Confetti

BLUis

sugarwalsh wrote: »

I do think people expect too much from a wedding now. I would not, as a guest, expect to be provided with confetti, a button hole/cosage, favours or free bar. I would expect some sort of food and at least a 'toast' drink, but I do think people feel too pressurised to supply everything.

I think in part this is due to the bride and grooms desire to have a 'perfect' wedding, so they take control of every aspect, confetti included. I always take a little box of my own - if it is supplied then obviously I throw that, but I would not expect it. I won't be providing any for our wedding, put it that way! Over the last 10 years everyone wants an individual, spectacular wedding. I agree with the fact that weddings reflect the individuals involved, but not always at their expense.
Megan

I have spent hours trying to decide what confetti I should get, petals, paper, shapes, what the cones/boxes/bags/baskets should be like. Then I read this message and I thought, why am I spending all this time worrying about something that is always brought to weddings anyway!!! I have now deleted it out of my basket on ebay and will now stop stressing about it! I dont care if the photographer doesnt get a shot of people throwing confetti over me. As long as we get some nice ones of us, I dont care.

Blo0dy hell, I feel liberated!!! I'll spend my £30 on something I want - not something I think I should have cus thas what everyone else does!!

Thanks Megan!!xx

sugarwalsh

Hooray, I am pleased I have freed you from your confetti hell! Confetti pics can be nice, but to be honest, why is going to miss them from your album?
Also, as the bride and groom tend to leave the ceremony first I feel it is a bit contrived when done after. It's different if you can throw it whilst they are exiting the ceremony, but where offers that now?
spend your £30 on some knickers or good make up or a fab bottle of fizz.
megan

Idiophreak

BLUis wrote: »

I have spent hours trying to decide what confetti I should get, petals, paper, shapes, what the cones/boxes/bags/baskets should be like. Then I read this message and I thought, why am I spending all this time worrying about something that is always brought to weddings anyway!!! I have now deleted it out of my basket on ebay and will now stop stressing about it! I dont care if the photographer doesnt get a shot of people throwing confetti over me. As long as we get some nice ones of us, I dont care.

Blo0dy hell, I feel liberated!!! I'll spend my £30 on something I want - not something I think I should have cus thas what everyone else does!!

Thanks Megan!!xx

I think that stressing about anything in a wedding's pretty much a bad idea, but I definitely didn't find the confetti to be one of the things worth worrying about. We found some we liked and bought it (<£10), then ticked it off the list. Probably took 5 minutes and (I hate to say it) we've got a *fantastic* photo of the two of us while it was all being thrown.

Idiophreak

sugarwalsh wrote: »

Also, as the bride and groom tend to leave the ceremony first I feel it is a bit contrived when done after. It's different if you can throw it whilst they are exiting the ceremony, but where offers that now?

I see what you mean, but I guess it depends on the venues. We had our wedding in the church, but confetti was only allowed on the road outside, so it actually worked out pretty well - we had our photos done in the church grounds, then when we left to get into the car everyone did the confetti.

I've been to civil ceremonies where the reception's in the same room as the ceremony and throwing confetti just seems like the *worst* idea

floss2

neneromanova wrote: »

Are you saying we have to buy our own confetti if we want people to throw it over us once we're married? I thought guests were expected to bring it?

This was the only thing I was remotely bridezilla about - it HAD to be petals that matched my colours!

neneromanova wrote: »

Is it just me or have people gotten too expecting with weddings nowadays? Free confetti, free bar, favours, food, cake....

sugarwalsh wrote: »

I do think people expect too much from a wedding now. I would not, as a guest, expect to be provided with confetti, a button hole/cosage, favours or free bar. I would expect some sort of food and at least a 'toast' drink, but I do think people feel too pressurised to supply everything.

I think in part this is due to the bride and grooms desire to have a 'perfect' wedding, so they take control of every aspect, confetti included. I always take a little box of my own - if it is supplied then obviously I throw that, but I would not expect it. I won't be providing any for our wedding, put it that way! Over the last 10 years everyone wants an individual, spectacular wedding. I agree with the fact that weddings reflect the individuals involved, but not always at their expense.
Megan

Our guests were fed & watered on a budget package at a leading hotel in our home town; only the wedding party had buttonholes or corsages; the favours cost £7.48 for 50 so less than 15p each; the cake was a simple budget one; everyone bought their own drinks after their 2 glasses of wine & fizz for the toast were drunk......personally I don't think that was controlling nor were we pressurised into providing everything for our guests - if something was available or provided it was because one or both of us wanted it.

They were OUR GUESTS, we wanted to have a lovely hassle-free meal with them to celebrate our wedding, we paid for it all without going into debt, and that was our choice for our day.

floss2

Idiophreak wrote: »

I think that stressing about anything in a wedding's pretty much a bad idea, but I definitely didn't find the confetti to be one of the things worth worrying about. We found some we liked and bought it (<£10), then ticked it off the list. Probably took 5 minutes and (I hate to say it) we've got a *fantastic* photo of the two of us while it was all being thrown.

If one gets too stressed about little things, one runs the risk of not enjoying the occasion.....which is a shame really.

We also have fab confetti photos of us next to our tram on the Promenade in the sunshine .

BLUis

Idiophreak wrote: »

I think that stressing about anything in a wedding's pretty much a bad idea, but I definitely didn't find the confetti to be one of the things worth worrying about. We found some we liked and bought it (<£10), then ticked it off the list. Probably took 5 minutes and (I hate to say it) we've got a *fantastic* photo of the two of us while it was all being thrown.

I think I have been trying 'too hard' to make sure everything is 'perfect'. We have everything sorted.

£30 on a bottle fizz in the room on the wedding night instead me thinks!!

74jax

BLUis wrote: »

Blo0dy hell, I feel liberated!!! I'll spend my £30 on something I want - not something I think I should have cus thas what everyone else does!!

Thanks Megan!!xx

A wedding should not make you feel you HAVE to do things because it is what OTHER people do. Where is the fun in that. If you don't have confetti on your 'must have' list then save your money. Other people might really want 'that' photo, they do look fab with friends in the background.

Remember your wedding day is full of all your ideas and your love and planning and it doesn't have room for what you 'think' you should be doing or what people expect. Guests expect a marriage and that is what you give them :T

sugarwalsh

Floss 2 - I wasn't having a dig at your wedding! Clearly as I had no prior knoledge of what you did or didn't do. I was simply saying I think the pressure to have a magazine perfect wedding has increased dramatically over the past few years. It sounds like you were very sensible with what you chose to do. At the end of the day, it is entirely up to the B and G, it is their day and their money afterall. I just think pressure to have this 'idealistic' day is too great.

Idio - confetti can be lovely, but it hardly makes or breaks a wedding. The only time, however, I have felt a bit uncomfortable at a wedding is when handed some rose petals (Or equivilant) and not told when to throw it. It then just becomes something you are clasping onto, waiting for the photographer to say 'Now'!

Bluis - a bottle of fixx in the room is FAR more my kind of thing!
Megan

becca0417

We have confetti cones but I'm filling them with dried petals from the rose bush in my front garden and the one my mum has in memory of my nan so they are special