I hate my Job!!!

KiKi

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

but please don't rub your situation in the faces of all those on here desperate to work.

I usually agree with most things you say, SN, but completely disagree with you here.

There's no 'nose rubbing' going on. Should I not talk about my job in case I offend anyone unemployed? Should I not be allowed to complain that my new pair of shoes are rubbing my feet when some people are struggling to afford heating? There are always people with worse problems, but this board isn't just for people who are unemployed.

I agree that there are things to be grateful for - and the OP has rightly taken those things on board instead of being defensive and stroppy (which, let's face it, a lot of posters do become if people disagree with them!).

But if we're going with your mantra of 'don't complain', then quite frankly the whole DFW board should be gotten rid of because there are a lot of people far worse off than those on DMPs and IVAs! It's not fair to suggest posters can't raise issues about their employment because they should be lucky to have a job - and certainly not fair to say that they're rubbing people's noses in it. I don't see any of that happening.

OP, I'm sorry you're miserable in your role; it's not much fun when your motivation drops - and the more bored you become, the more lazy you become. Been there, done it! Good on you for taking the constructive comments on board, and I hope you can start looking elsewhere. Also, find some things to focus on outside of work - like hobbies, gym classes, groups...whatever works for you. You probably won't feel like it, but once you can make another area of your life better it's likely to impact on how you feel at work.

All the best - and let us know how you go.
KiKi

InaPickle

Get a plan, man!

I have also been stuck in jobs I don't like and the one thing that got me through it was the thought that I was plotting, planning and working my way out of them. Once you have an overall plan broken down into more achievable steps that you can implement as you go along, things seem so much easier as you don't feel as 'stuck' in your job: you start feeling that you are only there until the plan starts to come together. It's a subtle shift in perception, but makes a world of difference!

For example, you may want to look at your ultimate aim i.e. get a job in criminal law. Then you need to start plotting what steps you need to take to get there (working backwards helps). Then you need to do as many of them as you can, as often as you can. For example, today you could join LinkedIn and fill out as much of your profile as possible. Then tommorrow you can connect to as many people as you can. Then the day after you can update your CV. Then you can start looking for jobs/experience to get you where you want to be. Keep working along those lines and you'll be alright!

However, the one thing that will make sure you are stuck in the job you already have (or make sure you can't get one you like) is getting a bad reference for bad timekeeping or wasting company time on the internet (and do not, under any circumstance, use the time on t'internet at work to look for a new job else you are toast)! You need to go into work from hereon in with a more professional attitude, and when I say that I mean professional in the sense that you are a professional job seeker who just happens to have have an 8 hour a day inconvenience to deal with before you can get on with the really important stuff in life, and that you are going to work to earn you the good reference that will get you the next job, the one you actually like.

Go in dressed to the nines: you may not feel like it, but you will instantly feel more 'professional' and it will help you present a more formal face to those you work with instincively, so that you don't appear to not to care so much as they might have picked up on.

chara

Triker wrote: »

Unless you've 'been there' its difficult to understand.

You are not whinging, you have the right to be dissatisfied with your role. Some people who love detail and data inputting would probably love it, to me it sounds dry as a bone and boring to boot.

I made a huge mistake and moved from one profession to another and last 7 months, 6 months too long really. I too had the feelings of being trapped, desperate and lonely...I ended up breaking down at the Doctors, he told me to leave as soon as I could as no 'job' should have this effect on a person. It was subtle but affecting, the atmosphere, the work which was not what I was employed to do, my moral code being compromised re the work, the favouritism (not me obviously), the bullying and disinterest by management....it was a very unhealthy atmosphere all round.

What helped for me was I formulated a plan, I gave myself a timescale to get another job abit boom or bust really. I also saved what I could so I had a buffer.

It's only a job, its not worth your health, happiness or peace of mind. There will be other work out there for you, just keep looking.

Good luck.

I agree totally with bits in bold.

PP, You sound dangerously close to either being sacked or finding you cannot make yourself get to work one day. It happens.

I made a mistake like Triker's, changing from one field of education to another, the one I had originally trained in but I had not allowed for changes in the meantime so it had a grass is greener quality; I was recalling a time of supportive management and colleagues. It was a disaster.

I saw that you had volunteered but how much do you know about being a solicitor actually working as a Criminal specialist? My cousin is a solicitor (partner in a small country practice) and he finds most criminal work is dull, more defending drunk drivers and repeat offenders as duty solicitor than big cases of legal significance. He has more 'fun' with complex Family Law and Wills, but it takes all sorts. :eek:

Please take the advice to do your best in the job you have and use it to get a good reference for a job in the area you want. You will be aware that most firms give bare facts written references these days so phone calls are made and a less than glowing response is taken as intended with no evidence. The legal community can be very small when you are on the outside.

Have you considered applying to the Prison Service if Criminal Law is your ambition? They have a good career path for Governors.

dizzyrascal

Hi
I take it that you have completed your training contract and are fully qualified? Many law and LPC graduates that left university when you did, at the height of the recession only got paralegal jobs with the distant promise of a training contract and often that never came to fruition.
You seem to be stuck in a paralegal role so I can quite see why you are bored and frustrated. Anyone who has ever sold a house will know that most of the work is done by the legal exec and it doesn't require the services of a solicitor. I agree that it is a boring area and most people regard it as the area for the unambitious.
There is a very large solicitors in my city that take on lots of LPC grads to basically cover call centre jobs for injury claims. The phone lines are manned 24 hours and they are all doing this paralegal role for terrible money and very high pressure/results in the hope that they get a training contract. Most last about 18 months and then leave very disillusioned and broken, hopes dashed.
They do this for the right reasons and because they have to pay off their LPC fees (12k - 15k fees, payment due on finishing and not part of a student loan) but unfortunately there is a glut of LPC graduates chasing very few training contracts so these companies can prey on them and pay peanuts.
I personally think it is a disgrace to offer these roles knowing that most will not progress but in this climate I am not sure what you can do about it.
I do sympathise with your situation and don't have any solutions but I do urge you to get some help (probably medical but could try counselling) and then maybe look at volunteering for a CAB or somewhere that can use your legal skills, if only to reignite your passion. Could you help at a local organisation or charity in someway? You never know it might open doors or make you feel useful again.

Sambucus_Nigra

Pinkpenguin wrote: »

As for the 'Petulant Child' remark - you have absolutely no idea, I can assure you that I don't spend my time posting threads on here so I can 'rub it in the faces of those who don't work' so perhaps you can keep your ludicrous opinions to yourself.

Read the title. You hate your job!!! *rubs eyes and cries waaaa.

You are bored - so are many many others. You are late into work - which you don't seem to have realised will get you a bad reference. Which will inhibit your route out of there.

If you post 'I hate my job!!!' in the internet you are going to get opinions. Some you might not like; but it is how you are coming across to some people.

You may not agree, but that is how you come across TO ME. Ergo, it's not ludicrous.

If you can't handle opinions - don't post 'I hate my job!!!' on the internet. At least be a grown up and plan your way out of it - which includes getting to work on time and behaving like a professional whilst you are there.

I take it people are working long hours at their jobs that they might not like, in order to pay you. So pull your finger out and stop taking the p out of them. You know you are doing it and you still don't stop.

ada1988

Do change a Job will be better.It is not important what you learn in collage.
But it is very important what you do for your Job.
You need do the things Just you like.

magenta22

Okay, as others have said, you post on a forum you will have other people's opinions - that is what a forum is for. Some opinions you will like/agree with, others you won't.

You hate your job - my opinion is yes - be thankful you have one. Yes this is a thread for both employed and un-employed, but come on when it's a thread for both do you really not think that putting a thread saying you hate your job is not going to annoy the people who are desperately searching for a job?

As I said we have all been in jobs we find boring or don't like but believe me, when you don't have a job to moan about you think well yes that job was boring or I didn't like it but at least I had a job to moan about and an income.

Getting into work late is not going to help you, just because your boss goes AWOL doesn't mean that you can have the same attitude of I'll get into work when I get in.

You don't like your job, do something about it. Looking for something else will give you that boost.

Perhaps your colleagues don't give you more interesting stuff to do because you're lack of interest in the role is obvious. You might find that if you show some interest and take on board some extra work then you might find it is interesting after all.

You have given yourself until March to find something else, what happens after then? It's not that easy to find a job at the moment.

Marie88_2

LadyMissA wrote: »

think how depressed you'd be if you didnt have a job. No one makes anyone take a job and only you can change things so get another one that you may like.

I don't think this is that true for many people, and having worked jobs I've not liked, and also hated, I can say that I'm in a much better state of mind and health being unemployed than doing a job I hated. I've tolerated jobs I don't like which I found boring, and felt like I was wasting my life doing because it didn't stimulate me in any way and carried on doing those. But jobs that you genuinely hate take away your soul, spirit, and life, far more than being unemployed. In fact, the biggest concern about being unemployed for me is the threat of having to do another job which I hate. Once you've worked a job you genuinely hate, you realise unemployment is difficult, but it doesn't always destroy your whole life like a job which makes your health suffer can do.

Unemployment can be very frustrating, but I've never wanted to kill myself, or cried every week due to it, like I've done working jobs I hate. I thought I would regret leaving my prior role which basically made me lose interest in life, and made me very depressed, to the point I would have rather died than continuing working it, but I live by the philosophy that a job isn't worth your whole life.

People also need to realise that everyone has different sensitivity, values, and tolerance. What might be a nightmare job for one person,e.g. a factory worker with no human contact, might be the perfect job for someone who doesn't like social interaction. Furthermore, some people value their life, more than their working life. Other people may all be sensitive to things, and not by their own choice, but we must all realise that everyone is different, so the phrase 'a job is a job' couldn't be more wrong, and completely outdated. For many of us we work a job to enable us to live our life outside of work; so if we work a job that takes away all interest in our life outside of work, why would we continue to do it? We might as well just kill ourselves if we are just working to stay alive, without any enjoyment or spirit for life.

Didsburylass

I have sympathy for OP. I have done a job I absolutely hated and it was soul destroying walking into work every day. I became so down my personal life suffered.

You need to plan a way to get out of there - I spent nights pouring over job applications and made the best possible use of my contacts and eventually a job came up thanks to someone on the inside giving me the heads up.

There is no use sitting there feeling miserable, you need to help yourself here. Spent the time you currently waste at work making a plan to get yourself out of there, it will probably take longer than you wish (it did for me) but you need to persevere.

licklebabba

Hello,I have just clocked this thread,as have been noseying online today searching for another job! I can relate to the OP completly. I work in a different area altogether from OP but feel exactly the same. I am now at the point where my job has made me ill, both my mental & physical health have suffered( other things have happened also which I wont bore you all with) but I have spent a lot of days recently crying over it all,& my job is a big factor in this, my GP thinks I could be depressed,as do a couple of work colleagues (& I tend to agree). I am aware that I am lucky to have a job & like a lot of people, I can't afford to leave (as I have done with jobs in the past) I have a lot of debt & there is not just me to consider anymore. So I am desperately looking to find something else in any field, I have applied for other stuff etc. As other people on here have said, its important to make a plan,which I am doing to get myself out of the vicious circle I have been in ( off & on) for many years. In my opinion,staying in a job you loathe is soul destroying & I know this all too well,so I will carry on with my plan & will get there eventually.Sorry for the ramble,but just wanted to say I know how you must feel & wish you all the best in your search for something else:)