Is it odd for the groom not to have a wedding ring?

indiepanda

My OH doesn't ever wear any kind of jewellery or even a watch and doesn't want to wear a wedding ring.

I don't have a problem with him not wanting to wear one. He works as a plasterer most of the time and all of the time in building / decorating work where he's getting filthy so I don't think it'd be practical to wear a ring.

However, are people going to think it's really weird if we don't have one for the wedding? I know at one time it wasn't that unusual for it just to be the bride that has a ring but most married men I know wear one these days - albeit those guys all have office jobs.

74jax

I don't think so. I posted a thread a few weeks back about what we do during the 'exchanging of rings part' as I am not having a wedding ring either.

I think it's a very personal thing, OH spends all day most days in the sea and I can just see it ending up there at the end of day one!

I just don't fancy one, I love my engagement ring and the diamond is quite large, a wedding ring would look......odd.

OH and I are the ones it concerns, I haven't really thought what others would think.

indiepanda

74jax wrote: »

OH and I are the ones it concerns, I haven't really thought what others would think.

Good attitude :-)

I have to admit I wasn't sure if it might be part of the standard service... not been to many weddings in recent years. (I'm a teensy bit older than my friends were when they got married).

But thinking about it logically I can't see any reason why it would be.

PinkPrincess83

No, I dont think its weird.

My oh cant wear a ring for his job (he teaches car engine mechanics) so its too dangerous, and he wears no jewellery either. He did decide though that he wanted one for the ceremony. So we got him a cheap 9k gold one that he will wear for a few hours and then it will be put away and will probably not see daylight again!!:D

At the end of the day its your decisions so do what you want.

ps I feel I get a few odd looks when I say im going to wear my engagement ring on my right hand and will wear my wedding ring on its own (because its not the usual 'done' thing)- but it was too expensive for our budget for me to get one shaped around my engagement ring and I didnt like the gaps a normal band would have, and I found a wedding ring I love that is perfect on is own, but thats what I wanted so thats what Im doing!!:D

MrsDrink

Nope - I don't think it's odd at all. In fact I think it's odd that MrD wants to wear a ring as he's the same as your OH - doesn't wear any jewellery or a watch, and has a mucky manual job.

When it comes to the receiving/giving of rings during the ceremony, well during a civil ceremony anyway he can say words about giving you this ring blah blah blah, and you can say words about receiving this ring (rather than giving him a ring) if that makes sense.

RainbowDrops

Not at all, it's a bit of a modern thing that more men do wear one these days.
My dad doesn't have one.

double_mummy

i think one thing this forum has taught us is that there is nothing normal about anyones wedding

who cares what people think do what you and OH want!!!

Idiophreak

I don't really see someone's job as a barrier to having a ring...they could still have one and just slip it on when they've cleaned up in the evening - or just wear it on special occasions etc.

The fact Mr indiepanda *doesn't want* to wear one is more the point...if he doesn't want one, then that's the end of the discussion, surely? My only concern would be whether, in time, he'd change his mind and regret not having one, but if his mind's made up, job done!

emz118

I don't think it maters at all. At the end of the day, it's up to personal preference. People at your wedding will know you and they won't even notice who has/doesn't have a ring!

MrsDrink

Idiophreak wrote: »

My only concern would be whether, in time, he'd change his mind and regret not having one, but if his mind's made up, job done!

MrD's dad didn't have a ring - years after the ceremony he decided he would like one... so he just went out and bought one.

quaveriw

OH and I were talking about it the other night, he'd like one but he'd never where it as he works on agricultural machines. But he did say he'd be happy to wear it on a necklace/thong so he'd always have it.