regrets

bazzaboo

I regret getting married to my ex when I was only 19 and pretty immature, but back then I thought I was all grown up. I'm sure if we'd both been older and wiser we would still be together.
But then if I wouldnt have married him I would have never come to this country and met the dad of my children.

January20

treeca wrote: »

What's your biggest regret in life?
Mine is getting into a relationship with a man who is a heavy smoker who is now suffering from a lung complaint

In my humble opinion, regrets are a waste of time and energy because you can't go back and change what you did. The decisions and the mistakes you made shaped the person you are today. If you happy with the person you are today, you should have not regrets.

FatVonD

In my early 20s I took a job in the advertising department of a mail order catalogue for whom one of the biggest ad agencies had previously handled their bigger campaigns. I came up with a cracking campaign and they were no longer needed apart from to book space. The account execs, who I'd lunched with previously with my boss, asked to take me out to lunch on my own and when I went asked me how much I was earning, laughed at how small the salary was and said they'd double it for me to work for them. I was naive and shy and thought they were taking the pi$$ out of me, it was only years later I realised how much money they were about to lose and that they were deadly serious.

Prior to that I worked in-house in the advertising department of a big London store and we used to take our afternoon tea break in the store's cafe. Two young and very wealthy Iranians would be there every day (laden with shopping bags) and one would spend the whole time staring adoringly at me (I was stunning in those days, I feel I can say that without sounding vain now that I'm old and fat :rofl: ) One day I plucked up the courage to smile and he got up to speak to me and I lost my nerve and bolted! I don't exactly regret it so much as wonder whether I might have got a Kensington flat out of it

I wish I hadn't sold my house (rather than renting it out and renting somewhere smaller) when my son was small but it bought me 4 stress-free years off work to be with him so I don't regret it in that respect. I wish I hadn't married my first husband but then if I hadn't I wouldn't have my son so I can't really regret that either.

marywooyeah

My only regret in life is being bullied into having a termination by my ex when I was 19. I wish I'd been strong enough to leave. It destroyed my life and I'll never get over losing my baby.

I know they say what doesnt kill you makes you stronger but nothing good has ever come of what happened to me, it was such a waste of a precious little life.

vintagebrighton

This has been a thought provoking thread. I've done (or not done) lots that maybe I should regret but I don't think I do. I'm not one for whining over the past, I've learn from my many mistakes and moved on. The only thing I do regret is not recognising how my goddawful childhood had a hold on me and led me to restricting my own choices and living for so long. It wasn't till I had a breakdown, treatment and counselling that I could recognise the damage and come to terms with it in my own head. Apart from that, I'm happy with who I am and who I love so I can't regret anything I could do much about

Birdy12

If anything, I regret the things that I didn't do as opposed to things I have done. Oh, for the gift of looking into the future...

Lotus-eater

Kaz2904 wrote: »

I wonder this from time to time and can't think of anything really. Until I read Lotuseater's post about nicotine. Yeah, I regret starting smoking. Hopefully one day, I will eventually kick the evil weed.

Do try e cigarettes, they are my latest evangelical thing, they really do work, I've been off fags for 4 months now.

Look here if you want any help. (which you will need)
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As I told my OH, it's worth a try, I've got nothing to lose.

Gillyx

I regret being so naive and listening to my own mothers lies. It worked out in the end though, so maybe it needed to happen for me to see who she really is.

Saturnalia

Staying too long and putting in a lot of effort in relationships which were never going to work as I was the only one putting in the work and taking it seriously. I believed the old horlicks "relationships are hard work" whereas now I look around and see that the healthy functioning relationships around me require some work like any friendship does, and hit tricky patches now and again, but in the main the energy just flows and in both directions too. It isn't meant to be an everyday battle!

And yes, like most smokers, I regret ever lighting one up.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Letting people make me drop music and art to do something useful - like Business Studies.

Going out with the first lad who asked. Not dumping him when he got all controlling. Not going to University because he threatened to kill himself if I did. Not going to the interview at the big company because he had just got a job at the tinpot dictatorship where I worked and he went nuts at the thought of me leaving.

Not dumping the next one sooner. Selling the guitar he bought me to pay the rent once we broke up.

Going out with the next one full stop. And the next one.


I don't regret smoking. I stopped. I'd be mightily annoyed if I turn out to have a smoking related disease in 30 years, but at least I stopped. Chances are it would be due to going out with smokers, combined with the tinpot bosses who always smoked at work in any case.

I wish I had gone back to music much, much sooner, but there you go. I'm doing it now and I'm too old to be caught up in the 'drugs are cool' nonsense, compared to being a naive teenager. But I would have had the advantage of being much, much better looking, so who knows what I could have done instead?


Waste of time beating myself up over it - can't change the past, only the future.