Daughter at risk

angelicalacewing

wondering if anone has heard of MARAC something to do with domestic violence. I have a daughter who is clever and attractive but in 3rd violent relationship. This one is known to Marac. How do I persuade her to leave?
She has some mentalhealth issues ( minor) in my estimation mainly around self esteem issues, depression very vulnerable.

Hovel_lady

MARAC stands for Multi Agency Risk Assessment Conference.
I found this.

http://www.darlington.gov.uk/Housing/Finding+a+Home/Domestic+Violence/MARAC-Multi+Agency+Risk+Assessment+Conference.htm

foreign_correspondent

yes, it just means multi agency risk assessment conference - basically, different agencies getting together to see how much of a risk your daughter is at, and what can be done to reduce it, to help her t be safe. I hope that it helps, good luck.

Hovel_lady

I'm sure you know about this website but if not you might find it helpful.

http://www.womensaid.org.uk/

nearlyrich

Having been in an abusive relationship myself I would say you can't persuade her to leave she has to make that decision herself what you can do is make sure she knows you love her are always there for her and will support her however you can if and when she leaves. It can be very frustrating watching someone you love being abused but the abusers break down the abused and make them feel worthless and responsible for the abuse. I hope she works out that the relationship is wrong and soon.

determined_new_ms

when she's ready hopefully she can get onto some training like the freedom programme to help her look at breaking the cycle. I wish you lots of strength to get through this x

Sagaris

I hope she gets the help she needs - my sister has just passed away, long term health issues but aggravated by an abusive husband - we all knew about him but she would not 'lose face' and ditch him. No amount of persuading would change her mind, I just wish I could turn the clock back and make her see sense.

I wish you all the luck in the world, and strength for your daughter to get away from this horrible situation.
xx

BitterAndTwisted

Her THIRD violent relationship? That's a very hard habit to break. Maybe all she needs to know is that there is a safe place for her to escape to if she ever needs it. Does she understand this?

I wonder if Womans Aid publish any leaflets you could send or give to her...

ali-t

OP, I don't know if it differs in different areas but where I live MARAC referrals are only submitted by the police and it is only high risk cases that are discussed at the meeting. There will be a person/people in your local police force who have a responsibility for domestic abuse, it might be worth sharing your concerns with them.

I don't think you will be able to persuade your daughter to leave him but if she knows that you are supportive and nonjudgemental about her relationship, there is more chance that she will come to you when she is having any second thoughts about the relationship. Best wishes and I hope she makes the right decision.

ZARA

the more you persuade her to leave to him the more chance there is of her closing up to you, so best thing is to support her & let her know this, at least this way you know whats going on even tho you cant stand the c***!!

Janepig

It's my understanding (and I only have a lose connection with MARACs so this isn't 100%) is that there are MARAC meetings where high risk offenders of any type are discussed by representatives of various agencies, and then there are DV MARACs to discuss cases related to domestic abuse. It's also my understanding that anyone working for a relevant agency who has a case that they feel should be discussed in a MARAC meeting can get that case minuted for discussion.

Jx