why i hate sharing

robpw2

living in a house share with three others , and i am fed up to the back teeth with them, none of them clean up after themselves and seem to care about anyone but themselves. One of my housemates is really annoying me she handing her keys back to the landlord tommorrow because she is moving into a new home but instead of being packed ready to move she is now "sleeping" claiming that she will leave all her stuff in the lounge when ll is here and then borrow one of mine or my partners keys to move the stuff out the lounge over the day even though she is meant to be getting train to worcester to go home tommorrow . She expects my partner to drive her stuff to her new home which we sorted for tonight but she is not even attempted to be ready .
I am really really annoyed that mine and my partners christmas eve is going to be disrupted by her and we have to clean the lounge and kitchen throughly because no-one else will and i dont want to be having to do it late into tommomrrow night.

im sorry for ranting

19lottie82

Well go bang on her door, wake her up and say that if she wants a hang moving her stuff then it'll need to be by x o'clock tonight as you're busy the rest of the time

swbrua

Remember, you won't be living with her any more, if she isn't civil and reasonable you have nothing to lose by being the same in return. "Sorry, you're late, we can't help you now."

caeler

Agree with the above. She needs to know you are inconvienced by her change of plan and that the offer is only open tonight. I hope you find somebody more like minded to replace her in the house!!

System

And this is why i decided to share with only 1 person!

Have a chat with her and make it clear if she wants your help then its on your terms

And i hope you find a good replacement

olly300

robpw2 don't let yourself be walked all over. Do as the others said.

If she doesn't remove her stuff then you don't have to let her back in to get it. However it does help if you have a landlord who tells their tenants to behave.

Bravehearted_2

Also emphasise the importance of cleanliness, doing fair share etc to whoever replaces her so that you don't go through this again.

dawyldthing

tell her to call a taxi, or get on the bus with the stuff in suitcases. Theres plenty of taxis in and around Derby. You or your partner are not her personal taxi company and she will have to take responsibility as a grown adult to get the stuff from one place to another. I can't do with inconsiderate people like the one your mentioning, drives me mad, esp when i bet there not even giving you petrol money for the journey!

tiggerjj

As annoying as it is (and trust me i have been there) you want their stuff out of the living area for xmas. What are the chances that if you dont help her, she will come with some excuse and you will have all her stuff there over xmas in the middle of your lounge?

I had a lodger, who was a friend who i took in as she was basically homeless, when im came back from working away, all of her stuff was everywhere downstairs despite having told her she could the spare room as a storage room. anyway, time came for her to move out and the day i offered to be her taxi, she wasnt ready.... In the end i just shifted it all when she was packed, super annoying but it was that or put up with her stuff for longer in my dining room, for me the lesser of evils!

robpw2

tiggerjj wrote: »

As annoying as it is (and trust me i have been there) you want their stuff out of the living area for xmas. What are the chances that if you dont help her, she will come with some excuse and you will have all her stuff there over xmas in the middle of your lounge?

I had a lodger, who was a friend who i took in as she was basically homeless, when im came back from working away, all of her stuff was everywhere downstairs despite having told her she could the spare room as a storage room. anyway, time came for her to move out and the day i offered to be her taxi, she wasnt ready.... In the end i just shifted it all when she was packed, super annoying but it was that or put up with her stuff for longer in my dining room, for me the lesser of evils!

yes i know sounds just like her , i will help and so will matt but just to make sure she is gone lol :cool:

clutton_2

if its not all gone by the time you need to do what you want to do.. - then help her to put it in the garden/pavsement then call her a taxi.....

maybe mummy and daddy have looked after her for too long - or maybe she is just a selfish cow...