Ring for proposal?

minerva_windsong

If you're confident of what she'd like and her size I'd take the plunge and get it before the proposal.

trying_2_b_good

Congratulations!! My husband had the ring and I love it. However, I'd be very open to being proposed to one morning and then going shopping together!

Saying that, then I'd be worried about falling in love with a ring that was over budget, or that fiancee wouldn't like. And I don't think I'd ever actually be able to choose as I'm so indecisive! Sometimes I guess it's best to only have one option...! Also, I'm not sure I'm keen on knowing how much it cost...that's not a conversation we've had. Although would have done if it was a massive rock and needed insuring!

Good luck & please come back with proposal story!

RainbowDrops

trying_2_b_good wrote: »

C And I don't think I'd ever actually be able to choose as I'm so indecisive!

Haha, me too, I'd have taken forever to choose & probs would've gone for something much cheaper as I wouldn't want to be greedy!

AllyS

When my OH proposes I want him to do it traditionally and have the ring with him when he does it, but there are alternatives.

An idea I thought of is, is to propose with Haribo ring or similar, but then make sure that you have already set a date for ring shopping take her, let her narrow it down to 3 or 4 and then you pick the final ring, so it is still be a surprise

Lucky girl, hope it all goes well

VfM4meplse

Good luck with whatever method you choose, there is one thing that fascinates me though:

claretmatt wrote: »

I have received parental blessing and am planning to propose

I really hope for your sake that this fits in with your OH's view of the world. This would be a deallbreaker for me - I take exception to the idea that a woman should go from being her father's possession to her husband's (esp if she doesn't have a close relationship with her family).

Idiophreak

VfM4meplse wrote: »

I really hope for your sake that this fits in with your OH's view of the world. This would be a deallbreaker for me - I take exception to the idea that a woman should go from being her father's possession to her husband's (esp if she doesn't have a close relationship with her family).

Again, I think a man should know whether or not his girlfriend would appreciate this or not.

Personally, I found it a really positive experience. I was quite terrified by it, as I've not always seen eye to eye with her dad, so it took me ages to work up to asking the question (it was much harder than the actual proposal), but once I did it, it was really nice. He shook my hand, told me a couple of stories about when he proposed.

The downside, of course, was that as soon as I'd left he texted my OH to congratulate her. :wall::wall::wall: Thankfully the text was vague enough that we were able to hastily put a cover story together.

I have to say, though, it was never about "asking permission" as such and certainly nothing about "ownership" or "possession". It's just a tradition and a sign of respect.

In any case, I made sure to say "we'd appreciate your blessing", not "can we have your blessing" just in case.

Brighton_belle

Idiophreak wrote: »

I have to say, though, it was never about "asking permission" as such and certainly nothing about "ownership" or "possession". It's just a tradition and a sign of respect.

I see it the same way. My DH asked my dad in front of me (the day after privately asking me) and it was a wonderful moment I will never forget and full of fun and love and appreciation of my dad.

74jax

AllyS wrote: »

An idea I thought of is, is to propose with Haribo ring or similar, but then make sure that you have already set a date for ring shopping take her, let her narrow it down to 3 or 4 and then you pick the final ring, so it is still be a surprise

Lucky girl, hope it all goes well

This is similar to my proposal. OH proposed with a cornetto, then we designed two rings together and he picked one so i didn't know which I was getting :T

trying_2_b_good

VfM4meplse wrote: »

Good luck with whatever method you choose, there is one thing that fascinates me though:I really hope for your sake that this fits in with your OH's view of the world. This would be a deallbreaker for me - I take exception to the idea that a woman should go from being her father's possession to her husband's (esp if she doesn't have a close relationship with her family).

Yet I know girls who would be devastated if he asked her before asking her father! As Idiophreak said - OP should know her well enough.

I think it's very sweet as takes a lot of guts to do it!

Beulah

I would rather choose a ring, but I have very specific ideas about what I like.