strange gift requests on wedding list

littlejaffa

wedding last year where the couple had always lived in rented/furnished and wanted their own home so i expected furniture and practical things for them setting up home together -
there were 9 different blenders/mixers on their wedding list, no furniture at all and nothing else of much substance (i'm a keen cook and didn't even know there were 9 different blenders!)
they got their first house this year - and have borrowed a fortune buying new stuff for it - it's still 1/2 empty

on the up side they're both huge people, and have put on loads more weight since the wedding - must be all that kitchen gadgets giving the newlyweds something to do

for my gift list - we went argos - close family gave us wedding items (the cars etc) and others picked from argos - weddings cost people so much for their outfit/hen&stag nights/travel etc...last thing i'd want was people having to give me a £20 spoon and feeling bad that was all they could afford, a £20 set of glasses is a much nicer gift.
Also in most dept stores you don't really get the gift, you get the value of the gift - so have lots of small things and if you get a high value total 'cash them in' for the larger gift you really want - ie the washing machine

floss2

split_second wrote: »

hi all have you got or seen any odd/hilarious items on a wedding list?

friend of mine is getting married to a bridezilla and on the list, along with various royal doulton figures of couples (fair enough if she collects them, but she doesnt ) and a candle snuffer- i didnt even know what one was until my fiancee told me :rotfl:

i'm seriously considering giving them something off list (which they would actually find useful) but having seen the list its very snooty and expensive taste (just like her)

what have you seen/put on your list?

Can I just make a please for NOT doing this? When we married last year, we had combined 2 three-bedroom houses+garage + garden into one, and had more than enough of everything, and if we didn't have it we didn't need it so we asked for Debenhams or Thomas Cook vouchers (new bedding & a honeymoon!). In the end 3 people bought us off-list gifts - a dip bowl set which went to the charity shop in November and 2 sets of personalised champagne flutes which live in their boxes in a cupboard, as we already have a pair of crystal flutes and a set of 8 matching flutes.

Most couples who make a list actually want the stuff that is on it, and probably already have whatever "useful" thing random guests who decide to ignore a list think they need. In my mind it is incredibly arrogant to presume that you know best and to ignore the wishes of the couple who invited you to share their celebration.

johannalf88

Actually I agree with floss on this one. I find people always seem to get (or recommend) nice photo frames for the couple. But what if every one does that?!? I am thinking of solving the problem by putting a nice photo frame on the list... I don't really want one, but at least that way people won't waste their money and I won't get two!

RainbowDrops

littlejaffa wrote: »

Also in most dept stores you don't really get the gift, you get the value of the gift - so have lots of small things and if you get a high value total 'cash them in' for the larger gift you really want - ie the washing machine

I don't think this happens that often actually.
John Lewis only let you swap a certain percentage of gifts, for example.

We only ended up exchanging 4 items off the list, one because it was scratched, one because we were given the wrong item, and two suitcases (which we had to collect befor the rest of the items as we needed them for honey moon, and we actually swapped them for the full 3 piece set as they were on offer!)

RainbowDrops

Back on topic, I also saw a paper shredder and a bag of 100 tea lights.

split_second

floss2 wrote: »

Can I just make a please for NOT doing this? When we married last year, we had combined 2 three-bedroom houses+garage + garden into one, and had more than enough of everything, and if we didn't have it we didn't need it so we asked for Debenhams or Thomas Cook vouchers (new bedding & a honeymoon!). In the end 3 people bought us off-list gifts - a dip bowl set which went to the charity shop in November and 2 sets of personalised champagne flutes which live in their boxes in a cupboard, as we already have a pair of crystal flutes and a set of 8 matching flutes.

Most couples who make a list actually want the stuff that is on it, and probably already have whatever "useful" thing random guests who decide to ignore a list think they need. In my mind it is incredibly arrogant to presume that you know best and to ignore the wishes of the couple who invited you to share their celebration.

aww ok fair enough

trouble is i am a friend of the groom, i simply tolerate the bride for his sake, i can tell he has had no input whatsoever in the list and he is a very practical person so would want something that would be used rather than something that looks nice when on a wedding list but will spend the next however many years in a cupboard becuase his wife wanted to pretend to be a model housewife when she made the wedding list.

both lived with parents before so are in the same position we were, in fact i think they have less practical stuff than we do :rotfl:

split_second

RainbowDrops wrote: »

Back on topic, I also saw a paper shredder and a bag of 100 tea lights.

ooh i saw pot pourri as well :rotfl:

if the slow cooker wasnt so expensive i would buy them that, we have one and they are brilliant

shellsuit

You get them what you want, it's your money you'll be spending, not theirs!

My thoughts are the same as always with this, IMO it's rude to ask for a or expect a certain gift. People should get what they're given, and be thankful, not ungrateful.

RainbowDrops

split_second wrote: »

if the slow cooker wasnt so expensive i would buy them that, we have one and they are brilliant

How about getting them a slow cooker cook book?
I got one for Christmas after getting a slow cooker on our wedding list, so I'm over the moon.

ellies_angel

I had never understood how people could have large expensive things on their gift lists. On my list I made sure I had affordable my dinner set was split into pieces. The most expensive items were the caserole dishes which went with it which were around £55. What I hadn't realised is that some people go together, work colleagues for example, families whose children have grown up and married but all want to come together for the gift and what started off as a large list, quickly vanished. If I had put on the lamp at £200 that I loved but felt couldn't possibly have on it, my work would have choosen it. My Aunt and cousins said they would have prefered to buy me one thing rather than a rammy of little bits. What I then ended up doing was running back to Debenhams and topping my list up with things just for the sake of it.