any one feeling like ending it all

david1958

im on prednisone steroid tablets at the moment,to help my nasal polyps shrink.untill my opperation,
only thing is thiswill be my 9th opperation in 15 years,and they always come back.ive been on waiting list 3 months.

Dizzy_Ditzy

david1958 wrote: »

im on prednisone steroid tablets at the moment,to help my nasal polyps shrink.untill my opperation,
only thing is thiswill be my 9th opperation in 15 years,and they always come back.ive been on waiting list 3 months.

you shouldnt have much longer to wait until your operation. You could always give them a quick call and let them know that you would be willing to take a date at short notice (that is indeed if you are willing to take a date at short notice)

You need to talk to some professionals about the rest though.

somethingcorporate

LadyMissA wrote: »

I didn't realise I was telling anyone to take them or not all I said was they aren't good for you

You have based your advice on a sample of 1, hardly unbiased.

Let the GP decide what is best for them.

dandelionclock30

Where I live there is also a crisis line people can ring and a drop in centre on an evening for those who feel suicidal.Is there anything like that near you? Also if things are that bad, I suggest that you look at if you are on the right benefits.If your suicidal are you well enough to work? If not go to the CAB and ask them for help regarding which benefits to claim.
Also like the others say go to your G.P, and I found it very useful when I was depressed going for walks and bike rides as they helped my mood loads.Hope you feel better soon.

LadyMissA

somethingcorporate wrote: »

You have based your advice on a sample of 1, hardly unbiased.

Let the GP decide what is best for them.

well I am sure I am depressed but I wouldnt take them nor would I go to see my doctor as they do not care

but good luck to the op

Evil_Olive

Regarding the sanction - I had a similar issue with a job that had variable shifts either starting at 5am or finishing at 1am in a town 15 miles away from where I live that had no night bus service.

Be aware that the JC won't necessarily go to the trouble of checking any travel difficulties for you and just telling them that there is no public transport that will get you there on time may not be enough (it wasn't for me) they may put the onus on you to prove it.

In the end I had to phone the employer (pretending I wanted to know before applying) and get an exhaustive list of every shift start/end time the job would require and then spent two days compiling a comprehensive list of all first and last bus/train/tube times (printed out from internet timetables), with a written statement pointing out how late I would be for each early shift and how many times a week I would have to sleep on a park bench due to not being able to get home and how much more than my shifts wages a taxi there and back would come to (got written quotes from local firms). I attached all this to the appeal form & the the sanction was lifted. Not before I'd spent 2 weeks living exclusively on value porridge oats made up with water tho

I wouldn't mind, but I had applied for 7 other jobs THROUGH THE JOBCENTRE that same week so it must've been obvious to them that I had a good reason.

Maybe you won't have to go as far as I did, but do be prepared and start collecting evidence together now. If you are able to put as much irrefutable evidence in with your original appeal, whether you need to or not, it's much more likely to go through first time without a hitch. Possibly may get sorted faster too.

purple.sarah

LadyMissA wrote: »

I didn't realise I was telling anyone to take them or not all I said was they aren't good for you

You were telling someone not to take them:

LadyMissA wrote: »

do not take them as they are really not good for you. You need someone to talk to

LadyMissA

purple.sarah wrote: »

You were telling someone not to take them:

well I will take that back then as I have no experience of depression other that feeling it myself

OP I apologise for saying do not take them. Do what the GP tells you I guess if you feel its right.

obviously the headline here is a cry for help. like i say good luck

Robisere

Hi David
I am 66 years old now, but at 51 I found myself in the same position. I am ex-seaman, ex-miner, ex-soldier and my longest career was as a mechanic, eventually a workshop foreman. At 51, an old injury caught up with me and I was registered disabled. The effect was absolutely devastating and I can remember vividly how it felt. Two sets of people helped me to survive. My wife and my 2 local GP's, who fought to get me what I needed. Eventually I attended Colleges, one of which was a Disability college. I retrained and entered another career, got a job but that involved traveling 15 miles into a city and I became worse. I lost that position and retired. In 2005 my disability reached the point at which I was about to become a quadriplegic, but a pioneering operation saved my limbs. I am still weak on my left side but I can walk. In 2009 I had an emergency operation and lost half my bowel, resulting in a Colostomy.

There were times during all of this when I wanted to walk into the sea (I cannot swim) but the same two groups kept me going.

I tell you all this not because I want to say that any one person can be worse or better at withstanding life's problems than another, but that we are all different. And I have been in that dark place you find yourself in now, more than once. There really will come a time when you are out of that place, David. You have to believe that and you have to see someone who can help you do that.

I hope you have a family that you can turn to, or at least a very good friend: in fact friends are sometimes easier to talk to, than family members. I also hope that you have a good, understanding GP. Go to see him or her and, as one person here has said, open your heart. Remember that patient confidentiality means that what you say need go no further, and the days when you could be told to "Pull yourself together" have gone.

Good luck to you David, please see your GP and there can be better times ahead.

david1958

Robisere wrote: »

Hi David
I am 66 years old now, but at 51 I found myself in the same position. I am ex-seaman, ex-miner, ex-soldier and my longest career was as a mechanic, eventually a workshop foreman. At 51, an old injury caught up with me and I was registered disabled. The effect was absolutely devastating and I can remember vividly how it felt. Two sets of people helped me to survive. My wife and my 2 local GP's, who fought to get me what I needed. Eventually I attended Colleges, one of which was a Disability college. I retrained and entered another career, got a job but that involved traveling 15 miles into a city and I became worse. I lost that position and retired. In 2005 my disability reached the point at which I was about to become a quadriplegic, but a pioneering operation saved my limbs. I am still weak on my left side but I can walk. In 2009 I had an emergency operation and lost half my bowel, resulting in a Colostomy.

There were times during all of this when I wanted to walk into the sea (I cannot swim) but the same two groups kept me going.

I tell you all this not because I want to say that any one person can be worse or better at withstanding life's problems than another, but that we are all different. And I have been in that dark place you find yourself in now, more than once. There really will come a time when you are out of that place, David. You have to believe that and you have to see someone who can help you do that.

I hope you have a family that you can turn to, or at least a very good friend: in fact friends are sometimes easier to talk to, than family members. I also hope that you have a good, understanding GP. Go to see him or her and, as one person here has said, open your heart. Remember that patient confidentiality means that what you say need go no further, and the days when you could be told to "Pull yourself together" have gone.

Good luck to you David, please see your GP and there can be better times ahead.

thanks for your reply.
ive been doing a lot of thinking lately,and have been thinking is this hell where we are now,because of all the suffering and pain.
and we might go to a better place when were dead.