csa i really need as much help as possible

cosmic-dust

sarahk100574 wrote: »

I'm not an NRP basher.... BUT the figures and timeframe you have given suggest that you are being hounded by CSA/bailiffs etc etc, and all for about twenty quid a week towards the cost of raising your first born child... perhaps if you hadn't spent so much energy on schemes and plans to get out of paying towards YOUR first child you wouldn't be in this position.....

Man up and pay it..... just saying.....:D

jojo_2012 wrote: »

ha! that's all I read too. "I ran here, I ran there for a year and told nobody, I quit my job, now I'm poncing off some bird". It's been 8 years get a job and pay for your child as you were supposed to.

What helpful comments!
If you really can't be 'rsed reading his post, then really don't bother commenting on what you think is happening.

It's pretty clear that there has been a clerical issue on the OP's case and the chap needs help not the wrath of a couple of bitter PWC.

peterpumkineater

i think u need to get ur facts right you 2 we are already paying 20 pounds for him the 20 pounds was off the debt that they say i owed that they refused :mad:





Originally Posted by sarahk100574
I'm not an NRP basher.... BUT the figures and timeframe you have given suggest that you are being hounded by CSA/bailiffs etc etc, and all for about twenty quid a week towards the cost of raising your first born child... perhaps if you hadn't spent so much energy on schemes and plans to get out of paying towards YOUR first child you wouldn't be in this position.....

Man up and pay it..... just saying.....:D
ha! that's all I read too. "I ran here, I ran there for a year and told nobody, I quit my job, now I'm poncing off some bird". It's been 8 years get a job and pay for your child as you were supposed to.

Roy_G_Biv

Unfortunately this forum is blighted by judgemental posters.

Just ignore them and they'll crawl back under the stone they came out of.

Angels76

I am his partner and so angry and frustrated about his case and will do all I can to help him prove he is innocent.

On how if his first born Mother had not cheated on him, whilst he was in a relationship with her, whilst he was at home thinking everything was ok, looking after his son, she was out cheating on him, then she has the nerve to up and leave with his son leaving no foward address or contact.
This has caused my partner years of depression, anxiety where his son was, missing his son like mad.

Being a mum myself to two boys, I really don't see what kind of mother would take the right away of a father seeing his son.

And I also think there should be a right that if a parent does up and leave with no contact, leaving the poor innocent parent behind with no contact details or contact for their child, then they should take it upon themselves to support the child themselves.

No contact for 6 years??? How is that fair??

I will continue to help and write to whoever I can to help my partner out, and I hope asap this will be sorted out and the arrears dropped as there is proof he has not worked for 6 years.

His ex is a selfish greedy woman who does not deserve to be a mother.

When parents split, it is not the childs fault and the child should have both parents in their lives.

And I hope one day his son will learn the truth about his so called Mother!!!

gingergee

I agree Angles, and i agree its wrong what has happened, but in some situations taking your children as far away as poss from their "Dad" is the best thing! I moved 300 miles away from my ex to keep him away. And he is still liable to pay for our children, even though he doesnt see them. All situations are different. If your partner wanted to see his child, im dam sure he would find a way. You are right though, its about the childs best interests, not the parents and this situation isn't good for any of the children invloved, including yours! Hope its sorted soon for you, quick question though?? Did the childs mother still recieve money or am i been really thick toady?? x best wishes.

gingergee

just looked on another csa webby (not sure if i can mention it so i wont!!) This whole complaint is on there!!!!!!!!!!!!! First complaint!

EclipsedMind

cosmic-dust wrote: »

What helpful comments!
If you really can't be 'rsed reading his post, then really don't bother commenting on what you think is happening.

It's pretty clear that there has been a clerical issue on the OP's case and the chap needs help not the wrath of a couple of bitter PWC.

I agree and I would suggest the OP ignore the bitter hens clucking because they once got got shafted by an NRP.

The OP has as much right to raise his child as anyone and a man is as capable of caring for a child as a woman and in some cases more so. A stay at home dad or a stay at home mum - there is no difference and they both are putting their childrens welfare before the material gains of working. More strength to them if they can afford to do so.

Take the advice offered by the helpful people and the best of luck dealing with the joke that is the CSA.

EM

bdt1

Ok, been through similar and worse!!!!!!!!!

First things first, you need as a matter of urgency your Data Protection File from CSA, this will cost you a tenner and NACSA website has a template you can use to request it.

Also as a matter of urgency you need to put in an appeal against the incorrect decison/assessment that has been implemented, in place of a revision of this assessment when you stopped working to look after your child at home. So, write to CSA Appeals Dept at:

Central Appeals Unit
CSA
Pl Box 33
Preston
PR11 2DT.

CSA Appeals will look at the points raised and either correct things, or state that they cannot and that the case must be passed to an Independent Tribunal. This happened to us - you will then be given the chance to submit all evidence to support your case to the Tribunal Judge, and you will be asked if you wish to attend the hearing, strongly recommended so you can put your side across, CSA will also be present, but must abide by any decision that the Judge makes - we won our cases, and CSA had to correct our alleged arrears!

In meantime if/when bailiffs visit (we had them a few times), just make sure all doors/windows are locked, do not open door to them at any point, after bailiffs have visited a few times they throw case back to CSA, so unless you have an expensive car on the drive there is usually little bailiffs can do!! With regard to the Liability Order (we have one also), this is just a green light for CSA to then take further enforcement action, so although it is granted just means CSA will try bailiffs, a CCJ & charge on your home. All of this action is stressful, but until you put in an appeal to CSA, and get it investigated/corrected either by CSA Appeals or a Tribunal Judge then there is little you can do.

PM me if you need more advice