Living with ADHD Blog

embob74

The fidgeting sounds familiar too! I did always think DD would do well in later life as she can (and does) talk to anyone with relative ease. Which is worrying sometimes as she doesn't seem to grasp what is appropriate and consequences of talking to strangers but I think in the future it will be an asset to her. It has certainly helped her make friends as she is always willing to talk!

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dizzybee wrote: »

Hi,
could you pm me your blog has i would love to follow your story my son has ADHD it wasn't easy when he was growing up,always been expelled from school,miss behaving when we were out and about etc he his know a strapping 6ft 4 21 year old with his own home and a full time job he loves,he still has good and bad days but his employers have been great,they know that if they need any advice or help they only have to ring me and i will be there for him.

Fantastic, employers being that supportive is great. I decided not to disclose my ADHD to my work, this has helped me control my emotions at work. I feel myself I will never grow out of ADHD, and I have those small things that I struggle with sometimes, but 95% of the time everything is okay.

dizzyb99_2

Embob, we were in a similar situation with our son and I also had some concerns about 'labelling' ,however after a deterioration in his behaviour over a two year period we finally managed to access some help and he was finally diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 14 1/2.
This was an absolute turning point.We were no longer blaming ourselves for having such an unruly child and consequently totally changed the way in which we interacted and managed him. My son was at last able to understand why he sometimes acted so impulively and inappropriately and we were able access more support for him from the school. Prior to this the school were doing thier best to have him transferred to a local 'naughty boys school' where he would have been eaten alive!
He decided to give the medication a try as he was starting his GCSE year and thought it might help. We gave him all of the information and allowed him to make the choice and because it has been his decision he can see how the medication affects him and feels that it is beneficial for him.
He completed school andcame out with reasonable GCSE grades and is currently studying brick laying in college, which he absolutely loves and is apparently really good at as he won first place in a competition in college just before Christmas. We are so proud at the way he has managed to turn things around for himself.
Life is still 'interesting' and he is still hard work at times but we feel so much more positive for his future than we really thought would ever be possible.

Sorry for the long post but I thought it might help

WillEH could you also pm me with the link for your blog, I'd love to read it.

natbags

Hi there, I would really love your blog details too, if you could PM me?

My son is 11 and was diagnosed with ADHD last year. He had always been talkative, impulsive etc... etc... however school decided he was becoming too disruptive and referred us on to CAHMS - long story short, we had his hearing tested (he was very loud, and people started commenting!) and the tester/doctor suggested/suspected ADHD, and very glad and appreciative of the suggestion we are too - as we were at the end of our tether and didn't know what to do with the behaviour problems which could be outrageous He was then formally diagnosed after the varying health professionals became involved and we had to go on a 'parent course' which truly was useful and we learnt how to deal with things differently (when not to shout, respond, when to leave things) - bedtime was a real nightmare and how it may feel from his perspective (which is why OP's blog would be a great insight) and the routes open to us. DS did decide (he is very mature in his approach to some things and we have always been very open and honest with him) that he wanted to try medication and the relief he felt, when it wasn't him getting into trouble at school every day, was a joy to see.
He is still learning to deal with it, he has asked us not to tell people about his condition, although obviously school are aware and close family etc... and so to date a very positive outcome for him, incidentally because we have got this extra help for him, other options have become open to us too, such as an opportunity to have some coaching on how to deal with the transition to high school, which may well be one of our next challenges
On our course it was suggested that we watch the Two Ronnies 'Fork Handles' sketch just to remind ourselves how it sometimes may feel - very funny but very true too. Look forward to reading your blog and apologies for the long post

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If you click on WillEH's profile and the contact tab, his blog address is there (a short cut for those who may wish to read it).

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Happy Two, Happy Child.

The first 2 years of my life went naturally well, but at 2 years old, this all changed. My father left my mum. Naturally I don’t remember this, but for many years I wondered if this somehow unconsciously started to trigger my ADHD. Some nights I awake, trying to grasp what I dreamed about, all I can remember is seeing my mum cry, and feeling saddened by it. I wish I could go back and just cuddle her, but as a baby I was naturally powerless to understand. I sometimes wonder what life would be if mum and dad had never split up, but I will never know. I still sometimes feel hatred towards dad, I sometimes want to blame him for how I was as a child, but how can I blame someone I love so dearly? Life has its funny turn of events.

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natbags wrote: »

Hi there, I would really love your blog details too, if you could PM me?

My son is 11 and was diagnosed with ADHD last year. He had always been talkative, impulsive etc... etc... however school decided he was becoming too disruptive and referred us on to CAHMS - long story short, we had his hearing tested (he was very loud, and people started commenting!) and the tester/doctor suggested/suspected ADHD, and very glad and appreciative of the suggestion we are too - as we were at the end of our tether and didn't know what to do with the behaviour problems which could be outrageous He was then formally diagnosed after the varying health professionals became involved and we had to go on a 'parent course' which truly was useful and we learnt how to deal with things differently (when not to shout, respond, when to leave things) - bedtime was a real nightmare and how it may feel from his perspective (which is why OP's blog would be a great insight) and the routes open to us. DS did decide (he is very mature in his approach to some things and we have always been very open and honest with him) that he wanted to try medication and the relief he felt, when it wasn't him getting into trouble at school every day, was a joy to see.
He is still learning to deal with it, he has asked us not to tell people about his condition, although obviously school are aware and close family etc... and so to date a very positive outcome for him, incidentally because we have got this extra help for him, other options have become open to us too, such as an opportunity to have some coaching on how to deal with the transition to high school, which may well be one of our next challenges
On our course it was suggested that we watch the Two Ronnies 'Fork Handles' sketch just to remind ourselves how it sometimes may feel - very funny but very true too. Look forward to reading your blog and apologies for the long post

I find it extremely interesting where he's asked for people not to know about his "condition". I was the same, I'd be very aware of who my parents spoke to when I was younger, I hated that people knew I had ADHD, like I was some kind of outcast. I'd see it as a disadvantage, and I was scared people would not like me for who I was. Only up to a few weeks ago I decided I wasn't ashamed of it. It's nothing to be ashamed about, I've excelled in certain areas, and now hold a senior job at a young age due to partly my ADHD. It does have it's advantages. You just have to learn to control it, and as I did, used it to my advantage (non stop working!!!)

natbags

it's quite funny because on our 'course' we were told that ADHD children always excel at something and my son does, he's the most teccy 'geek' that you could imagine, has all electrical devices connected up, I can be on the PC and suddenly music come blasting out of it, writes programmes etc... Excel spreadsheets about costs - with very complicated formulas, way beyond what he's been taught at school - he leaves me way behind!!! We were also reminded of the very successful people with ADHD, like Richard Branson, Robbie Williams etc...
I'm sure one day he will be OK for people to know, I just don't think he wanted other children at school labeling him or their parents!

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natbags wrote: »

it's quite funny because on our 'course' we were told that ADHD children always excel at something and my son does, he's the most teccy 'geek' that you could imagine, has all electrical devices connected up, I can be on the PC and suddenly music come blasting out of it, writes programmes etc... Excel spreadsheets about costs - with very complicated formulas, way beyond what he's been taught at school - he leaves me way behind!!! We were also reminded of the very successful people with ADHD, like Richard Branson, Robbie Williams etc...
I'm sure one day he will be OK for people to know, I just don't think he wanted other children at school labeling him or their parents!

Again, understandable he doesn't want people to know. I myself also became quite tech savvy, but not brilliant. Your son sounds like a smart kid!

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