Gift from "Friend" turned into a loan

Balmore2011

McKneff wrote: »

on the other hand I feel that he owed me this money,

This bit was within your post. He didnt owe you this money because there was never an agreement for him to pay you back for all the 'help' (your word)
you gave him.

So you see you are both as bad as one another and in exactly the same position.

Personally, I would just tell him to do one to be honest

I should have added in my post that whenever I spent any money on him that he always said 'I'll pay you back when I get the chance/money.'

Mojisola

Balmore2011 wrote: »

I can definitely prove that the stuff he has of mine is my property. I have receipts, I have lots of pictures of me using the stuff, I have notes of serial numbers and I had registered the stuff on Immobilise/MEND. I've effectively given up any chance of getting this stuff back anyway.

I think this is wise because, although you can prove you bought and used the items, you can't prove that you didn't give them to him at some point.

dancingfairy

O.k so
1) you paid for him for things at uni?
2) he given you 1000 as payment
3) he has 500 worth of your stuff and
4) furthermore you have paid 350 of his debts for him? :j

I would keep all the emails / texts / letters he is sending you in case you need them.
I think you either need to go to court to get your stuff back and he would have to counter claim against the 1000 (which lets face it will cost you both money in court fees) or write it off and forget all about him let him take you to court if he wants (at which point you can counter claim about your possessions).
Oh and stop paying his debts for him - he sounds horrible.
At the moment it sounds like you have had 1000 pounds and he has got 500 pounds worth of stuff (that probably isn't worth that much anymore and 350 of debt repayments). Looked at like that you've lost the money you spend paying for things over the years and are 150 pounds up.
What do you think will be the best conclusion to this? do you want the stuff back but maybe have to repay the 1000 pounds (depending on what proof of whether it was a gift or loan) but have to go through court etc or would you be happy to walk away?
df

Decluttering

Before you push the letter back through his door, it might be worth taking a copy of it or something to prove that he has sent it to you. I agree with the above advice to speak to the police about harrassment. You might have helped him out when you were friends but this isn't your debt and it isn't your problem. If it were me I'd forget the stuff he has, stop the payments and leave him to deal with his own debt. It's not your problem.

Good luck, i hope this gets sorted for you.

e4rub

Tell him to sod off xx