husband hiding my car and housekeys:(

sexylulubelle

well im faced with a problem guys, woke up this morning to find all my keys had been removed, husband and i have not been able to see eye to eye for a while:( but i think this takes the absolute mickey, not really sure what to do, some advice would be nice as im close to packing my bags and leaving!

doodoot

May be a silly question, but have you asked him where they are?

Also, sounds like something has triggered him to do this.

Did you argue last night?

January20

Unless you give more details, you can't expect people to advise you properly.

pearl123

If he can't be reasonable - how about hiding his clothes! (Yes I know it's a stupid reply, but OP has not exactly given us alot of detail!)

Mupette

if he has locked you in and taken the keys then call the police

January20

I have to admit though, that even without any details, I would be furious if somebody hid my keys -for whatever reason. The implications to me would be equal to a lack of freedom = inability to drive my car, to get in and out of my home.

shebangs

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sexylulubelle

January20 wrote: »

I have to admit though, that even without any details, I would be furious if somebody hid my keys -for whatever reason. The implications to me would be equal to a lack of freedom = inability to drive my car, to get in and out of my home.

we did argue last night I think he thinks I'm going to leave him, he is very insecure at the moment, he lost his dad a few weeks ago, it has been very traumatic for all of us, as I loved my father-in-law very much, I dont think my husband is dealing with his grief very well:( and thats why i'm not sure what to do but things are not good between us, we have a gorgeous little boy too, he is my world just feel very sad and torn, but cannot deal with feeling suffocated and trapped, he has never done this before, but actually feel very hurt by his actions!

meg72

Has he done this to stop you leaving him? He may just wantto talk you out of it,where is he now?Can you talk to him?

duchy

Is he afraid you ARE going to leave and that's why he's stopping you having the means to do so ?

(Not for one moment saying he's right to do it-just asking about the reasons why he did it)

Edit-Ah OK we posted at the same time. Yes he's bang out of order BUT he's also not usually like this and has just lost
his Dad so is acting out of character ? If that's the case I'd take a different approach than if this was "normal" behavour.
Grief makes us do some completely out of character things sometimes -He may be feeling he's lost his Dad and now he's losing you too
and is simply panicking.

rachbc

if he has locked you in call the police, leave and give him time to consider is actions. Is your son also locked in with you?

Not syaing leave for good as there is obviously a lot going on at the moment that he needs support with but he needs to know his actions are not acceptable.