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Do csa ask for mothers income/assets??
shabba123
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Hi,
hope someone can answer for me please. My partner has 2 kids with his ex. she went to csa a few years ago and now he pays her over £300 per month but the thing is that she has now inherited a shed load of money but still wants her pound of flesh from us!!! he does loads for/with his kids but the ex doesn't seem to realise how much he spends on top of the csa money every month and we are really feeling the pinch now. she point blank refuses to call the csa off, even if for a while til we are more sorted.
do the csa NEVER take into account how much the mother has already compared to the father when they decide on maintenance due??
hope someone can answer for me please. My partner has 2 kids with his ex. she went to csa a few years ago and now he pays her over £300 per month but the thing is that she has now inherited a shed load of money but still wants her pound of flesh from us!!! he does loads for/with his kids but the ex doesn't seem to realise how much he spends on top of the csa money every month and we are really feeling the pinch now. she point blank refuses to call the csa off, even if for a while til we are more sorted.
do the csa NEVER take into account how much the mother has already compared to the father when they decide on maintenance due??
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nope it doesent matter what the pwc get's they could be a millionaire , payment stay's the same.
why don't you stop paying for extras if your finding it hard?Ignore reality.There's nothing you can do about it.
I have done reading too!
personally test's all her own finds0 -
it would be hard as they are here most weekends and we don't want to be mean or tight and never go anywhere etc etc. its not that he minds paying at all, always has, but our rent is sky high and we've always 'just about' managed. Now though they come to ours with all sorts of things she buys from the inheritence, plus they are moving into a new house with no mortgage, so no more rent for her - ever! she's not bad, just seems a bit off that we cant afford things for our own kids a lot, but we have always bent over backwards to help her on top of maintenace and now she can become quite well off overnight and we can't even ask for a reprieve/respite even if only temp! we'll never have our own house/holiday etc until the older two are at least 18 i guess...0
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Ask for a reassesment with the nights you have taken into account, it may be that you need to document the weekend stays for a short period to prove this is happening, as it sounds like she will kick up a stink if her money goes down...!!!
If you had the kids friday to sunday, then your assessment should be reduced by 2/7ths for the nights at yours...0 -
This is where the systems so wrong...if the NRP had inherited no doubt they'd get that included a income for assessment purposes.0
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dont think it would be taken into account then either it's the weekly, monthly income that matters not saving or anything else, thats far for both sides i think!!Ignore reality.There's nothing you can do about it.
I have done reading too!
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This is where the systems so wrong...if the NRP had inherited no doubt they'd get that included a income for assessment purposes.
No they would not, but the PWC could ask for it to be taken into consideration or claim living beyond means...!!!
So in a roundabout way yes probably... Haha0 -
it would be hard as they are here most weekends and we don't want to be mean or tight and never go anywhere etc etc. its not that he minds paying at all, always has, but our rent is sky high and we've always 'just about' managed. Now though they come to ours with all sorts of things she buys from the inheritence, plus they are moving into a new house with no mortgage, so no more rent for her - ever! she's not bad, just seems a bit off that we cant afford things for our own kids a lot, but we have always bent over backwards to help her on top of maintenace and now she can become quite well off overnight and we can't even ask for a reprieve/respite even if only temp! we'll never have our own house/holiday etc until the older two are at least 18 i guess...
not knowing what u do with them at weekends it's hard, say u used to go out every week cut it down 2 every other, have cheaper day's out or buy couple cheap dvd's of ebay and have movie nite's cheap popcorn,sweets make your own pizza my kids love doing that since cinema is expensive, eating out's expensive...Ignore reality.There's nothing you can do about it.
I have done reading too!
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I have no mortgage and haven't had for almost 2 years now. My budget, with three children and no child maintenance from my children's father, is very tight. My ex won't pay - only he knows his reasons - but one of them, I suspect, is because he considers my family can afford it and/or he knows full well as long as my family have money in the bank, they will make sure our children don't go without.
For me it's a matter of pride. Legally maintenance has to be paid. Morally is certainly has to be paid. I would personally rather be someone who paid up on time, every time, knowing full well that the money wasn't required, and be proud of my part in supporting my children rather than playing dodge ball and convincing myself it's OK.
I take humbridge (is that a word?!!) with the phrase she still wants her 'pound of flesh'. No, she is asking for what the children are legally and morally entitled to. I am not sure there is anything wrong with that.
I would suggest that there are some men who, if their very rich ex decided not to take money from them because she could afford to bring up the children herself, would feel....pushed out? like they're not allowed to be a proper father?0 -
clearingout wrote: »I take humbridge (is that a word?!!)
Umbridge - noun 1. offense; annoyance; displeasure: to feel umbrage at a social snub; to give umbrage to someone; to take umbrage at someone's rudeness.clearingout wrote: »No, she is asking for what the children are legally and morally entitled to.
Legally certainly but morally is stretching it. Morally a father is obliged to care for his child but he may discharge that duty in a number of ways. For instance, by directly caring for that child.clearingout wrote: »I would suggest that there are some men who, if their very rich ex decided not to take money from them because she could afford to bring up the children herself, would feel....pushed out? like they're not allowed to be a proper father?
So the only way to be a proper father is pay money?
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