Son starting work - how much should he contribute ?

Bennifred

cloverfan wrote: »

Oh and also he has also every single week without fail asked if the £60 is enough and if we pop in tesco or something he will nearly always offer to pay AND when I had a rough patch with his Dad(my ex) I decided I needed a break and was going to go and stay with family DS paid for DS and I to go on a weeks holiday to one of the canary islands (all his own choice although I did protest and I paid for all our food there) x

Sounds like a lovely thoughtful son you have, cloverfan!:beer:

cloverfan

Thank you Bennifred x

gibson123

Northern Princess have you thought of paying your daughter an allowance rather than shell out all the time. You could link it to certain chores and call it a wage. My daughter has been on an allowance since she was 11 and she has to budget for everything including uniforms, horse-riding and music lessons. She manages on £150 per month, it seems a lot at first glance but just try adding up what you actually pay out a month. She is too young to work but as long as she is in full-time education I will continue her allowance. Only when she is in a proper job will I ask her for dig money. To be honest unless my own circumstances change I would probably save it towards a wedding or a deposit on a house.

mountainofdebt

faerie~spangles wrote: »

I find it interesting that some parents on the thread say they EXPECT their offspring to save therefore they take less dig money. Do you police this and ensure that they do?

As soon as a child becomes an adult and starts earning they should be paying dig money.

So what if they pay for their own clothes, driving lessons, smellies etc. They are not paying the market value for the advantages of living at home.

I wouldn't say I police it as such but Junior has no problem in letting me see his savings account balance each month so I do know he is saving the money.

tbh I think it depends on the reason as to why the daughter or son is living at home; our case, Junior took a year out whilst his application for the armed forces is processed or he goes to Uni (has an unconditional place for September) so the more he can save (and although we've only specified half he regularly saves more) will benefit him so I don't mind 'subsidising him

Northern_Princess

gibson123 wrote: »

Northern Princess have you thought of paying your daughter an allowance rather than shell out all the time. You could link it to certain chores and call it a wage. My daughter has been on an allowance since she was 11 and she has to budget for everything including uniforms, horse-riding and music lessons. She manages on £150 per month, it seems a lot at first glance but just try adding up what you actually pay out a month. She is too young to work but as long as she is in full-time education I will continue her allowance. Only when she is in a proper job will I ask her for dig money. To be honest unless my own circumstances change I would probably save it towards a wedding or a deposit on a house.

Good point! I haven't actually but it's a brill idea and one I will definitely give thought to now you've mentioned it. I would worry about the uniforms though given what I saw my friends children going through :( But I could easily keep an eye on that aspect. Young people do all need to be taught the value of money and I would hate her to grow up not knowing the value of it. Like you any dig money paid will go straight into her saving account I have for her (that she doesn't know about).

faerie~spangles

cloverfan wrote: »

Is this aimed at me? as I am the only who has mentioned these things??? If it is please reread as I said he pays for all of this and saves PLUS paying "keep" of £60 per week out of wages of £150.

No, not at all.

faerie~spangles

Northern_Princess wrote: »

We have thought about taking dig money from DD, but opt not to as she saves her part time wages (well most of them) to help her get on the property ladder. I buy all her toiletries/make up, clothes and anything else she needs as well as livery bills for her horses, feed/tack/vets bills along with her mobile phone contract and hair cuts and colouring. She will have her driving lessons paid for and a car bought for her as well as it being taxed and insured until she leaves full time education. When she leaves full time education then she will pay something albeit a small amount of her part time earnings towards her keep at home.

I was horrified at a friend whose children worked part time under 16 years and she took 50% of their very meagre earnings and stopped buying them clothes etc. I felt so sorry for these children worrying about buying their school uniforms from very little income when what they were paying my friend was funding her horse!

I think it's about instilling a work ethic and "you must work to get on in life" view that's important rather than the amount of money you take for digs.

Getting back to the OP I think £50 is a fair amount to ask.

At what point in your daughter's life will she be expected to pay her way?

Northern_Princess

faerie~spangles wrote: »

At what point in your daughter's life will she be expected to pay her way?

When I decide the time is right, after she has completed full time education most likely and earns a full time wage. And your point is?

cloverfan

faerie~spangles wrote: »

No, not at all.

Thank you only I have tried to be fair and thought he/i was doing well then had a sudden paranoid moment that i had got it all wrong lol:o:D

faerie~spangles

Northern_Princess wrote: »

When I decide the time is right, after she has completed full time education most likely and earns a full time wage. And your point is?

I'm curious.

Are you planning to fund your daughter's life style 'til she leaves full time education and gains a Doctorate?

Or?