I've got a date on Friday....with my husband!

mum-to-4_2

Been together 7 years but things been going wrong for a while, we both have trust issues and arguements have become more frequent. I also feel he has lost the respect he once had for me and now takes me for granted. Last week it all got too much and we separated. Its been a week, the kids aren't dealing with it very well and neither are we (husband and I) but we've both agreed there's no point getting back together unless we can resolve our issues or we'll end up in the same boat.

We have decided to take it back to square 1, living separately for now and start by going on 'dates' and have fun together and respect eachother again, Getting all our issues out in the open and learning to build the trust back up. He works shifts so he should still be able to see plenty of the kids which is good.

I'd never imagined doing this and it sounds a bit crazy but if it works it will be worth it. I think living on his own for the past week is already showing him just how much I do for him.

Has anyone done anything similar to this before and if so did it work? I do think this will either make us or break us, the love is definately still there but lots of other problems.

Our first date lol is at the weekend....I feel like a teenager again hahaha

harrys_nan

That is a very good start, make sure you talk and talk and talk about things that's on both of your minds.
I am sure if people talked a lot more marriages would work including my own, I never realised my ex was that unhappy, he never showed it at all, just went and found someone else and had an affair.
I hope everything goes very well and you can sort things out x

faerie~spangles

Good for you.

Remember this is a first date so don't go inviting him back to your place for a 'night cap'.;)

Seriously tho it will just confuse the kids if daddy is there in the morning.

Enjoy your date

londonsurrey

Awww, that's sweet. I agree with Faerie - remember, no going beyond first base on a first date.

mum-to-4_2

lol thanks ladies, yes i've told him we start from scratch so there'll be no hamky panky until we've worked through our problems which is likely to be months

NAR

mum-to-4 wrote: »

hanky panky until we've worked through our problems which is likely to be months

:eek: :eek: Did it take that long first time round? :rotfl::rotfl:

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

I assume that someone will be having the kids so you can go out without him pretty much whenever you like? Otherwise, he has the freedom to do that and you are tied to the kids except for when he's around.