Noisy Neighbour...help!!

jojo_2012_2

I think it might take you going round there looking a bit pregnant and hormonal to give him a telling off. Other than that maybe buy him some cordless headphones for christmas, and maybe a CD of better music.

sunshine_1988

Wow, thanks for all your replies

I'd rather not get the authorities involved as I just dont want to cause rifts between us. My partner said he seems like a sound guy so I am hoping he just doesnt know what the limit is. Its very bassy, I think it may help if he just turned that off.

I do worry about when I saw the police there not long ago, I hope that there wasnt a fight between him and his ex, I dont want to anger him if he has a short fuse?!

Its getting me down a bit as when its not on, I feel like going round just to say thank you!!! We are also looking at other houses, detached, when we dont really want to move for another 2 years, and cant really afford to.

I'm hoping he goes back to the army soon, ideally he would put it up for sale but I cant see it happening as he would have no where to go when he comes back

He does seem like a nice guy, he is always working on the house, doing the rooms up and the bathroom etc, so he obviously has pride in the house and doesnt treat it like a dump, if you see what I mean.

I'll see how he goes for the next few days, weekends seem to be worse, if nothing improves I will have to toughen up and face him myself

Thanks guys x

meritaten

Look hun - he sounds like a really decent bloke - he just likes to de-stress by playing his music loud. Believe me I KNOW how annoying that can be, so I am sympathetic to you. I suggest getting to know him a bit better, invite him round for a drink or even a nice meal!
He may be lonely and the loud music is company for him! imagine being in an empty house when he is used to being with fellow soldiers 24/7, and he had a girlfriend before to come home to! he may also have done tours in the trouble spots and has a bit of PTSD.
If you become more friendly he may be more inclined to be considerate of YOUR feelings when he knows you.
you could also work out how to let him know its not an appropriate time for music when you are more friendly and relaxed with him - and it may stress you out less if you know when he is going back - how long his 'tour' is going to last etc - which can be found out during a friendly drink or meal!

jaqui59

Have you considered Acoustic Plasterboard on all party walls.

My son plays his piano in his bedroom, and we decided to put some of this stuff up because we didn't want to upset our neighbours.

Anyway, when my neighbours went on holiday, they asked me whether I would mind going in to feed their cat, which I did, and one day, whilst I was in there, I told my son to play his piano quite loud, and I was pleased to say that I could hardly hear it.

You can also get soundproofing underlay for the floor.

melancholly

although i get that he's being nice about it and seems reasonable, how many times does he need telling that you can hear his loud music?! most people would learn from being told a few times that they're causing a problem - they wouldn't just do the same thing over and over again.

continue going round every single time and maybe tell him that this is happening often. he knows he plays it too loud and continues to do it...... so as much as i don't think going in and raising trouble with the council is going to be a good idea, don't tread on egg shells and accommodate him. say that you've had to ask x many times before to turn it down to remind him that this really is bothering you repeatedly.

sunshine_1988

meritaten wrote: »

Look hun - he sounds like a really decent bloke - he just likes to de-stress by playing his music loud. Believe me I KNOW how annoying that can be, so I am sympathetic to you. I suggest getting to know him a bit better, invite him round for a drink or even a nice meal!
He may be lonely and the loud music is company for him! imagine being in an empty house when he is used to being with fellow soldiers 24/7, and he had a girlfriend before to come home to! he may also have done tours in the trouble spots and has a bit of PTSD.
If you become more friendly he may be more inclined to be considerate of YOUR feelings when he knows you.
you could also work out how to let him know its not an appropriate time for music when you are more friendly and relaxed with him - and it may stress you out less if you know when he is going back - how long his 'tour' is going to last etc - which can be found out during a friendly drink or meal!

Thank you. You make some really good points
I'm hoping we see him sometime soon, as my partner will have a friendly chat with him if we do, and we can ask him to pop round then maybe or just have a chat on the driveway. I might sent my partner out to wash the car this weekend

Its not been on for a couple of days *touches some wood quickly* so I am really hoping he is being considerate.

I hadnt thought of sound proofing the walls, if it isnt too pricey then I would be interested so I may look into that, thanks.

I'm such a worrier, this is the problem, I convince myself that people will end up kicking off or getting angry to the point where I just refuse to do things, even though 9 times out of 10 I am wrong and the situations end up being fine! x