Should I complain?

amy2011

I am at a place similar to A4E and i'm currently doing an apprenticeship. Anyway, I have to see an 'advisor' every month. Mine used to be a woman but now it is a guy who is around 25ish, quite good looking and stuff but tbh I am not interested as I have a boyfriend.

Anyway.. Just before christmas I had my first appointment with him. This appointment is usually in an open plan room which is full of other advisors and customers. He greeted me in reception and took me through the busier room and into the IT suite which was empty. Fair enough, I thought. I must need to do a quick type up on the computer or something.

Anyway we sat down and started talking about what work i'd been looking for (I am after a full time job asap!) and I told him. One of these jobs i'd applied for was a christmas elf (haha yeah i know!) he laughed and asked me what the costume was, i was a bit confused so i said erm, i don't know. He said "I bet you'd look even cuter than you do now" and was smiling at me.. awkward. So I just laughed and changed the subject onto my job search again.

He told me I looked 'knackered' (charming) and asked me what i'd been doing the night before, I said i'd been at my boyfriends house and his reply was "what, sh*gging? I bet you were!" and he started laughing really creepily, obviously this guy has the ability to make my life hell as i am on a contract with this company for 3 years so I tried to be polite.

His conversation started getting more bizzare and before long he asked me where I was going after my appointment with him, and if I needed a lift home as it was his dinner hour and he needed to pop out to the shops anyway. I said no and he looked really pee'd off and said 'right, that's it then - see you after Christmas!'

Am I been paranoid or have i got a potential stalker?

Sambucus_Nigra

Neither - you got a total w*nker.

Ask for a different adviser and if they ask why, tell them. They probably know already and your comments could make the difference between them doing nothing and doing something.

Emmzi

that's sexual harrassment. yes, complain. In a "can I have a different advisor" way so it's clear you aren't trying to get out of it.

Imagine him with someone less savvy than you. You really should report for the sake of others.

LadyMissA

Write a letter or email (wil be able to get an email address online) to the Operations Director and write all that you have above in this post with dates and times etc and what was said, make sure you do this ASAP and hopefully you should get this dealt with before you need to go back there. It's not Seetec is it by chance?

If you can not do this before you go back there call them and ask to speak to the centre manager (they will have one) and explain to them but still do the letter too. Hopefully the bloke is not the manager!!

amy2011

He's not the manger (thank gawd) but the manager seems like an ignorant t0sser tbh from what i've seen of him! No it's not seetec, never heard of that before. Might just have a word with the receptionist when it's my next apointment, he might be able to sort me out a new advisor.

LadyMissA

amy2011 wrote: »

He's not the manger (thank gawd) but the manager seems like an ignorant t0sser tbh from what i've seen of him! No it's not seetec, never heard of that before. Might just have a word with the receptionist when it's my next apointment, he might be able to sort me out a new advisor.

I think it would be down to the centre manager but ask when you go in or give their head office a call and then write an email to complain. I am sure before they get the email they will not want trouble on their hands. These places talk about appropriate behaviour in the work place then go and say that to you!

amy2011

He's a real creep! I am defo complaining. I was on a course about 3 months ago and he was teaching it, he sat inbetween me and another girl and was asking us what we like doing at the weekend etc, the girl said she went dancing and he was asking her what she wore and stuff! She looked really embaressed bless her. He also kept standing right infront of me, literally 10 or so centremeters away (it would of been closer if the table wasnt there!) so my head was crotch level(!) while he was talking to the class. I ended up asking to go to the toilet as i felt really uncomfortable!

LadyMissA

amy2011 wrote: »

He's a real creep! I am defo complaining. I was on a course about 3 months ago and he was teaching it, he sat inbetween me and another girl and was asking us what we like doing at the weekend etc, the girl said she went dancing and he was asking her what she wore and stuff! She looked really embaressed bless her. He also kept standing right infront of me, literally 10 or so centremeters away (it would of been closer if the table wasnt there!) so my head was crotch level(!) while he was talking to the class. I ended up asking to go to the toilet as i felt really uncomfortable!

sounds like a real perv!!

tomjonesrules

I imagine he is trying to be friendly and make you feel at ease ... but has completely crossed the line in doing so. You do have to wonder where some people learn their social skills from!

Emmzi

tomjonesrules wrote: »

I imagine he is trying to be friendly and make you feel at ease ...

the problem is that people imagining the motive and therefore excusing the behaviour perpetuates it.

whatever the reason, it is inappropriate.

Jessie11

Ring the manager. I was in a similar situation a couple years ago but they guy was just a horrible patronizing t*sser, rang and told them why I wanted someone else and it was sorted straight away. Got evils from original guy when I came in to see the new person though lol