Accused of benefit fraud!!

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title: Accused of benefit fraud!!

thread to date implies : claim ended by DWP

drwho2011

mich2201 wrote: »

drwho. They did ask me if family/friends saw us as partners, to which I said yes. They also asked me about the household chores/shopping etc, to which I said no.
The question I did worry about is whether he has a key to my flat, which I answered yes . Maybe I have just been too honest?

If you weren't honest it could have gone worse.

From what you posted it read to me that you area couple that maintain separate homes.

However if it was that simple don't you think every single parent might be inclined to do this?

18 months is a long time tbh, maybe its time to clearly define the relationship because right now the DWP has defined it for you.

mich2201

Adereterial wrote: »

You're a couple - he hardly ever spends any time at his own flat and spends all of his non working, non sleeping time with you. Your family see you as partners and he has free access to your flat.

I'm not denying that we are a couple and spend a lot of time together, but does that really mean I should lose my benfits over this? I have 2 children and now have very little money coming in and no way to pay my rent. I could really lose my home over this if I cannot convince them they have made a wrong decision.
Should he really be forced to move in and support me and my children when all either of us wanted was a casual relationship/friendship.
I have been job hunting for a long time before this with no success

McKneff

Why not just move in together if all he does is sleep at his house and then comes to yours. Seems a bit daft him paying all that rent just to sleep in it for a few hours sleep.

other than that, if he has been spending all that time with you and not contributing, he has eaten at yours, used electric, gas, water, for 18 months, time for some payback, get him to pay the rent

I really think you have been a bit naive to be honest, and the shame is that you still think yu are in the right.

Badger_Lady

He doesn't have to move in but yeah, they're saying he should help you out with your expenses. Which is clearly not a step you would have naturally made The only other option now, if you're not serious about him, is to break it off completely.

drwho2011

mich2201 wrote: »

I'm not denying that we are a couple and spend a lot of time together, but does that really mean I should lose my benfits over this? I have 2 children and now have very little money coming in and no way to pay my rent. I could really lose my home over this if I cannot convince them they have made a wrong decision.
Should he really be forced to move in and support me and my children when all either of us wanted was a casual relationship/friendship.
I have been job hunting for a long time before this with no success

There's no simple answer to the loss of benefits but you have clearly define yourselves as a couple which the state believes should support each other.

Right now you have two homes, either of which you maybe able to live in, however he is pretty much living at your house for more than 28% of his time already.

Cherry_Bomb

mich2201 wrote: »

I'm not denying that we are a couple and spend a lot of time together, but does that really mean I should lose my benfits over this? I have 2 children and now have very little money coming in and no way to pay my rent. I could really lose my home over this if I cannot convince them they have made a wrong decision.
Should he really be forced to move in and support me and my children when all either of us wanted was a casual relationship/friendship.
I have been job hunting for a long time before this with no success

I don't think anyones denying this will cause financial hardship for you but you can't have it both ways. The perks of being in a relationship yet the benefits of a single parent.
It just doesn't work like that

mich2201

McKneff wrote: »

Why not just move in together if all he does is sleep at his house and then comes to yours. Seems a bit daft him paying all that rent just to sleep in it for a few hours sleep.

I know it does seem daft but he has just got divorced and doesnt want to get back into the whole domesticated situation just yet. He is also about to buy his own place instead of renting. The way things have been suited us both . Also I private rent which is very expensive and I worry that even if i found part time work we would not be able to make ends meet.

paddedjohn

drwho2011 wrote: »

There's no simple answer to the loss of benefits but you have clearly define yourselves as a couple which the state believes should support each other.

Right now you have two homes, either of which you maybe able to live in, however he is pretty much living at your house for more than 28% of his time already.[/QUOTe

Whats this mean???????

Adereterial

mich2201 wrote: »

I'm not denying that we are a couple and spend a lot of time together, but does that really mean I should lose my benfits over this? I have 2 children and now have very little money coming in and no way to pay my rent. I could really lose my home over this if I cannot convince them they have made a wrong decision.
Should he really be forced to move in and support me and my children when all either of us wanted was a casual relationship/friendship.
I have been job hunting for a long time before this with no success

The state expects partners to support each other, not for you to rely on benefits. They have not made the wrong decision - you have to decide whether the relationship is worth continuing with or not.

18 months is not a casual relationship. Him spending all of his free time with you is not a casual relationship.