Abandoning ASDA

bornintoit

judeee wrote: »

Ugh! I'm a single parent, my Dad died four years ago after an accident, my Mam is housebound with two bad hips and my brothers live miles away. Some people really do have no choice!

As for Asda, I dislike the shop more and more. Unfortunately I have no transport and it's the only supermarket in our town. I noticed all the packs of pre-prepared veg and soup packs, stew packs etc. I don't need to pay somebody to chop it all up for me when I'm quite capable of chopping it myself!

Ugh? No friends that would look after your child for an hour? Ok so you have no choice but I do have a valid point even just looking at the posts on here people get annoyed by children in supermarkets and would rather young children were not taken food shopping. Food shopping and children just do not mix, the children get bored thats why they tend to play up (food shopping is tedious enough for adults let alone children) and everyone else including the parents then have to deal with it when the children start to screech all round the shop or go running off. If I had to take my son there would also be the problem of his buggie as I don't drive, the aisles aren't big enough for the trolleys half the time never mind buggies as well.

I guess my son's just lucky he doesn't have to get dragged round the supermarket and I'm lucky that I don't have to annoy the hell out of other shoppers.

PLRFD

Who the hell are you to tell people not to take children shopping with them ??????

bornintoit

I wasn't telling people NOT to take them I was just putting mine and alot of other peoples opinion about children being taken food shopping. Just because I suggested that maybe a friend could look after them when the poster in question said she had no nearby family so didn't have a choice doesn't mean I am dictating to anyone. It was a suggestion not an order.

Look at the posts and you will see how annoying it is to other people to have bored children screaming all round the supermarket and buggies blocking the aisles.

judeee

bornintoit wrote: »

Ugh? No friends that would look after your child for an hour? Ok so you have no choice but I do have a valid point even just looking at the posts on here people get annoyed by children in supermarkets and would rather young children were not taken food shopping. Food shopping and children just do not mix, the children get bored thats why they tend to play up (food shopping is tedious enough for adults let alone children) and everyone else including the parents then have to deal with it when the children start to screech all round the shop or go running off. If I had to take my son there would also be the problem of his buggie as I don't drive, the aisles aren't big enough for the trolleys half the time never mind buggies as well.

I guess my son's just lucky he doesn't have to get dragged round the supermarket and I'm lucky that I don't have to annoy the hell out of other shoppers.

My son is a very well behaved 12 year old, even when he was younger he never played up. He also has special needs and will not communicate with somebody he doesn't know well, so no, I am not dumping him on a friend so I can swan off shopping, knowing he's going to be upset and spend the entire time not asking for a drink or the toilet or anything because we has problems talking to people!! For him to spend two hours in tears is not worth it! Not everybody has a black and white life :mad:

bornintoit

judeee wrote: »

My son is a very well behaved 12 year old, even when he was younger he never played up. He also has special needs and will not communicate with somebody he doesn't know well, so no, I am not dumping him on a friend so I can swan off shopping, knowing he's going to be upset and spend the entire time not asking for a drink or the toilet or anything because we has problems talking to people!! For him to spend two hours in tears is not worth it! Not everybody has a black and white life :mad:

Like I said in the previous post it was merely a suggestion and you can't expect people to be mind readers and know everything about your child. You shouldn't get angry because people don't know the grey areas of your life, it's your choice what to put on this forum but people here will only give suggestions based on what you choose to tell them that goes for all aspects of this forum.

tracey12_2

bornintoit wrote: »

I do not understand why people go food shopping with children. Surely they can get someone to look after them for an hour e.g. the dad stays at home with the children while mum does the food shopping in peace. My friend is a single mum and her mother looks after her two children while she does the food shopping. I would never take my young child food shopping with me, he hates shopping at the best of times so it's easier for me and easier for everyone else.

Not everyone is in a position to leave their children with other people and anyway why should we. My children are always well behaved in the supermarket and I wouldn't allow them to run off around the store. I do understand that it is annoying when others allow their children to run riot but you can't tar everyone with the same brush.

patchwork_cat

bornintoit wrote: »

I do not understand why people go food shopping with children. Surely they can get someone to look after them for an hour e.g. the dad stays at home with the children while mum does the food shopping in peace. My friend is a single mum and her mother looks after her two children while she does the food shopping. I would never take my young child food shopping with me, he hates shopping at the best of times so it's easier for me and easier for everyone else.

Not everyone is as fortunate. Whilst I am VERY aware that I am in a minority, both my parents had died before my eldest child was 2 1/2 and my youngest never met either. ( in any case they lived 60 miles away when alive!)

patchwork_cat

bornintoit wrote: »

I wasn't telling people NOT to take them I was just putting mine and alot of other peoples opinion about children being taken food shopping. Just because I suggested that maybe a friend could look after them when the poster in question said she had no nearby family so didn't have a choice doesn't mean I am dictating to anyone. It was a suggestion not an order.

Look at the posts and you will see how annoying it is to other people to have bored children screaming all round the supermarket and buggies blocking the aisles.

This is also not appropriate for a lot of people. You really need to consider that not everyone lives their lives as you do. Walk a mile in someone elses shoes before you judge them.

Apart from anything else children are members of our soceity and should not be locked away just because they might annoy you. The supermarket is a useful learning tool, when mine were little it was a counting game,shapes, a colour game, even a reading game as they got older. It is also very useful for a fussy eater, to get them to try new foods, to talk about food origins, the make up of meals, etc. etc. I could go on ad infinitum.

If we want children to grow into well balanced individuals then we need to introduce them to as many different learning experiences as possible.

bornintoit

Thanks for your posts tracey12 and patchwork cat (it won't give me the option to press it on your post though?). True of course not every parent will be irresponsible. I also know alot of parents who choose not to food shop with children because it is easier for themselves not always because their children are badly behaved. Like I have said I'm not telling everyone not to take children food shopping, some parents choose not to take their children and some do, some wish they didn't have to but think they have no choice because they find it difficult to arrange childcare thats where my suggestion came in to the previous poster but she took it the wrong way and got angry because I am somehow supposed to know her son has special needs?

I think the ones who allow their children to run riot and cause hassle for other shoppers are the ones who need to be talked to but sadly rarely are. Clearly it looks like it is a problem due to the amount of people saying they avoid ASDA or shop online and one of the reasons given was to avoid the buggy brigade - not my wording. My son is very young and actually gets quite stressed out with food shopping so it suits him, me and everyone else for me not to take him. He is not locked away, he just doesn't come food shopping with me. It's not about my right to take him it's about having consideration for everyone in the supermarket including him something which alot of parents I have seen do not seem to consider when they leave them in their buggy ignoring their crying or let them loose to do as they please.

On another note I have seen well behaved children (especially girls) get hassled by badly behaved children in supermarkets and they and their parents shouldn't have to deal with that.

Edwardia

When I was a kid we lived in villages, not all of whom had shops, and going to the supermarket was a 20 mile round trip. Until my mother learned to drive in her thirties we had to do it by bus which was a nightmare. We were too young to be left by ourselves, both grandmothers lived 70 miles away and our father worked long hours and was often on business trips. I'm sure we got tired and fractious and remember my brother throwing tantrums if our mother bought fish. I think mothers made their kids walk at an earlier age though rather than trundle them round in buggies.