Divorcing wannabe bigamist

Padstow

clearingout wrote: »

devil's advocate...isn't it normally the case that the side being divorced (respondent) is asked, politely, to pay for the costs of the divorce because they are the one in the wrong? Just watch that one, OP, that's all. It would make sense, if he's entitled to Legal Aid, for him to be doing the divorcing but do be careful you don't get lumbered with the cost of it. There are cheap online solutions to divorcing - many of them not recommended so have a google before choosing one!

Grass them up for having a child together but not living together. If she's got a ring on her finger and a baby by him, they will struggle to prove that they are not a couple and are just living apart for her benefit purposes. That'll give him something else to worry about with the divorce, other than whether he's going to come after you for some of the equity in your house, perhaps?!

Good luck. Keep your sense of humour - you might need it!

Isn't asking the other side to pay costs only used in UB and adultery? They've been apart for five years.

Sounds like the GF likes her free money, will she be better off when married to him I wonder. That could make the difference as to whether they marry or not.

You could do with a little legal advice OP, whether through the CAB or a High St sol. Children from your marriage will take precedence over theirs for instance.
You also want some backpay in lieu of CM, ie the total equity. You also must have a consent order, which means he can never come back to you for money. That has to be worded carefully and overseen by your sol. If not, a judge could refuse it.

Standingtall

Thanks everyone, some great advice laced with a little humour, such a tonic:T

For the posters who noted that he has had another baby but can't support the daughter he already has with me - well, guess what - they are trying for another! Absolute madness!

For the record though, he is not a "bad man", more "gormless" and a little mentally challenged. If I am being generous I would say he is one of life's plodders, if feeling acrimonious then I would describe him as thick and lazy, lol. :rotfl:

It's amazing how things have suddenly changed since this new relationship has 'blossomed'. I don't think he is thinking with this brain, if you know what I mean. ....:rotfl:

Padstow - with my serious hat on, thank you for your advice. I shall definitely look at getting some professional support.

JulieGeorgiana

I got divorced after 3 years, went to on online divorce place. £600 (which included the £380 court costs). Filled in the online information, they produced the paperwork... served the ex. he signed and posted it... 3.5 months later! Divorced. This only works for 'amicable divorces' where all the terms I filled in online were agreed by both parties (He paid half the costs and we filled the paperwork in together over the phone).

BUT, I think (please don't quote me) once the 5 year mark has been reached... even if he will not sign the paperwork... the divorce will be put through anyway. I also think this is the same with assets from the marriage, it doesn't matter as he didn't claim before the 5 years was up.

Now I might be wrong, but it's worth looking into right?

adelight

From the title I was thinking you could flog your story to That's Life or Chat magazine to pay for the divorce! Does he not realise he needs money to pay for the divorce so he can have a wedding, which he will have to pay for, and then have to pay CSA and that his new kids aren't free either? Some people are clueless! If you don't care how soon the divorce goes through then leave it to him to eventually sort out when he wants to get hitched.

Standingtall

adelight wrote: »

From the title I was thinking you could flog your story to That's Life or Chat magazine to pay for the divorce! Does he not realise he needs money to pay for the divorce so he can have a wedding, which he will have to pay for, and then have to pay CSA and that his new kids aren't free either? Some people are clueless! If you don't care how soon the divorce goes through then leave it to him to eventually sort out when he wants to get hitched.

Jeremy Kyle here I come:T. No seriously, I can't afford the track suit and baseball cap at the moment:rotfl:

It does make entertaining reading though, doesn't it. They are acting like a couple of kids! The laughing factor is what helps me cope.