I want to scream

imfedup

And if one more person tells me that I am stupid for booking my wedding so far in advance I think I may scream.

So got engaged at Christmas and we went and booked the church yesterday - getting married on 14.06.14 and we are going to our venue at the weekend to book that.

Yes its over 2 years away but why are people insisting on telling me that I shouldnt be booking things now?

The reason for not getting married till then is that we need to save and I want to get the big purchases out of the way by paying a little off every month.

I have been looking and trying on Wedding dresses - again the shops insist on telling me that I shouldnt be looking yet and that I am silly to even think about it.

I am a little giddy and excited now that the church is booked as it all has a feeling of being real.

So am I wrong to be booking things so far in advance?

sugarwalsh

Don't ask then no one can give their opinions.
It's your wedding ignore them or it will be a very long 2 and a bit years.

loopylouc

When trying dresses I wouldn't tell them the date of the wedding or make a date up for a year earlier. Of course your excited and I'm totally with you on getting things planned early to be able to afford what you want to have.
Much better this way than like my future son in law who doesn't want to arrange anything just yet until he has officially proposed and has the ring which will be the end of March but then he wants to get married by September this year!! before he goes back to Afghanistan. He has no idea that people plan things in advance because they get booked up.
Trying very hard not to be mother of the bridezilla!!!

Good luck with your wedding planning and enjoy x

74jax

imfedup wrote: »

Yes its over 2 years away but why are people insisting on telling me that I shouldnt be booking things now?

As in friends? I would be horrified and shocked and yes, I'd be hurt very much like you over this. Are they meaning it in a bad way or just saying you have ages? Maybe say the place you wanted and date you wanted was very significant, so you wanted to ensure it was booked as on enquiring you found several dates had gone already.

I have been looking and trying on Wedding dresses - again the shops insist on telling me that I shouldnt be looking yet and that I am silly to even think about it.

I can understand this, you might change your mind or they may think you are wasting their time. Both silly reasons and will cost them money (as obviously you wouldn't buy from them) but that might be the reason why they say what they do. 2 years in advance isn't so far in advance it's deemed as silly, I don't think. Maybe try wedding fairs etc, they tend to have info for a couple of years in advance. I would persevere with wedding dress shopping, you should hopefully find not all dress shops are like the ones you've had so far.

So am I wrong to be booking things so far in advance?

One thing I would say if you are wanting to book things 2 years in advance, is make sure your wedding insurance is in place, a lot can change with a company in 2 years and better to have it in place now.

imfedup

Thanks guys - think I just wanted a rant this morning after another person told me I was silly.

My closest friends are right behind me and helping me, its everyone else thats rolling their eyes. Its not the flowers or shoes or cards that we are booking just the big things like the church, venue and dress.

We are definately taking out wedding insurance - that is definately a must for peace of mind more than anything.

Oh no loopylouc I am sure your not being MOTBridezilla, I hope your DD gets the wedding she wants I think SIL is possibly blind to what actually goes into planning

YoungBaker

We booked both our venue and chapel more than 2 years in advance - and it's lucky that we did as the venue we wanted had very limited availability left for the dates we wanted (in fact the actual date we wanted was unavailable!) so if people even say anything they always kinda shutup when we told them 'yeh we thought it was a bit in advance too but things book up so fast nowadays' and tell them how you struggled to get the date you wanted or something lol.

It is understandable people have concerns nowadays in companies going bust etc. but as you say thats the point in getting wedding insurance!

daisiegg

Don't worry, I'm booking my wedding just over a year in advance and I'm getting the opposite - oh that's not very long to plan is it! People always seem to want to comment on things that don't concern them. Try not to let it get to you, although I know it's easier said than done. And if you want to look at wedding dresses two years in advance, that's up to you!

74jax

daisiegg wrote: »

People always seem to want to comment on things that don't concern them.

I couldn't agree more. I don't know what it is with a wedding that makes everyone think they can say what they like. You're NOT having a cake? You're NOT having a photographer? You're NOT having a first dance? No transport? well how will we get from A to B?

No, No, No and walk?????

Seriously as long as you and OH are happy with your wedding plans, you have to, at times, s*d everyone else.

mildred1978

Im an old married. We booked our venue 9 months in advance and then nothing happened until 3 months before. 3 weeks before the wedding I didn't have a dress!!

I personally think its fine to book church and venue, but I wouldn't be dress shopping for at least a year. Probably 2 if it were me!!

aliasojo

Doesn't it depend on whether they care or whether they are just being biatchy though?

People who care will probably be thinking along the lines of what could happen .... venue goes bust, you lose/gain loads of weight, you split with b/f etc etc. Concern is making them voice their thoughts.

Of course some just biatch for the sake of it. You just need to decide which it is, then treat them accordingly.

Hope all your planning goes well.

sugarwalsh

loopylouc wrote: »

When trying dresses I wouldn't tell them the date of the wedding or make a date up for a year earlier. Of course your excited and I'm totally with you on getting things planned early to be able to afford what you want to have.
Much better this way than like my future son in law who doesn't want to arrange anything just yet until he has officially proposed and has the ring which will be the end of March but then he wants to get married by September this year!! before he goes back to Afghanistan. He has no idea that people plan things in advance because they get booked up.
Trying very hard not to be mother of the bridezilla!!!

Good luck with your wedding planning and enjoy x

If it puts your mind at ease we decided in September to get married and have everything sorted for our wedding in March. It really doesn't have to take forever to organise things, you just need to be flexible with some of your 'requirements' or rather your daughter does!
Honestly, if she knows they are to be engaged then she will already have plenty of ideas. There are lots of people who have organised weddings in far less time and I personally believe they are less stressful for everyone involved. I;m sure you will enjoy helping them organise it when he does finally pop the question.
Plus you only have 6 months to be mother of the bridezilla!