Organise Your Own Leaving Do?

caramel_syrup

Hi all

Something has been bothering me and I thought I post it here as a light subject. Have you had to organise your own leaving do?

I'm leaving my current company next week and sadly, I had to organise my own leaving do. Apparently I was told by my team member that, "The Manager said that he is not responsible for organising the leaving do. In fact, the person who is leaving the company should organise it by herself."

I found that to be quite insulting and seems that they think I didn't deserve a nice, small leaving do after working with them for years. In fact I was told today, only when I had jokingly asked whether there is any leaving do organised for me in a funny way.

When the members of other teams left, their Manager or team members organised something for leaving do. I'm not talking about a proper ceremony, just a couple of drinks where everyone gets together to chat. Now I wondered if I need to get my own leaving card?

Not sure what the consensus would be on this topic, but would love to hear from all of you. All in all I'm glad to be leaving as I no longer enjoy working there due to constant pressure from every direction.

Ta muchly x

Googlewhacker

If you are not bothered to be working there then why should they be bothered to organise you a leaving do?

If they can't be bothered then it is upto you whether you want to having leaving drinks, if not don't organise it.

scheming_gypsy

Most people organise their own as it's their night. It's not a party or a work event but it's YOUR leaving do where you say goodbye to work colleagues.

hcb42

it will vary enormously from company to company and what "leaving do" means.

If it is a few drinks after work, I would think organising your own is very common, if it is drinkies and speeches in the office, then often this would be done by someone else - I would think!

misspoppy

I don't think anyone would expect you to send your own envelope around collecting for your leaving present and the card for your mates to sign but I do think you should organise your own do out of work hours

bap98189

How much organising does going for dinner or for a few drinks down the pub require? Most places I've worked, any sort of leaving do has been organised by the person leaving, usually all it takes is to pick a time and a place and let people know.

arbroath_lass

Always been organised by the leaver no matter where I worked. Any kind of presentation was, of course, organised by the employer but drinks/meal/nibbles after work you do yourself.

[Deleted User]

Hi,

just say the the folks that you got on well with, gonna have a wee drink at ? when I finish on Friday? come on along for the craic.

If they want to come they come.

Fluffi

Personally I think that if a leaver wants a leaving do then they should organise it themselves, your "thank you" from the company for your work is your renumeration - the company and your manager don't owe you any more than that.

I've always organised my own leaving dos, which are hardly much effort to organise beyond picking a date, booking some space in a bar and/or tables for dinner and sending out an email/appointment invite. The most effort I've ever had to go to is paying a deposit to get a reserved area in a bar. If your colleagues are sorry you are leaving then they'll probably suggest venues and suitable times if you're really stuck for ideas.

I can just imagine a whole can of worms if managers were expected to organise leaving dos. You'd get people complaining that favourite person X got a "better" leaving do than Y which would be a complete nightmare for managers. As if most managers don't have enough to worry about. Also its would be a bit awkward for the manager if a person was leaving for poor performance (and by that I don't mean fired - just told they weren't doing well enough) or because they were upset about not getting a promotion etc.

My old company always had leaving cards for people (I think they ordered them in bulk to save costs!) which was fine, but I never expected a present from any of my jobs and I wouldn't have been insulted if there was no present from my colleagues (although this has never happened to me). I have always thought that if I've resigned (presumably to do something else I want to do that'll make me happier) then why should people buy me a present - after all its not like I need cheering up is it?

LadyMissA

I was made redundant and no leaving do for me. Some people didn't even say good luck, but I expected nothing less than that.

If you hate the job that much I wouldn't worry about a leaving do, just leave.

surreysaver

Everyone always organises their own, surely? What would happen if your employer organised one and you didn't want one - or people you didn't like came along?