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pinkclouds

Separate rooms is a perfectly good answer (where there are no underlying medical issues). Lots of couples do this. It doesn't mean the end of intimacy but it does mean the start of a good night's sleep for both of you.

My hubby snores horrendously. We have two kids.

pinkclouds

Have a read of this thread, for more reassurance: https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/3610903

Gigglepig

Sounds like separate rooms may help, why don't you go "visit" him tonight after he has gone to bed? :-)

I'd also consider asking for a second medical opinion as to whether anything can be done about it - even if you asked before, new solutions may be available.

JulieGeorgiana

has he been to a sleep clinic?? So they can monitor him while he sleeps??

My OH sleeps in the other room from time to time (especially when I wake him upteen times during the night and he has work, during the first trimester I was so sick at night I made him sleep there for 3 months!) the trick is not to let it effect your intamacy. Why can't he join you in bed until you're asleep then move rooms??? Slip into his bed first thing in the morning for a cuddle. For me it's the cuddles falling asleep and first thing I need... and miss the most... so DH does this when he sleeps in the other room.

You have to remember it takes more effort to keep the intamacy going... but it can be kept quite easily.

And with more sleep... you're less cranky which means you want more fun

Metranil_Vavin

My OH snores too, particularly when he has had a few drinks!

I wear earplugs at night now as I am a very light sleeper and just can't sleep when he is off snoring away. The foam one's from Boots work really well, and they are comfortable too. Maybe you could give those a try?

Sometimes he will sleep on the sofa bed in the living room, usually if he has been out and I know he will have had a skinful!

I don't see any problem in sleeping in separate bedrooms, and in fact I think in terms of intimacy, you're likely to have more if you are getting a good nights sleep and not wanting to batter him over the head for keeping you awake all the time!

dontone

My DH was terrible for it. He had to go to Sheffield hospital for an oxygen montior to assess if he had sleep apneoa. Turned out that he was fine, but I went with him to explain to the doctor exactly what happened when he slept. They always, in these cases, appreciate the oh's point of view on it.
In the end, he was diagonosed with a "vibrating soft palette" where the top/soft part of your mouth and your jaw seems to slip back when you are relaxed in a deep sleep, and it causes the loud snoring. We ended up paying about £300 for a mouthguard from the dentist to stop it happening. He still snores occassionally, but it isn't half as bad as how he was.
There was a point where he was that loud, I could hear him not only in the spare room, but also downstairs, I threatened to go to a hotel just so I could have at least one decent nights sleep, because the spare room situation didn't help (even when I wore earplugs, I could still hear him). It affects partners more that the snorer, because you are driven to despair by the noise.
HTH OP

Angel777

I have been married for only 4 months and my OH snores so much you can hear it upstairs if he is downstairs and vice versa. I end up getting ratty with lack of sleep!

We have also tried nasal sprays been to docs changed pillows, ear plugs but they hurt my ears! I try and catch up on sleep when I can. I'm glad someone posted about it, maybe I will get some more ideas of what to do.

Happy new year all!

patchwork_cat

Why does seperate rooms = no intimacy? Don't be naive.

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patchwork_cat wrote: »

Why does seperate rooms = no intimacy? Don't be naive.

Beat me to it. Separate rooms didn't prevent the Queen and the Duke from producing four offspring, nor prevent many others from having kids I suspect.
I have a relly whose snores could waken the whole village when he starts, but he's a professional bass baritone which possibly accounts for the decibels.

Itismehonest

Breathe Right strips help with some people but, if they don't work, separate rooms can be a sanity & marriage saver:cool: