Stupid Fool Divorce

Bogus123

I have just split up from my wife after being together for four years and married for 15 months, I'm pretty sure that through most of the relationship she has been unfaithful but decided to forgive her and try and work on things.
She would go away for days on end with no contact what so ever, her phone would always be off and i would sit worrying for the whole time until she would come home stinking of aftershave, hair and clothes a riot, being edgy towards myself. Her body langauge and behaviour would totally change and she wouldnt be able to look me in the
eyes. She has admitted that binge drinks and has also admitted adultery. I always gave her the benefit of the doubt and this pretty much happened throughout the 4 year relationship.
Last month i finally seen sense and told her it was over.
over. She accepted this very camly which made me doubt her feelings for me totally. I would like to get a divorce as quickly as possible and so does she. From what she's told me we have to be separated for a full year in able to do this. Is there any way at all that this can be done quickly on grounds of unreasonable behaviour and
adultery, or do i really have to stay sperated for a year. Any help or advice would be much appricated. I live in scotland if this is any help as i know the laws are different. We have no children and no financial ties, as i own my own flat which she origanlly moved into. Neither of us want anything from the other we just want a
clean break. Four years of lying cheating and binge drinking has left me on brink of despair.

debsue

http://www.adviceguide.org.uk/scotland/your_family/family_and_personal_issues_index_scotland/ending_a_marriage_scotland.htm#ending_a_marriage

scot88

Good advice from debsue. I don't think that who did what to whom matters much anymore..if there are no children and you are both agreeable to divorce.

Gloomendoom

DVardysShadow wrote: »

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VfM4meplse

What a sad story. It sounds as though she never took her wedding vows seriously.

I would personally just sit it out. A year isn't that long to wait, esp when you are busy re-building your life w/o her. Enjoy the freedom!

adamantine

if she agrees to the grounds being her adultery there is no need to wait for 1 year. 1 year only applied in scotland if both parties consent and its 2 years without the other parties consent with no grounds cited other than the separation of 1 or 2 years. in england its 2 years with consent and 5 without.

caeler

Alternatively you could petition for unreasonable behaviour (you don't have to cite adultery) and you can do that immediately. This is an excellent website, get yourself over here: http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Advice/

Don't rush yourself into the legals, get your head round the reality first. When your ready, make sure your get yourself a consent order, just to finalise everything, finances and get that clean break settlement.

Mupette

trip trap... must be cold and frosty under the bridge

DVardysShadow

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Don't quote the spam, moron.

Please yourself, live with the spam, moron.