wozearly wrote: »
I'm struggling to see how the poll question is offensive. Investigating people's views towards traditional social stereotypes isn't offensive...its perpetuating them that some people might find offensive.
As mentioned in the opening to the poll, if you looked back a hundred years then most men would overwhelmingly have chosen to be sole wage earners - being able to 'keep' a family without the women and children having to work was seen as the mark of a successful man and was what society at the time expected from a man, in order that his wife could devote her time to raising the family and keeping the home.
Conversely, it was expected for a woman to aspire to doing this and be judged on how well behaved and successful her children would be, how happy the home was, etc. If she had to work, and actually earned more than her husband, then clearly she'd made a bad decision of husband. Women weren't supposed to seek success in the man's end of the world, and vice versa.
Those attitudes now seem completely archaic, but its interesting to see how much of it might remain in some shape or form. The only 'problem' with the poll is that we don't know why people might have picked certain options.
For example, a man might prefer to be the sole wage earner because this makes it a given that he won't be asked to stay at home and raise a family, which may honestly not be something that he would want to do or feel he would do well. Likewise, a woman might prefer the man to be the sole wage earner for the opposite reason. In this case, the gender of the wage earner is irrelevant; its more about having the economics of being (or not being) the wage earner on your side to get what you want from the relationship.
Or they could both be stuck in the values of 100 years ago, of course.
The results of the poll so far seem to suggest that attitudes are primarily "it doesn't bother me", with a significant minority hedging slightly towards the traditional stereotype, and the rest scattered across the other options.
A victory for equality...at least amongst the MoneySavingExpert site visitors. :cool:
MSE_Martin wrote: »
The whole poll came about from me overhearing a discussion of a group of women who all felt uncomfortable that they earned more than their partners. I was surprised by this and thought it was worth working out how widespread such a feeling is.
MSE_Martin wrote: »
PS I wont be respondng in this thread any more - if you have any points please address them in the poll discussion link. So everything is in one place.
hotbanana wrote: »
No of course it isnt right for a woman to earn anything at all.
Women who choose to have children - they already HAVE a career.
Theyve got a career - theyve got the children - theyve got the lot - so what are they complaining about?
Those without children should spend their time to find a man that can provide for them.
I would feel ashamed to have my wife going out to work - she has a career - cleaning the home, raising the children.
She has been entrusted in the most reponsible job in the world and all I hear her complain is she wants to go glass collecting in a pub!
These women who are so selfish to go to work and neglect their children - preferring other people to bring them up. Disgusting.
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