Divorce, House and Kids...

silvercar

Gigglepig wrote: »

Please don't make the residency decision for the kids based on the maintenance payment --- try to come to an arrangement for what is best for the kids. Some find split residency arrangements very stressful.

And kids who feel they are living out of suitcases. Bad enough getting ready for school from one house, let alone finding the PE kit is at Mums, the flute at Dad's and maths homework is in the back of someone's car!

adamantine

silvercar wrote: »

And kids who feel they are living out of suitcases. Bad enough getting ready for school from one house, let alone finding the PE kit is at Mums, the flute at Dad's and maths homework is in the back of someone's car!

this is a very good point. alot of peole say shared care is best but having to run between 2 homes every 3-4 days, trying to remember to take everything they need, only seeing some friends on certain days depending on how far apart mum and dad live sometimes really isnt whats best for the kids.

you dont need to wait for 2 years. if she will admit the affairs you can get divorced now. in scotland you are strongly pushed to have all the financial aspects sorted before you file for divorce.

as for the house, if its in her name its her responsibility.

steveb1964

The kids would be with my wife and I would have them every other weekend, pick them up from school one night a week, have them during school holidays etc. I wouldn't want them going between houses on school days.

My name would be removed from the mortgage and it would be soley in her name with her dad as a guarantour for a period of time.

She won't agree to the divorce until 2 years have passed. She has admitted to 2 of the affairs and I also have proff but I don't want things to get messy for the kids sake.

I shall seek legal advice.

Thanks for all the help :T