Sometimes you just can't win!!

meritaten

I hate NYE victory - all that jollity and on the stroke of midnight all these people you wouldnt allow near you any other time of year all kissing and hugging! Yeuuuuchhhhh! I have refused to go out on NYE for about 20 years now! OH can go out with my blessing! I much prefer to stay home and play on the computer, then go to bed at my normal time with a good book and a cuppa (or a glass of wine).
To me - I just dont 'get' why its 'celebrated' - December will turn into January just like it does every year.............and why one year should be different from the last I will never understand? thats down to human intervention! not the date on your calendar!
Tell OH that if he doesnt want to go without you - then he has to accompany you to his worst nightmare! (whatever that is hun - You know him I dont).

caeler

Good for you putting your foot down, but putting it down in such a tactful way that means he gets to go and you stay and both be happy. Don't let his grump make you change your mind.

sqeeky

onlyroz wrote: »

It can be embarrassing and slightly humiliating if you find yourself always going to parties and events on your own when you're in a relationship. I've lost count of the times that hubby pulled out of something at the last minute saying "just go and enjoy yourself" only to come home afterwards to find him being a miserable grump because I'd had a good time without him.

Seconded. The grief afterwards was never worth it.

victory

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red_devil

victory wrote: »

To me it is a flat no, why ask? OH says I ask because you might want to come, would I? Would I actually want to go to somewhere where they have told me that they hate me? Would I say yes let us pack now and walk into hell:rotfl:

i cant understand why your partner would want to go somewhere where they have said they hate you. Where is his loyalty to you? you should come first.

The "family" dont care much about his happiness do they if they say they hate his beloved.

diggle

You know what victory i have same thing with my DH regarding holidays ,i'm happy for him to go alone or with family if he wants to.
I on the other hand am alot happier to stay at home with our dogs,the mere thought of the time spent at the airport waiting for delayed plane or simply just waiting for plane.
Also i really do not do the heat anymore[woman of a certain age]plus other half cannot just relax on holiday and constantly wants to walk about,whilst i would prefer to read and relax [especially as last time ,was the first time we went AL and it made life easier..i.e no where are we going to eat? what are we going to eat? We all know who's going to cook it!!!
So i have said this to him with no resentment on part at all,i am quite happy for him to go on holiday whilst i stop at home,he works hard he deserves to do what he wishes,well the face ,the moods .
So do i go to keep the peace ,and count down the hours to when i come home? make myself miserable to keep him happy?I think no..but hey ho no doubt i will get shot down in flames by some forum members.
Should add yes he did go for walks/runs on his own on holiday,i know i'm a homebird and am happy this way.