o/h and her family and my daughter

seanbond10

I have an interesting problem and im unsure how to bridge it with the o/h basically we have a 15 month old daughter. and we went to stay in the o/h's family's caravan (they live there 10 months of the year rent 2 months) for christmas. and my daughter's come back with a bad cough. and i have my theory of why but i cant seem to get my wife to really listen and understand that it could be damaging my daughters health. These are the sleeping arrangements me and the o/h sleep on sofa bed in front room and my daughter sleeps in the back spare room (look on the hevan website for a layout of a static caravan). Ok now my theory i noticed mould on the wall a few months ago and i mentioned it and i was ignored. This morning my daughter woke up quiete early and as i had to do the driving my o/h said go grab an extra hour in the back room. so as i went to lie down i noticed how damp and cold the room was. you could actually feel the damp in the air. Now am i just being stupid and risking upsetting the egg cart by saying no my daughter isnt going up there to stay in there as we stay quiete often. We could possiably put her in the front with us but as she goes to bed at 7pm and we dont go to 11pm it means she could come out of her routine and we dont get to relax etc and i dont enjoy drinking around my daughter. Now i could be an ogre and say i anit letting my daughter go up there and i know my o/h would just ignore me because she knowes her mum and dad would moan and get all sulky and say in my day we had mould growing on every wall in the house you neednt go the shop for mushrooms you just went and chopped some of the wall and it didnt do me any harm. so what do i do shut up and put up

ineed

I think you’re in the right here and your just being a responsible parent. Does your wife know about the dangers of mould and mildew spore inhalation? Google; the dangers of mould spores. Then show her.

seanbond10

she knowes but if she says we anit coming up there theyll take it personally or at best paint over the problem but still its so cold and damp in there as its a static its showing its age it needs resealing and properly treating and drying out etc. i just dont know how to get to bridging it with her as i know shell blow her top and probs say right fine ill go right now and you can look after my daughter which if i off i wouldnt mind but shell give me 5 minutes notices shes going and ill be in the middle of a 5 12 hour night shift run and knowing i cant just drop work ill have no other choice but to say youll have to go.

FBaby

I think you are in the right to try to make the room better, but insisting that this is the reason why she's got a caugh is pointless as you won't be able to prove the two are related. As a matter of fact, symptoms of a chest infection wouldn't be appearing that quickly, so most likely it was picked up somewhere else. Have you been there before? Was she ill following your stay? Most importantly, how does your daughter feel sleeping in that room? Personally, I am with your o/h, I don't think a bit of dump for a couple of days is going to damage your daughter's health, but maybe you could bring a dehumifier to help? Otherwise, which solution are you suggesting?

adelight

Could you bring a small dehumidifier to use in the room? Or a heater and open a window? It is a genuine health risk to your daughter so your oh and her family need to consider it, could you perhaps take your daughter to your GP to see if they can confirm the mould is effecting her? Hearing it from your GP might make your oh take more notice.

Errata

It could simply be coincidence, but TBH I think you're barking if you think a caravan/mobilehome/holiday home is a reasonable place for a 15 month old toddler to sleep in during the depths of winter.

seanbond10

she was up a week before christmas came home for 2 days then we went back for christmas and when shes up there unsettled coughing crying etc when shes at home she sleeps like a log litrally from 7pm till gone 10am

seanbond10

Errata wrote: »

It could simply be coincidence, but TBH I think you're barking if you think a caravan/mobilehome/holiday home is a reasonable place for a 15 month old toddler to sleep in during the depths of winter.

and if i say this it would be well where oap's and we are pefectly fine and then id get the in my day lecture. There barlly heaters in there we cant put a safety rail on the bed because the room is so small and if she stood up she would litraly end up smashing her face into the wall/ cabinets so we have to pile up pillows up incase she falls out. but id just be belittled or be told to be stop moaning if i raise these problems

marywooyeah

the mould will definetly be affecting her. Our son had quite a bad infection in his throat and was hospitalised, the first thing the staff asked about was if there was any mould in the house. When we went home we moved a rather large pile of cosmetics away from the wall in the bathroom to find black mould creeping up the wall, so when he'd been having his baths he'd been breathing it in. I'd show your wife this thread as well as info on the internet and see if she feels the same. Is it a haven caravan (saw you made a reference to it above) if so I'd alert their attention to the mould.

Errata

YOU are responsble for YOUR child's welfare and safety. Man up and protect her from the desires and demands of others.

FBaby

I got it totally wrong I thought you were talking about another daughter than your 15 months old!! At that age, yes, it is certainly more of a concern, especially if it is not the first time that she's been caughing after being there for a while. I guess it all comes down to how often you go there, if it's only once in the winter, it is not going to be the end of the world, if it is more regular then yes, you might want to try to make the room more comfortable.