Lone Parent working 16hr wishing to stop work can I claim benefit?

ali-t

Fiver29 wrote: »

Sigh, there is no age stated in law for leaving a child.

While that is correct, the poster your responded to was correct in her suspicion that the parent will be held responsible if anything happens to the child. It is a calculated risk that some choose to take and others choose not to.

Fiver29

ali-t wrote: »

While that is correct, the poster your responded to was correct in her suspicion that the parent will be held responsible if anything happens to the child. It is a calculated risk that some choose to take and others choose not to.

And?.......

melly1980

t0rt0ise wrote: »

It wasn't at all constructive. It was a rant about how other people live and work and how the OP ought to be the same.

People are all different and have differing priorities. That's all.

Ive posted this once but will post it again. This is what Fbaby ACTUALLY wrote

wrote:

Originally Posted by FBaby
You only work 16 hours and struggle everything? There is then something wrong with your organisation skills. Many single mums manage to care for 2 young children and still work full-time. It is hard, but considering going onto benefits rather than trying to find ways to be more organised is drastic. Yes, people will come and tell you that the government supports you getting benefits because you have young kids, so you will hear what you want to hear, but try to think long term. As time goes by, things will get easier with your children. If you continue to work, you are building your experience and making your CV look more attractive. It might mean that in a few years time, when your youngest is ready for school, you might be earning more and your employer might be more prepared to consider flexible working hours. The alternative of going on benefits might sound great, but in 4 years time, you will have to be looking for work, with a CV with a 4 years gap and not the same level of experience. You will struggle a lot more to get a decent job.

Don't fall for that trap of an easy life on benefits, if you need help, ask for it, both to get a break and learn tricks to make your life as a single working mum easier..

There are several bits in bold there that are either encouragement or advice. It is there in black and white, plain as day so why you can not see it or deny that it is there is anyone guess. You have chosen to ignore 85% of the post just so that you can critisise the first line.

ali-t

Fiver29 wrote: »

And?.......

And, your post that started with 'sigh' came across as patronising and rude but the poster you responded to had made a good point. That is why I replied.

FBaby

nje24 wrote: »

I think its up to the op what she chooses to do for her family. I personally would not leave a 11year old on their own and by law I doubt you are legally able to. If something went wrong would suspect the parent would be liable.

Whose parenting your kids thats a question evryone should ask. I am a single educated mother and personally I find it a nightmare juggling 3 children and childcare. Why cant she take a few years out maybe doing ou or something and raise her own kids.

Can we leave the issue of my DD aside? Yes, it is legal, and if something went wrong, I would be liable just like I would be for a 13, or 14 year old who has an accident. I am leave my DD alone because she copes with it brilliantly. I told her school tutor about it and she didn't beat an eyelid, can we move on....

Yes, juggling childcare is a nightmare, but it is for any more working, single or not. The dad is not always able to help just like fathers of children who live with their mum can't always help. This doesn't mean that anyone with children should receive an income to stay at home and enjoy seeing their children grow up. That would be wonderful in a perfect world, but that's not ours.

Fiver29

ali-t wrote: »

And, your post that started with 'sigh' came across as patronising and rude but the poster you responded to had made a good point. That is why I replied.

Because since the McUnmentionables left their child to go out on a jolly, the legalities of the situation and ages that children can be left have been done to death and beyond, on forums, on social networking, in the media. It amazes me that there's a single person left in this country that doesn't know.

FBaby

ali-t wrote: »

While that is correct, the poster your responded to was correct in her suspicion that the parent will be held responsible if anything happens to the child. It is a calculated risk that some choose to take and others choose not to.

That is totally incorrect. You would only be prosecuted if the child was at particular risk and yet knowing that risk I allowed my child to be left under threat of something happening. Say my DD had an obsession with fire, had previously caused one, then yes, I could be prosecuted. If my DD were to fall down the stairs because she ran too quickly and broke her leg, that wouldn't mean I would end up in jail because I left her on my own. How sad that so many people are thinking that a 12 yo is too young to be left on their own for a couple of hours.... and then we wonder why the new generation is becoming one full of assisted people...

nikinackyloo

melly1980 wrote: »

while that may be true you still ranted at someone who only gave you constructive advice. It may not have answered your post, but there was nothing wrong with what was said.

I didnt ask for constructive advice I asked if I would be entitled to claim benefit !

nikinackyloo

Zagfles, thank you so much for answering my post

Lady_gaga

nikinackyloo wrote: »

I didnt ask for constructive advice I asked if I would be entitled to claim benefit !

your on an open forum and you will get peoples opinions regardless of wether or not you want them

If you have children under 7 then yes you will be able to claim IS, I think all people were trying to say is that you need to think of the long term implications, it might seem like a good idea just now (wrong terminology I know) but living on benefits is hard and sacrafices have to be made, and when your ready to go back to work will you be able to find a job in the field you wish?

another thought is, do you have any debt just now? or tied to any contracts? sky/phone/broadband etc, can you still service those while on income support?