chose my engagement ring after a very romantic proposal in Florence. :happyhear We looked for about a month until we found the right ring and in true moneysavingexpert style, we used our Tesco Clubcard vouchers as part of the payment for it! Tesco's Clubcard vouchers have a four times redeemable value at Goldsmiths jewellers. You can find details of this on the Tesco's website. So in our case £10 of vouchers became £40!

However, we ordered the ring in October and it is only just this week that we finally got the ring and the one I am wearing is our FIFTH ring! The jewellers kept getting the ring wrong and in the end we had to complain to Head Office who swiftly arranged things for us. Just goes to show that if at first you don't get what you want, COMPLAIN! We only stuck with it as it was def the right ring!

One of the main reasons why we complained is that on several occasions, they tried to sell us a ring that clearly had a lower gradient of diamond than what my fiance paid for. Please do check that you get what you pay for! There are a lot of websites as well that will try to use the proper terminology but will twist it so that if you don't know what they are talking about, you will get taken in. For instance, the other day I saw a website that said that they sold I1 diamonds which meant: very sparkly! Absolute rubbish. I1 is the first gradient of diamonds that are unacceptable for use in engagement rings as they have clear inclusions that you can see with the naked eye!

As for spending £600, just pay for what you can afford. If anything it was my fiance that said get what you like but it was me who was holding back as I don't love him for the rocks that he can give me! I DO know girls who are like that, but frankly I don't think they are the kind of girls that are worth spending your life with! Good luck and let us know how you get on!

alice's_mum

To be honest my engagement ring was bought after OH proposed, we both went shopping and I got to pick, he told me how much he had to spend, so there was no chance of me going for something flash... I ended up getting mine from an antique jewellery shop, it cost £165 in 1991, it's 18k gold diamond and emerald. My wedding ring was my grans so cost us nothing.

Redbedhead

1) The engagement ring is generally the fancy one with the rock on it, and the wedding ring is the more plain one. TRUE

2) Engagement ring is the more expensive one? TRUE

3) My girlfriend likes everything wedding related to be traditional. Does the bloke traditionally choose both rings? Traditionally he would pick the engagement ring, but I think people are increasingly ignoring tradition and buying it together. It is something she should be wearing for a long time and a lot of money if you are not sure if she will like it or if it will fit.

4) Do blokes get 2 rings as well? No.
I think I generally only see blokes wearing one. Is that the wedding ring or the engagement ring? Wedding. I got my H an engagement pressie of a watch.

5) So IF £600 is an acceptable amount for the engagement ring, what is an acceptable amount for the wedding ring? It is entirely up to the individual. My wedding ring was about 1/6th of the cost of my engagement ring. I wanted a plain heavy weight platinum band and searched around to get the best price. As it was my H's wedding ring was nearly £800 but he really loved it and as it will be the only piece of jewellery he wears I didn't mind spending that. I think traditionally you each buy the other persons wedding ring.

I am another that helped pick my engagement ring and am glad I did as I wear it every day so needed something comfortable, where I wasn't going to catch it on things when I wore it.