SF's 2012 diary - the most exciting year yet!

taxi73

How did hubby get on at DRs?
Hope you've had a better day today x

slowlyfading

taxi73 wrote: »

How did hubby get on at DRs?
Hope you've had a better day today x

Well, he could have surgery, but that seems like such a drastic measure at the moment :undecided so he's going to continue to use a throat spray for now and see how that progresses and today has been okay, thanks for asking x

taxi73

all sounds good

squidgychesspiece

I love your diary slowly! *subscribes* All my housework is done so just off to make a cuppa and then I am going to read from the beginning

rising_from_the_ashes

Poor DH and his snoring ..... my ex was the most awful snorer so know how you feel but I must confess that I do occasionally wake myself up mid snore! *running away quickly*

Jo4

Hubby used to snore and waken me but then I would get him to go on to his side and then he didn't snore and both of us got a good nights sleep. Maybe if your OH lay in a different position if might reduce his snoring too, anythings worth a try!?!

DedicatedDFW

Hi all - i should have said about the food shop too - i buy alot of basics sm own brand for things - i have tried some things and its not been the same so obviously these have are still bought by preferred brand. Plus i buy reduced stuff when i can.

SF - hmm - its hard to answer i think so sorry if this comes out all garbled. Me and my fella never talk about money - i don't know how much he has or how much he earns although i know he has some savings and earns alot more than me (3x as much but thats because my income is very low too ). I am not sure our relationship would survive if he knew about my debt I have no idea how he thought i was paying my half of the bills after my redundancy or how he thinks i manage now when he knows my salary (was clearly shown on the job advert). It is hard but also i guess it has changed me - i think i always thought we'd support each other if anything happened (my wage used to be significantly more in my old job) but that didn't happen

slowlyfading

taxi73 wrote: »

all sounds good

Thanks taxi - your support is always welcome

squidgychesspiece wrote: »

I love your diary slowly! *subscribes* All my housework is done so just off to make a cuppa and then I am going to read from the beginning

Aww, thanks! I always think I must sound so boring to everyone else hope you don't get too bored reading through it! I can ramble

rising_from_the_ashes wrote: »

Poor DH and his snoring ..... my ex was the most awful snorer so know how you feel but I must confess that I do occasionally wake myself up mid snore! *running away quickly*

:rotfl: DH says I snore sometimes, but I don't believe him - surely I'm too lady-like for that? :A :whistle: in all fairness, when I have a cold, I'm sure I do too!

slowlyfading

DedicatedDFW wrote: »

Hi all - i should have said about the food shop too - i buy alot of basics sm own brand for things - i have tried some things and its not been the same so obviously these have are still bought by preferred brand. Plus i buy reduced stuff when i can.

Yep, that's how we do it too some things (like salad cream!) just need to be branded, there's no shame in that I think! :cool:

SF - hmm - its hard to answer i think so sorry if this comes out all garbled. Me and my fella never talk about money - i don't know how much he has or how much he earns although i know he has some savings and earns alot more than me (3x as much but thats because my income is very low too ). I am not sure our relationship would survive if he knew about my debt I have no idea how he thought i was paying my half of the bills after my redundancy or how he thinks i manage now when he knows my salary (was clearly shown on the job advert). It is hard but also i guess it has changed me - i think i always thought we'd support each other if anything happened (my wage used to be significantly more in my old job) but that didn't happen

I'm if you thought I was trying to pry - I wasn't - but I can understand how why you haven't mentioned it. Is there any reason why you don't? I just ask because I can't imagine having such a big part of life seperate from DH, but then he's not bothered by how much I earn (as I earn more than he does) and I'm definitely the more money conscious one out of the two of us. Sending you a hug :grouphug: as I can't tell if you're happy about the situation or not

DedicatedDFW

Thanks SF - its an odd one and certainly something i've been thinking about alot more recently - i think when times were good - i.e. i was in my well paid job and my fella was still in the same job he's in now then the money didn't come into things. You mentioned you couldn't imagine having a big part of your life separate from your hubby - one of the things i'm thinking about includes the fact that alot of our lives are separate - its not just the money.

And you are right too - i can't tell if i'm happy with the situation or not Part of me is 'little miss independent' because thats how i've always had to be from a very young age really - and then another part of me wants to feel that my fella is there to support me - not just financially but emotionally and in some ways the emotional side is alot more important - to hug me when things aren't going great and to encourage me to achieve all i can - to be excited with me when i'm excited about something, to discuss our future with me and plan things so we can have and do all the things we want to... Am i waffling too much Oh well - it is definitely an odd one and one thing is certain - we have been together so long it won't change... i'm still not sure how to work out if i'm happy with it or not though

And i didn't think you were trying to pry at all - ask away