How much do you spend on your adult children at Christmas?

tryingtosave21

I feel really lucky now. My Mum spends about £250-£300 on me for Christmas and the same for my sis. I'm 22 and I have my own boy now, have my own house. My sis still lives with my Mum she's 21. I must get about £50 off of my OH's parents each and grandparents (So a total of £150)

I don't ask for anything though, they ask me what I want and I normally say don't bother with me but they always give me money in a card.

My Mummy is too good to me! xx

HOWMUCH

I've spent about £250 on daughter (27 married) and £500 on son (22 still at home) £100 on son in law we have no grandchildren yet but the amount may go down once they are on the scene.

It all depends what you can afford, go with that and you can not go wrong, it's the thought behind the gift and getting the one that suits them best that counts.

Gillyx

My dad asked me which perfume/aftershave me and OH liked, and I presume with the parcels he's sent that's what we've got so about £80 between us maybe? He also phoned to say he'd put some money into my account so I could buy myself something in the January Sales, as he knows I will need some new clothes after February, bless him.

My dads partner (they don't live together) has bought my OH a pair of jeans I picked out and me I don't know what's in the present until I open it.

My mum sent me and OH £80 to put towards the crib we wanted to buy for our son, she normally wouldn't send as much but I think because it's for her grandchild, she did this year.

My grandparents sent us £50 each, to "go out and enjoy ourselves" before baby comes :rotfl: they're so funny.

OH's family are not big on giving at Christmas, but they help us out throughout the year with anything we need and are helping us find/purchase a house for next year, so they're more than generous

podperson

My parents probably spends about £50-£100 on me. They usually gets me a few bigger bits like a nice jumper and a watch and then some little bits like socks, smellies, scarf. I would never 'demand' anything from them - tbh I tell my mum every year that she's spent too much - they've retired now and I don't want her spending her pension on me but she never listens!
OH's parents give us £25 each at Christmas and a box of choccies.

jay-jay

My parents usually give me £100 (for both me and DH) and then surprise presents up to about £150. my husband usually gets about £75 in presents. We buy for all adults in the family without children and spend £10 each on those with. My presents to my parents are around £40 each, if i spent more they would go mad. They spend about £100 on each of my three children but all are under 18.

bride2be2012

my parents still spoil me, even though I'm now 27 and living with my fiance. Last year they bought us loads of stuff for our house, as we'd be moving out in the January. This year, there's nothing we really need and I've told my mum this, and we're not expecting anything as they've been helping us with wedding costs as we're getting married next May. I know they'll get us a few smaller things, prob about £20 each.

OH's parents normally get us just small token gifts, as they have 8 grand daughters to buy for, and we'd rather they spent the money on them. First year OH spent Christmas with my family, he felt totally overwhelmed by the stuff my mum had got him, as he wasn't used to getting so much! There was no big expensive gifts, but just a lot of wee things she'd put a lot of thought into.

lizzielondon

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My sone and daughter and their spouses get £25 each and a few bits and bobs, oh and a selection box, silly really, I stopped buying the slection boxes on year and they were most upset, they would rather have them than a box of expensive choccies.

4 Grandchildren get about £25 spent on toys/clothes, but the older 2 (21 and 19) will get smellies or a big box of choccies after this christmas, like the other poster says, they both work and earn a site more than my pension pays me.

reading your posts, it never occurred to me you were old enough to be a grandmother don't know why :rotfl:

liz-paul

I think it depends on what you can afford... My Dad gives me £100 & each of my kids £50 each. He gives my sister (his step daughter) £100 & her son £50. He gives my brother (his step son) & my hubby nothing because 'men don't give each other gifts'!!! :rotfl: We spend anywhere between £20 - £100 on him, depending on what he wants or what I see....

My mum spends probably £20 - £40 each on me, my hubby, brother & sister and the 3 grandkids which is far too much because she has no money! We spend anywhere from £20 - £100 as above.

My MIL gives me, hubby and the 2 kids usually £100 or £200 cheque each, a couple of little gifts each (she hates shopping!) & pays for all the Christmas food & drink (we do the shopping, cooking etc). Sometimes she might also give us a larger chunk of money for something specific like one year she gave us an extra £1000 towards a car. But she can afford it so I don't worry and she likes to give us money because we help her out in other ways throughout the year. As above we usually spend anything up to £100 but there isn't usually anything she wants.
I am happy with anything I get from our parents but have no problem if they decide they can't afford it.

PixieDust

My in-laws gave DH £100 between us to spend as we wish - this has now been divided and placed in our own bank accounts so that it doesn't get swallowed up by the bills.

With my Mum it varies wildly depending on her disposable income. The last few years since Dad died shehas been trying to "make it" alone, and our presents have been about £20 each tops. This year the mortgage is paid off (at long long last!!!) and we have had half a portable telly (we paid the other half) for our bedroom, and she's brought over a gift bag each with goodness knows what in them!!!

h007

i think it is down to everyones financial circumstances.

my parents are a fair bit better off than me and they are happy to spend around £100 on me. for which i am hugely grateful. i in turn spend around £25- £30 each on them

however if they were to become abit poorer or i was to get a payrise (never gonna happen in the nhs!) then i would fully expect them to scale their gift down.

op if you cant afford to spend alot on your kids then tell them, maybe they dont realise they are being unreasonable