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Samsaragirl
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Not sure where I belong anymore, not on the chikd suport board, bu that is what he was diodging
Thought I was going mad, and at least now have some closure. Ex had earned high amounts all the 23 years we were married, as an IT contractor.
Just before the FDR hearing he 'lost, his contract. Was always earning around 70k net.
Still as company secretary have been asking to sign returns for y/e 2011. Turnover 89k, directors renumeration 69k, shareholder funds 13k as ever.
I am a joint shareholder. At what point can the 13k be released? Am I right in thinking that this an amount of money 'rolled over' in the company each year now, and 'distributed' at the discretion of the director, which it always used to be at the end of each tax year, and could that be any consideration if I take him back to court?
I was told by him that he was not earning much anymore. The 20k difference between turnover and director salary is solely down to his expenses in luxury hotels, and flights here there and everwhere.
Meanwhile I am on IS, CTB, CA, and keeping DD who has maximum student grants as living at home whilst studying, with a parent who ia a low earner. If he had not been so mean, then I would only of claimed CA, but only realised I could claim that a year or so ago, even though been caring sinceearly 2006, a year before separation.
How do I close the gap of disparity, or at least get him to pay more.
I already have an appointment with a new legal aid solicitor this coming friday, but surely something is wrong here.
He continued paying what he had managed to set at a low level, increased when I went to the CSA last year, of 730 per month, as he knows this just covers the bills, and hestill has me in his control, wherebyI am still provider (cooker, cleaner, dogsbody) for our daughter, and she has somewhere to live whilst studying. I also drive her there most days (20 quid a week diesel), as the uni have a no permit policy for anyone living under 1 1/2hours away, in halls, or a parent!!!!
She has a car , paid for by Dad, which just sits here most weeks, as she studies and loves being here with me. Oh well, she will have 2 yrs no claims soon :-)
He is taking home nealy 4 grand a month, paying me 700, as he as agreed to keep paying that so it just covers the bills of the house he still thinks he has the right to!!
I buy all his food, he does nothing but sleep at his Dad's , has no expenses there.
The nearest I ever got to him pleading was about an hour ago when he knew he was wrong, he really did not want me to set eyes on those accounts, but had no choice as I had to sign them. I told him he is not going to get me down anymore, as he knows what other things with my caring responsibilities I have on my plate.
Am ready for the usual people who are nasty to me, but could anyone with insight into this particular situation, now that I have the facts, please help???
I'm after proper constructive advice please, about the disparity, and (sorry not sure if I mentioned this), but the fact that I have joint lives maintenance, but he only ever paid me 65 quid a week . Thanks in advance to those who can offer iadvice.
Much appreciated.
Please help.
68 views and no replies kiss, kiss ,kiss
Thought I was going mad, and at least now have some closure. Ex had earned high amounts all the 23 years we were married, as an IT contractor.
Just before the FDR hearing he 'lost, his contract. Was always earning around 70k net.
Still as company secretary have been asking to sign returns for y/e 2011. Turnover 89k, directors renumeration 69k, shareholder funds 13k as ever.
I am a joint shareholder. At what point can the 13k be released? Am I right in thinking that this an amount of money 'rolled over' in the company each year now, and 'distributed' at the discretion of the director, which it always used to be at the end of each tax year, and could that be any consideration if I take him back to court?
I was told by him that he was not earning much anymore. The 20k difference between turnover and director salary is solely down to his expenses in luxury hotels, and flights here there and everwhere.
Meanwhile I am on IS, CTB, CA, and keeping DD who has maximum student grants as living at home whilst studying, with a parent who ia a low earner. If he had not been so mean, then I would only of claimed CA, but only realised I could claim that a year or so ago, even though been caring sinceearly 2006, a year before separation.
How do I close the gap of disparity, or at least get him to pay more.
I already have an appointment with a new legal aid solicitor this coming friday, but surely something is wrong here.
He continued paying what he had managed to set at a low level, increased when I went to the CSA last year, of 730 per month, as he knows this just covers the bills, and hestill has me in his control, wherebyI am still provider (cooker, cleaner, dogsbody) for our daughter, and she has somewhere to live whilst studying. I also drive her there most days (20 quid a week diesel), as the uni have a no permit policy for anyone living under 1 1/2hours away, in halls, or a parent!!!!
She has a car , paid for by Dad, which just sits here most weeks, as she studies and loves being here with me. Oh well, she will have 2 yrs no claims soon :-)
He is taking home nealy 4 grand a month, paying me 700, as he as agreed to keep paying that so it just covers the bills of the house he still thinks he has the right to!!
I buy all his food, he does nothing but sleep at his Dad's , has no expenses there.
The nearest I ever got to him pleading was about an hour ago when he knew he was wrong, he really did not want me to set eyes on those accounts, but had no choice as I had to sign them. I told him he is not going to get me down anymore, as he knows what other things with my caring responsibilities I have on my plate.
Am ready for the usual people who are nasty to me, but could anyone with insight into this particular situation, now that I have the facts, please help???
I'm after proper constructive advice please, about the disparity, and (sorry not sure if I mentioned this), but the fact that I have joint lives maintenance, but he only ever paid me 65 quid a week . Thanks in advance to those who can offer iadvice.
Much appreciated.
Please help.
68 views and no replies kiss, kiss ,kiss
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Samsaragirl wrote: »68 views and no replies kiss, kiss ,kiss
Views: 50 as of 05:55am, no idea where you got the other 18 from. Maybe the old vino had a helping hand last night.I made a mistake once, believeing people on the internet were my virtual friends. It won't be a mistake that I make again!0 -
If your daughter has maximum student funding you shouldn't be keeping her, she should be paying you for her keep out of this. I also cannot understand why you drive her to university every day when she has a car available to her.
Why not tackle what's within your control first?0
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