Pesky little girl

Blackpool_Saver

The title of your post kind of gives me a clue. (Pesky litttle girl) it's almost as if you are speaking about another persons child.... I would have written "my daughter is being difficult" or something like that.

Could there bit a bit of a vicious circle going on here ? DD feels you favour DS so she picks on him, she gets in trouble so she takes it out on him, try breaking the cycle, take her aside and lavish some time on her, if it doesn't work try something else, for too long it could be seen as rewarding bad behaviour.

choogirl

Hi,
Thank you to everyone for the helpful suggestions, I am going to try the suggestion of having them do something nice together and then spend time individually with them. I also like the suggestion of the No Zone areas when homework/reading is been done.

They can play nicely together when they want to but they can also erupt very quickly as well.

Blackpool Saver - Pesky little girl is the term that DS uses for her.

Mojisola - I forgot about the naughty step technique - will have to re-introduce it - Thanks

Thank you once again to everyone xxxx

gunsandbanjos

Mojisola wrote: »

It's not normal in every family!

If both siblings were doing it, if I could stand the aggravation I might leave them to it. This is one sibling constantly going at the other - if this was happening between two kids in school it would be considered relentless bullying. Why should the poor lad have to put up with this in his home?

Ok then!

Jeez, relax. I was merely saying that my brother and I used to annoy each other all the time. It's generally tit for tat, the one getting blamed isn't always the perpetrator. We were pretty sneaky in trying to get the other blamed. If it goes over the score then parents obviously need to step in.

And as tea lover says me and my brother get on great now.

Plans_all_plans

My sister was like this to me, constantly annoying me. She thought it was hilarious. She used to even get herself into trouble, just so I'd get in trouble too: once she was banging about tunelessly on the piano in the dining room and my dad shouted in "whichever one of you is doing that, if you don't pack that in, you're getting a smack".

I thought she'd stop, but the next thing I know she's hammering away at it again and dad's in like a shot "who was it?" She started saying it was me and obviously I was saying it was her. He whacked both of us cos he couldn't decide who was telling the truth! What a pr*t she was, taking a smack just so I'd get on too!

She was truly naughty to me and REALLY sly! At least you know your DD's being a troublemaker! She'll grow out of it is my only advice I'm afraid!

Faerie

My sister was exactly the same. We didn't stop fighting until I went to uni in a different city! She still knows how to push my buttons now.

Being told to stay out of each others way is hard work in a small terraced house, my sister used to think it was a game to bug me even further until I'd snap. (Then I would get in trouble too!) I remember most of my friends having annoying little siblings too so I suppose it is quite common.

Marisco

My son and daughter were like cat and dog together!!! There is 4.5 years between them, with son being the younger. I used to let them get on with it, they were both as bad as each other, totally different personalities, and they don't really get on even now - and they are both adults with kids of their own!!

babymoo

Awww this thread brought back memories. I was horrendous with my brother when we were younger. It sounds like normal sibling rivalry to be honest. Although my brother could wind me up just as much. Now I am so laid back I don't care but my brother is still so easy to wind up, push the right buttons and its just hilarious - possibly not at the time for him but he always gives me a cuddle afterwards so we both know we dont mean it.

Sox77

Plans_all_plans wrote: »

What a pr*t she was, taking a smack just so I'd get on too!

This made me laugh, it just sums up some children so perfectly!

My brother (younger) and I had a love hate relationship, we played together constantly but fought a lot, there was kicking and punching and we didn't think anything of it really. The last time we fought I was about 15 and he split my lip, and then I realised I couldn't win and that put an end to it.

I love my brother and wouldn't change him for the world btw, so agree with the it'll just take time comments and DH and I have five children between us so it's going to take a long time here - at the moment DSD doesn't like DS1 or DD1 but likes DS2 and DD2. DS1 likes them all except DD1. DD1 likes them all except DD2. DD2 loves to wind up DD1 until she screams. and DS2 (who is eight months) is wishing he was an only child

BitterAndTwisted

My sister used to run herself ragged trying to intervene between her two all the time except it was the older one being a pest and a tease. There's nothing like seeing a fearless and frustrated three-year old finally giving in and giving his six year old sister a right thump to make her think that it might not be quite so entertaining in future.

My advice (generally ignored. I'm not a Mum so what do I know?) was to not interfere or listen to either about who was to blame but separate them if they can't be nice.

They're in their early twenties now and are the best of friends.

bluenoseam

ah memories of the first time my mum heard me swearing - telling my sister to p*ss the f*ck off when she was bugging me, oddly enough she hasn't dared do anything like that again mostly cos she figured i was about ready to thump her that day and knows next time i probably would have! Truth be told i think all "close" (in age terms) siblings go through a stage of this, normally and i know this will be derided here, it's sorted out when the one being annoyed just belts the other, it aint pretty, it aint really "good" but hey, it's sorted many a sibling issue over thousands of years