stupid prat of a boyfriend

spud30

southernscouser wrote:

Of course I do! You're female!

I'm not really [STRIKE]this[/STRIKE] vain!

No, you're much worse :rotfl:

ms_london

southernscouser wrote:

You should be baby! I don't go offering it to many ladies! :undecided

Ahem, yeah you do! :rolleyes:

Saintly - I am sorry to hear about your boyf, he certainly isnt making things easy for you. Have a chat with him and see what he says, if he isnt doing it in a malicious way, and genuinely just not thinking, he'll probably buck up his ideas. But otherwise, could I suggest you try and keep your finances separate? Its a bit worrying that he decides just not to pay his loan (although I used to do this, ooops! Reformed character honest! ) - so I think perhaps he needs his lightbulb moment too!!

I am sure he just isnt thinking (like most men ) but if its the start of something more serious, dump him. I know, I know, its not that simple, but dont let him ruin your chances of being debt free and happy!!

Good luck (and stay away from SS, he's trouble that one!!) xx

climbgirl

Hmmm this is ringing some bells with my situation too! A little different in that I'm not in debt, but he is constantly asking for me to cover things saying 'he'll pay me back'. But then it takes so long for him to pay me back I end up writing it off, or feeling guilty making him pay me when he doesn't have much money and I'm quite ok moneywise.

So I've just started saying no. Pretty simple really! Apart from the very rare occasion, if he hasn't got the cash to pay me back in the next day or two then I won't cover him. We've talked about why and he's quite cool with it, neither of us wanted to get to the point where I was resenting him for it.

So I'd cut him off if I was you and tell him why you're doing it!

misspoppy

Next time you go anywhere, tell him you need to stop for cash before you set out that way he can withdraw his share too!

betti911

I was in the very same sort of situation with my boyfriend last year. We had a joint gym membership at £69 a month coming out of my account. He was supposed to pay me his share and never did. I asked him a few times to set up a direct debt and he said he would be didn't bother. I earn more than him so I felt guilty asking him for the money despite the fact he is in no debt.

Eventually I bit the bullet and told him exactly how miserable the whole situation was making me and how much debt I was in. He felt really bad and said he didn't know. Now I have been trying to be careful with my money and he's been helping me.

My advice would be to def tell him how annoyed this is making you. If he really wants your relationship to work then he will listen to you.