Driving test nerves

RichGold

Tell her she's paying for the next test.

marywooyeah

aw I can sympathise - I failed 3 times due to nerves and silly things like not looking at my blind spot. I failed one test for doing my parallel park too slowly!

The driving test is hard, and the more you fail the more pressure you feel as the test is expensive, and every time you fail you have to wait to take another one and have lessons in the meantime, incurring further costs, it's not surprising she feels pressured and stressed at the thought of it.

When I finally passed I was on my test and had "disco leg" then I just thought "No, I'm not going to fail, I'm sick of coming to this test centre and keep shelling out money for the test. I'm passing today!" and got through by sheer determination. I changed instructors and every lesson we did a mock test, so I got used to someone sitting there with the driving test sheet - has your daughter tried this? I never passed one of the mocks, failed every time but it reduced the anxiety of the examiner so when I did my test I drove as I did on my lessons.

One thing that did cross my mind is how long ago did your daughter do her theory? if she doesnt pass within 2 years of the theory she'll have to retake it.

raven83

If its any consolation i have failed my test....9 times! I would just go to pot when it came to my test. Saying this though this was 5 years ago or so and i was alot more hotheaded so it was probably a good thing i did fail, even so it really put me off and i just couldnt do it anymore so i gave up.....untill last month when i started lessons again, this time i got myaelf a lovely lady intructor (my other instructor was lovely but wasnt for me, but i felt like i had to stick with him out of loyalty, silly i know!) and the nerves i used to get have all but gone i am sooooo much more chilled now than i was then no roadrage and i am driving like a driver, as opposed to a learner, anyway last week she said to me to think about booking my test as she was confident i would pass and my driving is good, i nearly cried!!! I think such a comment has really given me a confidence boost and i now think next time i do my test i will pass or am capable of passing, so am going to book my test once crimbo is over for the new year (wish me luck:o )

I guess what i am saying is that me being sooooo nervous on test and failing actually was probably a good thing, i think i wasnt mentally ready to be a driver, but now i am older (28:eek:) i feel like i will be able to finally pass it!

~Loz~

I hated my lessons and was so nervous everytime, i told myself on my test that if i failed it was okay - less pressure seemed the best way to approach the nerves.

I passed first time!

Horseunderwater

Sorry to hear about this. I took 2 car driving tests many year back now, long before the theory thing came in. My first was at 17 and I did not have as the examiner put it the confidence to go forth and do it. The 2nd time was 6 months later when My Mother had just been made redundent from her job. This was a week later and I'd had to drive her home (accompanying driver) as if she were not there as she was in such a state. I passed and it was noted how confident I was. Of course I had been practicing loads at every opportunity so had gained insight into it all over that time. I then passed my bus driving test in 1998 the first time and as my instructor had said I would either bloom on the day or die trying. Well I bloomed and it is one of the best things I ever did. Still bus driving now. The actual driving is not really the problem in most cases, it is simply fear. How you cope with fear and being scared is different for us all. I tend to take a deep breath and count back from 10-1. Has anyone ever asker her what she finds difficult? Addressing just that is I think the key here. Driving a vehicle of any kind, should be done with good manors and a good defence. Always be aware of mirrors and use them. Other drivers do not care if you are learning or on the test. All you can do on the day, is follow examiner instructions and highway signage and hope that all goes well.

Humphrey10

I passed first time.

I had many many lessons, all with an irritating nagging driving instructor "you're too near that car! Too fast! Too slow! Why did you do that? Why didn't you do this? Mirrors! Indicate!" it was constant. I had no other driving practise, so got no bad habits from parents etc.

So when it came to the test it was quite relaxing, it was the first time I had driven in peace and quiet, the examiner only spoke to give directions and ask me a few questions, so much less stressful than the lessons.

So my tip to anyone having problems passing their test would be have more lessons with an irritating qualified instructor, so you get used to driving in stressful situations!

tuftyclub

I failed 9 or 10 times and after a while the nerves just pilled up - even though I am not unconfident generally. For me what worked was :

residential course (not blackpool) I did one in llandudno.
automatic car.


The auto made all the difference.

tuftyclub

- instructor in the back might also help -as if fail - they can tell you exactly why - when if it is just you selective memory can kick in.

jscott05

Tell her to keep goin gnever give up and it will happen. I passed after 5 fails instructor was getting sick of me failing The difference on the one i passed was i got a good night sleep the night before and told myself all through the test that i could do it as i was a good enough driver. One year on and the joys of a car Petrol prices just bought new tyres and paid £115 yesterday for my six month road tax. They're not wrong when they say it life changing always thought that was meant in a good way. Tell her she knows she can do and there nothing to stop her.

Funkyfarmgirl

RichGold wrote: »

Tell her she's paying for the next test.

she pays for all her tests and all her driving this time which is difficult ona low wage we thought maybe that would help she so wants to pass its the nerves that take over.