Sick to death of novice, difficult landlord

Sambucus_Nigra

I've moved about 35 times in my life, have had good landlords, strange landlords and downright bad landlords.

However.....

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

I'd find somewhere else, give notice and then leave.

Stop wasting your effort in revenge, life is too short.

Move out and move on.

yvonne13_2

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

I've moved about 35 times in my life, have had good landlords, strange landlords and downright bad landlords.

However.....



Stop wasting your effort in revenge, life is too short.

Move out and move on.

:T:T:T I never wish revenge on people as I belive things happen for a reason.

OP I hope you take onboard what was said and move, then you will be saying you should have done it ages ago.

SavvyStudentSaver

real1314 wrote: »

Building what may be simple mis-understandings into something that ends up as hateful is not a good way to live a life. If the OP is doing this, they need to get some perspective.

The OP has described the LL as having her at her beck-and-call, but original posts do not really suggest this. Hence, it is possible that the OP is losing perspective and perhaps needs to get a view from someone, perhaps one of the other house sharers, on whether they are being fair or not?

Pointing this out to the OP should help them ensure they are acting appropriately.
No-one knows what went on at the weekend, but the OP started the thread on monday; after this unknown event. It may have been something major, but the OP has chosen not to say, so i can only comment on what the OP has said, none of which should result in feeling "hatred".
:cool:

I actually take offence at this. I lived with someone for a few months who did lots and lots of little things that by themselves could be seen as misunderstandings, and not things which should result in anything serious. But they happened all the time, and there were so many. As a result of it all, I became clinically depressed, an I hate the person who I lived with (who was previously my best friend), and am also vaguely scared of them. When I see them, I have to act as if they're not there- no verbal communication, or even acknowledgement, because I panic too much. I'm in counselling at the moment to try and deal with all of this, because the way it affected my self esteem, and stopped me trusting my own judgement is still affecting me, over a year later.

I don't tell anyone the list of what happened, because there's so much of it. I might give a few examples, but don't go into the whole thing because it's too long, too complicated, and I don't like going into it because it brings up all these bad emotions and stuff. And I don't expected to be judged for not going into details which upset me. Yet you appear to be doing this to the OP, even thought they've said there's something else they don't want to go into.

No, it's not a good way to live, and yes, it's important to get perspective, but when someone makes it uncomfortable to live in your own home, it affects you badly. And you don't need anyone else telling you that you're overreacting.

yvonne13_2

SavvyStudentSaver wrote: »

I actually take offence at this. I lived with someone for a few months who did lots and lots of little things that by themselves could be seen as misunderstandings, and not things which should result in anything serious. But they happened all the time, and there were so many. As a result of it all, I became clinically depressed, an I hate the person who I lived with (who was previously my best friend), and am also vaguely scared of them. When I see them, I have to act as if they're not there- no verbal communication, or even acknowledgement, because I panic too much. I'm in counselling at the moment to try and deal with all of this, because the way it affected my self esteem, and stopped me trusting my own judgement is still affecting me, over a year later.

I don't tell anyone the list of what happened, because there's so much of it. I might give a few examples, but don't go into the whole thing because it's too long, too complicated, and I don't like going into it because it brings up all these bad emotions and stuff. And I don't expected to be judged for not going into details which upset me. Yet you appear to be doing this to the OP, even thought they've said there's something else they don't want to go into.

No, it's not a good way to live, and yes, it's important to get perspective, but when someone makes it uncomfortable to live in your own home, it affects you badly. And you don't need anyone else telling you that you're overreacting.

I know that was hard for you to say and I hope in time you will feel like you old self again.

real1314

OP

I appreciate the time and thought you put into your response. (I haven't quoted it, 'cos it'd just bulk things out).

I think it's pretty clear that you need to prioritse finding somewhere else to live. I'd recommend that whether it;s through an agent or a LL direct, you make sure you meet the person you'll be dealing with, and that you can get along with them.

I'd agree, now that there's a clear picture, that your LL is out of order, but I'd suspect she doesn't even realise how inappropriate her behaviour is. As you've said, she still thinks it's her home/house, rather than a house that she simply owns, but is actually someone else's home.

I doubt she'll ever change, but that's not your problem. Why not drop this thread, concentrate on the future, post a new thread about any issues with finding somewhere new?

Good luck getting somewhere else to live. :cool:

real1314

missile

I don't understand your attitude. Why do you feel the need to be vindictive?

This LL has provided you with accomodation and you may need a reference.

top_drawer_2

I requested she protect my deposit and today I have received a notice to quit the property. She has made no mention of doing as I have requested, just that it will be returned to me on leaving the property.

Any further advice? What is my legal position? Can I object to viewings? What to do now re my deposit? I still believe she intends to try to keep my deposit claiming damage, one of my housemates thinks it is my fault in "waking the monster" so to speak.

Is there anything else I havent thought of, which you can offer me advice on?

TD

Ulfar

No you don't have to allow viewings.

I also wouldn't pay her the last months rent, this isn't legal but then so isn't protecting the deposit. Just make sure you leave the place in the same condition as when you moved in, take photos lots of them.

adouglasmhor

missile wrote: »

I don't understand your attitude. Why do you feel the need to be vindictive?

This LL has provided you with accomodation and you may need a reference.

The LL seems to have been an incompetent bullying interfering swine and the renter has no chance of a reference unless under duress through a lawyer. The LL was also paid for the accomodation she did not do it as a favour. :rotfl:

tbs624

top_drawer wrote: »

I requested she protect my deposit and today I have received a notice to quit the property. She has made no mention of doing as I have requested, just that it will be returned to me on leaving the property.

Any S21 Notice of Intent to Seek repossession will be invalid where the tenancy deposit should have been scheme registered but has not been.

Normally it is best for Ts to keep quiet about this so as to afford more time for the T to remain at the property - LL then finds out when trying to enforce S21 via court and has to start over. However, as you don't want to stay, what you could do is tell the LL (in writing) that her S21 Notice will only be valid if served after the Scheme Registration of your tenancy deposit and the provision of the scheme's prescribed info ( Housing Act 2004, s215). This may encourage her to scheme register pronto as she wants you out. (It can be done online in just a few minutes)

If your last request to the LL for the deposit to be registered was headed " letter before action" then you could also now enclose a copy of your application to the county court ( include a request for court costs in the claim)