worried about a single Dad is there anywhere I could get help for him ?

Mojisola

ska_lover wrote: »

I know what you mean, when i was a single mother, I had two slipped disks and degenerating disks which meant I was on morphine and literally could not move. I was in that much agony, had it gone on much longer I would have taken my own life.

We only managed to get shopping in, because I explained to my then 9 year old son how to do on line shopping, I could not even sit upright to do it myself, and he ordered ready meals he could warm up himself and other essentials. I lost four stone as most of the time I was in such agony I wouldnt eat and noone really noticed that I wasn't.

Do you know who offered a speck of assistance? No one. Single mothers as females do not get a second thought. Time after time I would lay there in such pain thinking of taking all my tablets in one go.

If it is a bloke, peoples whole attitude changes.

Mojisola wrote: »

Who did you ask for help?

I asked because I just found out that a neighbour could have done with some help this time last year but I didn't know about her health problems then. I would have offered regular help if I'd known.

jopsey

Thanks for support and advice I have gone to my local sure start today and spoke to one of the community helpers and gave his details (with his permission)
I know my neighbour has asked for help from social services but as yet nothing has been done (I know he won't be classed as an emergency because children still going to school and looking well kept)
I will mention it in school too my neighbour is a very quiet man and I don't think he speak's to many of the parent's I only really know him because our son's play well .He and his boy's have been through so much in the last year he relocated back to England after the tsunami in japan with nothing

To the lady who say's it would be different if it was a woman single Mum, I beg to differ I would (and have) help anybody in the same situation but the fact is there are 2 lovely little boy's in the home and the parent need's a helping hand till he get's back on his feet he has asked for help .
Thanks again I will update if I get help and I am no saint but as a parent I know how hard it can be with young children without trying to do it single handed and poorly

ska_lover

liana_y2kuk wrote: »

Wow ska lover there is a lot of bitterness in that post. Im not sure that its what the OP is looking for though. Maybe it would be better suited to the vent forum.

Please feel free to me on ignore if you don't like my posts, save yourself the trouble of replying and telling me that you do not approve.

ska_lover

Mojisola wrote: »

I asked because I just found out that a neighbour could have done with some help this time last year but I didn't know about her health problems then. I would have offered regular help if I'd known.

Hi there,
I asked family, friends and neighbours, but everyone was far too busy with their own lives. In fact whilst I was incapacitated, It went the other way, and people tended to stay away all together! It was a very upsetting period.

Mojisola

ska_lover wrote: »

Hi there,
I asked family, friends and neighbours, but everyone was far too busy with their own lives. In fact whilst I was incapacitated, It went the other way, and people tended to stay away all together! It was a very upsetting period.

That's awful! I would have been upset, too.