Fastest way to get a divorce in UK?

tenke

Murtle wrote: »

You can word it yourself and complete all the forms yourself. Submit them and then the respondent will be sent what you have written and asked to agree, sign and return - should be within 7 days. My ex only just made it - you might be luckier!

The judge then agrees and sets the initial date for the decree nisi. six weeks and a day afterwards you can request the decree absolute!!

The guy who accepted my forms was really helpful and reviewed them to make sure I had signed and dated in the right places etc!

2 questions:
- Do we need to attend a court session? or is it done mainly by forms on the post?
- If we are jobless at the moment, can we get the court fee levied in any way?
Thanks

Gloomendoom

tenke wrote: »

Did you need a solicitor to formulate that for you, I mean convincing legal choice of words? or just wrote it in your own words in the application?
How long did it take from A to Z?
Sorry lots of questions, but we are considering adultery as an excuse, so maybe this could be better? considering none of us even tried to be an adulterer!! :eek::D

No we just wrote it in our own words. I was the bad boy, so it took two or three goes before I was happy with what was said. Keep it matter of fact, we looked up examples on the web. The court is not interested in emotional stuff.

I can't remember the timing exactly but probably a couple of months to get the decree nisi and another couple of months for the decree absolute. You have to wait six weeks after the nisi is granted before you can apply for the absolute.

Avoid adultery if you can. It might come back and bite you in the bum if you ever want to get remarried.

Tigsteroonie

Murtle wrote: »

Do you need to name the third party if claiming adultery?

A quick google would suggest that you don't have to actually name the third party. What you do have to declare, though, is that the adultery took place within the six months immediately before the divorce application - otherwise you are seen to have accepted the situation and can no longer cite adultery as the grounds.

Murtle

Forms in the post - or dropped off at the local courts. No you don't need to attend a court session, in fact I don't recall being told when it was.

I dont' know much about support for costs - but this link will help
http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Governmentcitizensandrights/Divorceseparationandrelationshipbreakdown/Endingamarriageorcivilpartnership/Gettingadivorce/DG_193733

Gloomendoom

tenke wrote: »

2 questions:
- Do we need to attend a court session? or is it done mainly by forms on the post?
- If we are jobless at the moment, can we get the court fee levied in any way?
Thanks

No, it can be done by post.

If you are both out of work, you may be able to get some help with costs.

Have a look at this site...

http://www.divorceaid.co.uk/legal/legal-aid.htm

tenke

Thanks so much for all the help, advice offered.:T
You have been so kind to take time to answer this.
Divorce is such a painful emotional process, just pray it goes quickly at least..:(

Murtle

It can also be a wonderfully freeing and liberating experience once the wounds heal.

Enjoy the rest of your life!!

xxx

tenke

Murtle wrote: »

It can also be a wonderfully freeing and liberating experience once the wounds heal.

Enjoy the rest of your life!!

xxx

Thanks for this, today the decree nici took place and I was just visiting my process in here, and your words really made me see that maybe I am liberating myself for something great in the future !!;):T

I'm wishing on a star...:D

hazyjo

Good luck, tenke

To clarify a couple of points mentioned above: you have to be married for one year before you can apply for a divorce.

And to traleegirl - did you not want to divorce? Your ex could not cite his own adultery as an excuse, so if you weren't willing to file for divorce, or never got round to doing it, he'd have to divorce you on other grounds - unreasonable behaviour being the only real feasible option.

Jx

traleegirl

I absolutely do want a divorce, unfortunately I don't qualify for legal aid and the 'soon to be ex' told me straight out that if I applied he would use every penny he had to prevent me getting any settlement.

I just ticked the box on the petition that said 'I agree to the divorce, but not on the grounds'. And at the end of the day does it really matter? he cheated, he lied to both me and his solicitor, I'm just glad to be rid of him!

Actually he only applied for the divorce after I had met somebody else........I think he realised that there was no chance of me taking him back :rotfl: