Divorce costs

floss2

sportbeth wrote: »

thanks for all the responses all. We originally went 50/50 on the house equity and agreed all the contents very fairly, he's insisted on keeping his pension and shares (sounds like I'm being a pushover on that but I really dont want to be beholden to him on anything so I've agreed on the basis of a quick split)

It sounds like I might have to just cough up for it. Its no massive biggie but the principle seeing as he's keeping all his other assets. But I'd rather get shot of him as quickly as possible as he drinks heavily and I'm paranoid about him going for broke and turning up at mine claiming we're still married!

Are you sure you are getting all you are legally entitled to? If he is keeping his "assets", what is he offering in return - apart from admitting adultery? My ex had to admit that, but I still got a financial settlement from him in lieu of his pension pot.

Personally, I think you should be running this agreement via a solicitor, to be sure you have not unwittingly given up any rights.

Also, have you gone through mediation, as I thought that was a requirement nowadays? (My divorce came through in 2001, and was started before the rules changed).

sportbeth

Oh no, I'm well and truly aware that he is fiddling me out of the best part of £60k worth of shares that were acquired during the marriage and a pension pot worth about £100k. I genuinely dont care. I just want out. I've got the means to make my own pension pot in time and I'm relatively savvy re the stock market, I could rack up legal bills gunning for half the assets or I could leave the sad lonely man to rot in his own cash.

I know that sounds really stupid and beligerent, and even the new man is telling me to see a solicitor but I'm just keen to get out and get on with things.

zaksmum

My daughter paid about 6K for her divorce but could've done it a lot cheaper without a solicitor!

The only thing was that if SHE used a solicitor, HE would also need one, so it cost him 6K too. He was gutted!

Worth every penny, my daughter reckoned!!

sportbeth

See, the way things stand I can't afford to lose £6k so the principle of me getting a share on £30k that I dont want just doesnt add up for the stress and nastiness it would cause.

I would be happy to make him stump up the £340 for the divorce though, as he's already giving mutual friends the bleeding heart routine about being skint. That would make me smile more than getting his shares!

RAS

Hi

it will cost about £50 to run your financial settlement past a lawyer and get advice. Then tell ex that you have been advised by a lawyer that you should get top-end of possibilities.

I suspect you will get a rather better deal than the one you are heading for, not least because there are lots of ways that he can reduce the equity and still let you have half of it if he wants to hurt you. And all the time his pension and shares are safe.

Padstow

sportbeth wrote: »

Hi all,

I'm about to (rather happily I might add) petition for divorce on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour. Some of you may recall that I put up with a philandering husband both before I was daft enough to marry him but after we married). I've since got a new job, new home and new man

One question, as I'm petitioning for the divorce, am I entitled to request that he contributes? I think I'm looking at the following fees:-

- Divorce Petition fee
£340 -
- Decree Absolute fee
£45 - Consent Order fee
£45
Typical Cost Of A DIY Divorce

There's no issue of getting a solicitor involved as we're got no children and have agreed financially the terms of the split, I'm just reluctant to bear the costs of £600 odd as I was the only one trying in the marriage!

I've googled this all over the place and can't seem to find any answers.

Hi, good news. If you are petitioning him for either unreasonable behaviour or adultery and I recommend the former, (no contest) he will pay the full cost. Where it asks, put the cost to him. Also tick every box asking ancillary relief etc. It won't happen but protects you.

sportbeth

thanks for your steer and advice everyone. Thankfully we've already done the equity buyout and my mortgage using the same IFA, and I've got emails from him mentioning the property valuation for my equity share so there's no funny business going on there.

I might start tinkering with the paperwork today. i can't go for adultery as the original affair was in 2007 so all evidence I have is null and void. After 2009 which was the last instance of him screwing around I stopped looking and just started on my escape plan. Plenty to get him with on Unreasonable Behaviour though! :T:T:T

peachyprice

Padstow wrote: »

Hi, good news. If you are petitioning him for either unreasonable behaviour or adultery and I recommend the former, (no contest) he will pay the full cost. Where it asks, put the cost to him. Also tick every box asking ancillary relief etc. It won't happen but protects you.

But if OP wants a quick divorce isn't this a dangerous game to play for the sake of £340?

Presumably they won't even process the divorce without payment, and if he doesn't want the divorce he's not going to trundle down to the court with his cheque book. That would put him firmly back in control of OP and her future.