How times have changed! (Edited)

shellsuit

I had a handmade horseshoe given to me when I came outside after we'd got married last year, it's hanging up in my hall as it's so pretty

Favours were definitely around in the 70s/80s as I was a bridesmaid and guest (with my parents of course!) in both decades and both weddings had them.

SaLoGo

Luckyred wrote: »

Just thought I would take a light hearted look at how times have changed regarding weddings. Perhaps others would like to join in.
When I got married the first time my parents paid for the wedding... thats how it was done in the dim and distant past. They compiled the guest list too although I had some input. The reason being was that it was theirs to do as they were giving their daughter away if you see what I mean.
As for living together before the wedding.... perish the thought! My parents would have been horrified.
I think some things have changed for the better but not all. I think living together first is a good thing. I wish we had lived together first because I would not have ended up marrying him because we got divorced.
I too married someone without living together first then ended up getting divorced! This was only 9 years ago, but he was in the Army based in Germany so it wasn't through choice!

The wedding breakfast was known as the reception where as nowadays I have noticed that some people refer to the evening "do" as the reception.
I call our sit down meal the reception and the disco after the 'do'

We didnt have to go to the venue to decorate the tables etc, it was included. I had never heard of anyone doing this until I read it on here.
Our tables are being decorated for us. Don't want to have to do anything myself!

Wedding favours didnt exist as far as I know.
Bridesmaids, ushers etc never had to contribute to their outfits.
We're buying the bridesmaid dresses and are hiring the suits and we're not asking for any contributions

Buttonholes were provided for the wedding party plus close relatives including grandparents. Other guests would buy their own if the chose to have one. I have read posts on here where brides were angry about this.....ridiculous!
We're buying button holes for our parents, siblings, aunties and uncles. (sadly, we won't have any grandparents there)

As for asking for money... no way. You got what you were given and were grateful for anything.
I agree, I don't like asking for money or doing gift lists (just my personal opinion)

I never knew anyone who didnt wear a veil though I do thing they can look a bit old fashioned now.
I am wearing a veil, but it won't be over my face. Was yours?

I still have my horseshoes, rolling pins etc that were given to me as I came out of church. Do brides still get presented with these? I havent noticed any in any photos in the last few years.
Guests brought their own confetti and it was always those little coloured paper pieces. I must admit I like the idea thay I saw on here this morning of a flowergirl with a basket of dried roses for people to take a handful...lovely idea.
We didnt have make up done, you did your own though I did have my hair done at the salon. I never heard of a stylist going to someones home.
I did my own hair and make up at my 1st wedding and wasn't happy with it! I will be having someone coming to the house to do it!

No save the date cards. I still have never had one of these prior to an invite.
No Vistaprint..... invitations cost a fortune but they were beautiful.
Second wedding didnt cost a fraction of the first but it was the best... we have been happily married for many years. We did live together for a few months first though and I would advise anyone to do the same.

Not too many differences there and I was probably born after you were wed (79)

You have pretty much described how my mum's wedding was! She was telling me her reception (sit down meal) was only £52... if only it was that much now!!

Luckyred

SaLoGo... I did have a veil over my face. It was the done thing in those days, I didnt think anything of it at the time but IMO it seems old fashioned now ( thats what I meant about veils being old fashioned) Having said that... Kate Middleton had a veil over her face so maybe they are coming back into fashion.

shellsuit

I forgot to add, we didn't ask anyone for anything for a gift, and we had a buttonhole for everyone who came to the ceremony.

We didn't decorate tables either.

The only difference really, is that a LOT of couples live together before they get married nowadays, which as we all know, was frowned upon years ago.

Oh and the fashion!

I was a bridesmaid in the 80s, I wore a burgundy crushed velvet dress, which was edged around the bottom and neckline in white lace, and also wore a crushed velvet skull cap which had lace going around it too. It was AWFUL looking back now lol!

My Mum and Dad got married in 1975 and my Mum wore a lovely plain cream suit

Luckyred

Shellsuit.... you have really made me laugh. The dress was probably lovely at the time but fashions change so we can laugh at things that seemed fine on the day. It was the skull cap that really set me off though! :rotfl:

shellsuit

Luckyred wrote: »

Shellsuit.... you have really made me laugh. The dress was probably lovely at the time but fashions change so we can laugh at things that seemed fine on the day. It was the skull cap that really set me off though! :rotfl:

I'll have to dig a pic out and post it, it was bloody horrendous!

I thought I was the bees knees at the time of course and it was a big white wedding, then again it was the 80s and we all know what the fashion was like then! :eek::D

74jax

shellsuit wrote: »

I'll have to dig a pic out and post it, it was bloody horrendous!

I thought I was the bees knees at the time of course and it was a big white wedding, then again it was the 80s and we all know what the fashion was like then! :eek::D

I was a bridesmaid in the early 80s and I was put in a mint green dress calf length with a hoop and puff sleeves. I looked like one of those soft mints. We all had matching emerald green necklaces too. I had white shoes and pristine white ankle socks with lace round the top.

I had my hair in rags which were cut out the next day and made my hair 3 times the size it normally was............... I thought I was a princess :rotfl:

Torry_Quine

Luckyred wrote: »

Just thought I would take a light hearted look at how times have changed regarding weddings. Perhaps others would like to join in.
When I got married the first time my parents paid for the wedding... thats how it was done in the dim and distant past. They compiled the guest list too although I had some input. The reason being was that it was theirs to do as they were giving their daughter away if you see what I mean.
As for living together before the wedding.... perish the thought! My parents would have been horrified.
I think some things have changed for the better but not all. I think living together first is a good thing. I wish we had lived together first because I would not have ended up marrying him because we got divorced.
I don't agree that living together before marriage is a good thing.


The wedding breakfast was known as the reception where as nowadays I have noticed that some people refer to the evening "do" as the reception.
The meal was the reception and the evening was the evening reception

We didnt have to go to the venue to decorate the tables etc, it was included. I had never heard of anyone doing this until I read it on here.
I agree that's new to me


Wedding favours didnt exist as far as I know.
Me too

Bridesmaids, ushers etc never had to contribute to their outfits.
Buttonholes were provided for the wedding party plus close relatives including grandparents. Other guests would buy their own if the chose to have one. I have read posts on here where brides were angry about this.....ridiculous!
Bridesmaid ought her own dress and kept it.
Can't remember about button-holes

As for asking for money... no way. You got what you were given and were grateful for anything.
Absolutely agree here.

I never knew anyone who didnt wear a veil though I do thing they can look a bit old fashioned now.
I had a veil, notice though when worn now they are lifted up too early in ceremony.

I still have my horseshoes, rolling pins etc that were given to me as I came out of church. Do brides still get presented with these? I havent noticed any in any photos in the last few years.
Still have my horseshoe.

Guests brought their own confetti and it was always those little coloured paper pieces. I must admit I like the idea thay I saw on here this morning of a flowergirl with a basket of dried roses for people to take a handful...lovely idea.
Guests took own confetti

We didnt have make up done, you did your own though I did have my hair done at the salon. I never heard of a stylist going to someones home.
Had my hair done at local hairdresser

No save the date cards. I still have never had one of these prior to an invite.
Me neither

No Vistaprint..... invitations cost a fortune but they were beautiful.
Second wedding didnt cost a fraction of the first but it was the best... we have been happily married for many years. We did live together for a few months first though and I would advise anyone to do the same.

Very similar to you.

JBD

I was married in 1987.
In those days there were no 'wedding venues', you either got married in a Church or registry office. We had to be married in a rgistry office as it was my husband's 2 nd marriage. I preferred it anyway as I am not religious. It was very nice but we could only have 35 guests.
I didn't walk down the aisle. We waited in the waiting room with our guests then walked into together. Again I preferred that, as I don't like being the centre of attention.
Reception was a buffet in our flat [yes we were living together at the time,still a little bit unusual then]. The evening do was in a social club. We paid for the bar. We paid for everything apart from my dress, all money we saved hard for, no credit cards or bank loans which were quite hard to come by in those days.
My dress was 3/4 length, it wasn't really the 'done thing' to have a big long dress in a registry office, although I don't really like that sort of thing anyway. I didn't have a veil either, and wouldn't have one today either. I just don't like them.
Oh and regarding buttonholes, we made them ourselves for all our registry office guests. I have to be truthful and say they were very amateurish though, I'm not very crafty.
Our wedding cake was one of those big white things with silver horseshoes and hard royal icing. I have to say, I much prefer modern wedding cakes.

shellsuit

74jax wrote: »

I was a bridesmaid in the early 80s and I was put in a mint green dress calf length with a hoop and puff sleeves. I looked like one of those soft mints. We all had matching emerald green necklaces too. I had white shoes and pristine white ankle socks with lace round the top.

I had my hair in rags which were cut out the next day and made my hair 3 times the size it normally was............... I thought I was a princess :rotfl:

Hahaha, it sounds wonderful!! :cool: :rotfl::rotfl: